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Hey there, I'm a 25 year old male -with a huge weight problem. I'm very insecure about my weight and have been for some time. I'm fairly confident in most other others in my life- job, car, friends, social life. I am pretty comfortable financially and i have a great group of friends and family. The one thing that has been shaking me for awhile now is my weight and the physical shape I am in. I have stretch marks and scars from my weight gain over the years and I really want them gone. I am starting to hear cracks in my bones as I walk from the mass placed on my joints. I have been dating my girlfriend for a few months now and we havent seen each other naked yet. I am worried what she will think.

I realize laser treatment is a possibility to remove stretch marks down the road and I have the money to pursue something like that. However, I am open to ideas on how to burn fat right now and find my motivation to get back into shape. I need to lose weight if I dont want serious problems down the road.

I am great at doing the talk, but I never get up and do the walk. I need a new lifestyle and it's hard putting down that junk food and working out.

please help with suggestions.

Long story short, I was the rebound guy. I took her on a few dates and had sex with her after date two. She got out of a two year relationship in the beginning of summer,and I rushed into courting her. Afterword, we talked about not rushing things. She is a nice girl, but it was bad timing for us. Fast forward a few weeks and she feeds me the usual BS that she wants time to explore being single, but still likes to talk to me. I get that, nothing good comes from being rushed. However, I am paying for my mistake. We barely have any lines of communication open and when I do try to reach out to her, all I get are short responses or a text a day later saying she was sooooo busy she didnt have time to respond. She generally seem uninterested in anything I do.

Its obvious to me that I was used for my d*ck and she got what she wanted and now shes off doing her thing. I am tired of not getting the respect I deserve with women and this time its the last f*cking straw. I am extremely pissed that I keep putting myself in situations where I dont get the respect i want. Even my bro said I am too nice and soft around women. He told me to get a thicker skin. All good points.

I just joined a new gym today and recently was offered a full time job. Things are looking up for sure. I want to learn from this experience but I defiantly want to grab her attention back and show her that she made a big mistake in taking me for granted. I may be the rebound guy, but I also believe that I might be the best thing she could ever have.

my friend is freaking out because he took a corporate urine test for his new job. He didnt snort the coke, but licked the plastic baggy it was in. This was his first time. he did it about 530 am on sunday and took the urine test about 2pm on wednesday. should he be worried? He is 5-7 and 200 pounds.

Some background information... She recently got out of a two year relationship at the beginning of summer. She has only been with two guys over a period of 5 years. She is 22 while I am 24. I was very quick to come onto her. I asked on her two dates rather fast. They were great, but I thought they were kinda rushed. She agrees.

Everything was going well until we had sex after the second date at her place. Since then, she has said that she was a little freaked out that we had sex so soon. Sex is a huge deal to her which is why she felt so weird that it happened so quick.

We haven't talked for over two weeks after she wanted some time to figure herself out and experience the single life for awhile. We both don't want to rush into anything, but I actually like her and enjoy having conversation and laughs with her. I realize there is no sense into rushing in anything.

Should I pursue her in a few weeks to see how things are? Or should I let her come to me when she's ready? We have a blast talking, but I worry that I should be doing something to keep me on her mind. I guess sex does change things ha.. Any advice? 10 points up for grabs

I don't get the respect I want, and I would like to see more success with the ladies. In fact I demand more respect. What hinders me is my self confidence. Its obvious at times that I am not quite sure of myself. I am about 30 pounds overweight living at home with the rents. I am 24 and since moved home after graduating college. I drive a piece of sh*t hand me down from my parents. However I have a good group of friends I can count on, but they have moved away. I am a nice guy, but that seems to get me no where. I always tell girls too fast how I feel about them and end up becoming some weird desperate version of myself.

10 points for the person who can give some me sort of direction or guidance on how to transform my self belief and attitude into that of an alpha male. I'm sick of getting turned away from girls.

I have a lot going for myself- college degree, my family, my friends and thankful to have a job in this economy. But I need help reaching my potential.....

I started this week to eat healthy and start running. I am backing of the girl I like when she told me she needs some time to figure herself out. I want to focus on getting fit and getting paid. Please help!

I've become more confident, but i still have a long ways to go. I am way too nice and move to fast in relationships. Please help. I want to stop being a wussy and take control of my life. Girls never respect me because I let them know right off the bat that I like them and ill always be an option to them. it sucks and it never gets me anywhere, not too mention i need to lose fat...

She got out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago and I was really quick to make my interest in her known. We have gone on two dates since and ended up sleeping together at the end of the second date. About 2 weeks have passed since we last saw each other. Since then, her texts have been short and not consistent. She claimed that she has been busy with everything going in her life etc.

I finally asked her about the situation and we talked about whats going on. She has been kinda freaked out that we had sex so soon and doesn't like to rush things. She said sex is a huge deal to her seeing as she has only been with a few guys in long relationships. She really likes talking to me but she doesn't want me to think that she moves that fast or wants that type of relationship at this point.

We have had a great time talking and laughing with one another on the dates, but its obvious she wants breathing room and time to figure herself out. I understand that since the last relationship she was in was rushed according to her. I defiantly respect that. Basically she hasn't had the chance to experience being single and enjoy her time with friends since summer is in full swing.

