Aleks

I ve been trying to get back into dating and boy has it been rough. I had 5 separate girls agree to go on a date with me, and each one of them found a way to vanish off the face of the earth.

A girl who works in my building said she d grab coffee with me on the weekend. Said she d let me know when would work for her. Then just never got back to me.

A girl from tinder hit it off really well with me, gaveme her number, chatted for a day or two and agreed to grab a coffee and skate. Texted me the day before, then just vanished.

Same thing with 3 others. All said they d love to grab a coffee and skate, then each one just stopped texting me. I don t think I scared them off, because I was really careful what I said after.

I just want someone to give me a chance...

I hate my masters so much. Medical science research, stepping stone to medical school, but holy hell is it miserable.

Every day I come into work and hate my life. Its a lot of hard work, for something that I not only do not enjoy, but actively makes me miserable. Every fibre of my being wants to quit, to leave it in my rearview mirror and never think about it ever again. But if I did that I would compromise my chances at medical school. I don't know what to do. I don't think I can make it another 8 months. I hate it so much.

Met an amazing girl with a lot of shared passions, similar academic aspirations, and just an amazing body. I want to go on a date with her.

Got her number, texted her before christmas break (we're in university), she said she'd love to grab coffee and maybe go skating but we couldn't find a time that worked until after the holiday. We texted each other a little over the break, she wished me a fantastic day on christmas etc. but when I got back, she didn't respond.

Then over a day later, she responded to my "Hey! I'm back :)" with "Yay!! How was your trip?"

I said "Great! Its always nice to see the family :) How were your holidays?"

And then nothing for 4 days now...

I don't want to seem overzealous, and this girl seems really amazing, but it seems like she's really bad at communicating. Or maybe not into me anymore, idk.

What should I do?

My friend is marrying an Indian guy she met on FB 7 years ago. She lives in Canada and he lived in India. He would talk through her photo comments because she wouldn't add him as a friend, they had never met. When she finally adds him, he proposes. They talk online for a year and a half before meeting in person on her vacation to India. He wants to touch her, but she is scarred and only lets him touch her pinky finger. Then they got engaged.

He wants her to move to India to be with him and his family. She says no, her life, friends, job, and family are all in Canada. He concedes, moves to Canada. Moves in with her parents, her parents hate him. He is 31 and she is 23. She wants to go to med school, he wants her to start having kids instead, she isn't ready and her career matters to her. He concedes. He wants to move to the middle east for job opportunities, she lived in the middle east as a child and never wants to go back to the oppression. He concedes. He wants to have sex, she is abstinent for religion. He concedes.

Turns out he has health problems, varicose veins. He is insecure about it, upset, angry. Takes it out on her verbally. Makes her miserable. She struggles with depression and anxiety. She calls off the wedding. Doesn't want to live like that.

Then her parents get sick. Mom cancer, dad heart. She puts the wedding back on. Fiance and dad get in big fight. Fiance says he never wants to see her family again.

What should I do?

Met a really cute bubbly bioengineer at my salsa lesson. Chatted her up in class, got her number by the fourth, even danced with her outside of class at a local club on salsa night. Problem is, I've asked her out twice now and each time she's had a decent excuse (father's day plans and badminton practice + dinner). I'm not sure if she's trying to brush me off or if I should keep trying.

I was pretty preoccupied at the club trying to remember the moves, that I was not on my game. I'm worried I didn't get a chance to put my "best foot forward" if you will, and she may have become disillusioned. To top it off, my confidence has taken a couple decent hits so I'm worried I won't be able to be my normal charming self.

What should I do?

I inherited a beautiful painting in a really lovely frame, but it weighs a tonne.

I have a great spot for it right above my TV, but I'm worried its going to pull the nails right out of the wall and crush the television.

What is the best way to hang it?

I met this amazing girl and had almost instant chemistry. Coffee turned to a movie which turned to intense makeouts and sex (I know, bad for first date). She is in first year university and I'm in the first year of my masters, so I am a few years older than her. After the first date, she messaged me daily, snapchats etc. She said she was tired of cafeteria food and asked if I could cook dinner for her after her Math exam in a week. I was more than happy to, but the night before the exam she told me that she's too concerned about the age difference. She said maybe we can get together when she grows up a bit but we haven't spoken since. I've been on dates after that but noone comes close. Its now a month later, is there anything I can do? Should I call her up and ask her out to a nice restaurant? Maybe she