I came onto her at the wrong time but we both realized playing things slow is the best thing right now. Any advice or suggestions on how to approach her or proceed? I already told her I liked her but I don't want to rush anything. I don't want to screw this up so please help!

Long story short we are both in our early twenties. She recently got out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago. I was kinda quick to announce my interest in her and we have been on two dates since. We have had great conversation on the dates and honestly make each other laugh with ease. It has been a real joy getting to know her.

However, at the end of the second date we ended up sleeping together back at her place. Ever since that night, her texts and behaviour havent been consisetent. I finally asked her about the situation and she said she felt kinda weird that we hooked up so fast because sex is a huge thing to her. I didnt help matters either by acting a bit needy/desperate by my own standards.

Basically she said she really likes talking to me, but she just doesnt want me to think she "loves" that fast or wants to at this point. I respect that but I am still confused. I like talking to her and going out but it seems she fell of the face of the earth in regards to me. Since that date, we havent seen each other for 2 weeks. She has been blowing up facebookconstiently posting pictures of herself hanging with friends having a good time even though she said she is really busy with stuff. I know women like to test men for various reasons but am I wasting my time here?

She said she likes talking to me but seems aloof and hard to track down.I started to shorten my text replies and not acting as "warm" in texts. I refuse to play games and have recently gone no contact for a day now. I will not chase her since she already knows my feelings about her.

What is her deal?

Long story short, we went on a few dates and ended up hooking up after the second date. She was a little freaked out that it happened so soon, and still feels weird about it. I didn't realize that and continued to text and talk to her without really talking about the situation. After the hookup, she has been acting weird through texts ( not surprising) and has been consistently more busy lately (again, not surprising). Anyways, we finally talked last night and agreed that the best approach is to take things slow and not rush along. We both enjoy conversation with each other and share laughs with ease. However, she recently got out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago. While we both are in our early twenties, she said she doesn't want me to think she always "loves" that fast ,and I certainly respect that. I like her and I want to things to happen naturally. Any advice on how to proceed?

I have been talking to this girl for about a month now. We went on a couple dates and I honestly feel like myself around her. We can talk very easily with each other and there is no awkward pauses or silence. We can make each other laugh with ease. That is quite enjoyable. However, at the end of the second date we ended up back at her place and one thing led to another and we ending up having sex. The sex wasn't that great since it was the first sexual encounter for the both of us since our last relationships. She was recently out of a relationship a few months back and I certainly don't want to be a fling or rebound. The over these next few days, she hasn't been very consistent with her texts. I either get short replies or nothing at all etc. After the sex at her place, she said she was freaked out that we had sex since she never did that on a second date. Also, she kept saying she doesn't want me to think of her as a whore. I actually like this one, but its pretty clear that she is apprehensive about me and how she feels. I have been acting rather needy and came on too strong after our second date. I plan on sitting back and letting things happen on their own. I'm just worried too much happened already and I scared her off with my post sex neediness..

We have been talking for a bit now and recently went on our second date. We have a great connection talking and can make each other laugh pretty darn easily. However, one thing led to another and at the end of the second date we ended up sleeping together. The sex wasn't that great since it was the first time for both of us in awhile after our last relationships. She kept saying how she felt "dirty" and didn't want me to think of her as a slut. The next day she wasn't really "warm" in her texts and was pretty short in her replies for the most part. The only thing I can take away is after I went home after our evening she tagged me in a status saying our date was a success with a smile face. Should I be worried that she just isn't into me because of my performance or is she just a little freaked out that it happened so fast? I actually genuinely like this one..

I met this girl online who lives far from me. We saw each other once. We talked for 5 months. I made mistake after mistake over the course of this relationship. I wasn't a challenge and I was too easy. I acted too serious about things and had too high of expectations. I was too nice, especially in the hotel room when I visited her. I tried acting like a perfect gentlemen by basically asking permission to have sex with her. She lost all attraction towards me over the course of a month. I let 2 weeks go by before texting her again. While we weren't talking a new guy moved into the picture. Her texts she sends me are short. It is obvious she likes this new thing with the guy. I think she moved on rather quick. However I told her I realized all my mistakes and deep down she knows I am a good guy. I am just now starting to gain confidence and getting back into physical shape. It's possible she was never attracted to me to begin with due to me being too nice and overweight. What advice does everyone have about getting her attention back onto me? I guess she is going to a concert with him over her school break. She seems gone for good. I like her a lot but I don't know what to do from here. Do I wait out her new relationship? I am in a good position because I only can go up from here and make self improvements. She has not seen me at my best. I am looking for positive advice.

We used to talk for 5 months. We had an online relationship, seeing each other once due to distance. She is working at a summer camp right now. We can't see each other this summer due to distance and different schedules. I made huge mistakes by being too nice and not a challenge. Long story short we stopped talking because I started acting too serious. I had too high of expectations which turned her off. I recently started texting her again. However, there is a new guy in her life since we stopped talking. I like her a Sh*t ton and won't settle for being just friendly with her. I am just starting to gain new found confidence and getting into shape. I want to transform into a new me. I want to be the man that she never saw before. How do I approach this girl even when a new guy has her attention? I am not going to settle for second place. I was the typical nice guy who always finished last. Not this time. Advice?

I was texting this girl and asked her if she was feeling better. she is at summer camp as a counselor. she said she was feeling good because she can do backsprings now and survived a stroke. i texted her back as a joke saying, "when you breakdance to a justin beiber song on the moon then we can talk". she texted back saying "ok". i then sent a text saying i was kidding and im glad she is feeling better. she didnt answer right away so i texted her agian asking what the best part of her day was. still no answer so i freaked out and sent a text saying im sorry i made a bad joke and i was curious as to how her day went. it is very possible she is busy doing something at camp but i am worried i pissed her off and pushed her away. advice on what to do from here? i like her a lot but i made a bad joke.

A long time ago my doctor said I would be a late bloomer. I am a male 23 year old. I was always slower to develop than my peers. I am very short at 5-6. I just started to get facial hair this past year. My penis has not changed size for as long as I can remember. My muscle mass has not significantly grown since I went through puberty. I am a young adult stuck in what seems like a kids body. What's going on with my body?

We met online back in January. We talked for 5 months. I am 23 and she is 20. She still has 2 years left of college. She also lives 3.5 hours away when she is at school. I made every major mistake in the book. I wasn't a challenge, I was too predictable. Finally one day I acted too serious about things which turned her off and pushed her away. I let 2 weeks past before contacting her again. We then talked for 4 days until she ignored me again. I kept using the wrong approach and now I finally "get it". I had too high of expectations. I pushed for things to happen between us. I am worried she is gone for good. She knows I am a great guy but I made common dating mistakes. When she ignored me I acted insecure and pathetic. I feel hopeless. I sent her a text a few days ago saying I will contact her down the road with some things I want to say. I want a lot of time and space with no contact from each other. I want to get back into shape. I want to build self confidence. I want to be a new man when I contact her again. Advice on what I should do going forward? I WILL NOT CHASE HER. I hear the best way to get someone back is to move on and act like you are perfectly fine. She means a lot to me. Help.

I met this girl online 6 months ago and we talked steadily for a solid 5 months. I made the mistake of being too available and very predictable. I wasn't a challenge. But that isn't the problem i am dealing with her. One day I acted a bit too serious about our online relationship and that pushed her away and made her ignore me for 2 weeks. She was totally turned off. After those 2 weeks I texted her again and we talked for 4 days. Over the course of those 4 days our conversations became shorter and shorter. Her replys became shorter and more "distant". She finally ignored me again. That was a week and a half ago. A few days ago I texted her again saying I would like to speak to her at some point down the road. I told her I have some things I want to say. I mentioned that I learned a lot about what I did wrong and the bad approach I took with her. I wished her a happy summer and left it at that. I didn't expect her to respond to the text and she didn't. But what is weird is an hour after I sent the text she changed her facebook profile picture so that my sweatshirt I gave her is showing the picture. I am looking for positive signs right now but I don't want to chase her. Is there a reason she chose to make that as her picture? She has a ton of pictures to choose from so it is weird timing that she chose the sweatshirt picture. I know she realizes I am a good guy but I made mistakes and had too high of expectations. Advice? I like her a lot and I genuinely care about her.

Long story short I have been talking to this girl for 5 solid months. We used to talk every single day. I made a mistake by acting too serious about things one day and that turned her off and pushed her away. She ignored my texts for 2 weeks. After the 2 weeks were over I told her what mistakes I made and that I realized I pushed her away. I told her I was going to take a different approach going forward. We started to talk again for 4 days. However after each day has passed the conversations became shorter and shorter. She acted "distant" again. 2 weeks went by again without hearing a word from her. A few days ago I texted her again saying I have some things I want to say but I will not chase her and I will be in touch with her at some point down the road. I told her to enjoy her summer. She didn't respond to that text and I didn't expect her too. About an hour after I sent the text I go on her facebook and I see that she changed her profile picture so that my sweatshirt I gave her is in the profile picture. Why is that? She has a lot of profile pictures to choose from so why after all this time did she decide to pick a picture with my sweatshirt in it? I am looking for positive signs right now but I don't want to assume anything. I am trying to move on by meeting other people because that is the right thing to do right now. Is she trying to say something by putting up that profile picture?

i met this girl online 6 months ago. we talked everyday until i tried to make things too serious. that pushed her away and she ignored me for 2 weeks. finally we started talking again for a few days after a while but then she went back to ignoring me. she lost respect for me because i didnt respect myself. i was way to easy for her. i was the typical "nice guy". i just sent her a text saying i learned a lot about things and realized some mistakes i made that pushed her away. i said i would contact her at some point down the road. i like her a lot but i will not chase her. i go on her facebook tonight a little while after i texted her and i see that she changed her profile picture so that my sweatshirt i gave her is in the profile picture. she could be playing with my head or something else. obviously i am looking for positive signs right now. but i don't want to assume anything and get my hopes up. i am trying to move on by seeing other girls because i think that is what i should be doing right now. thoughts?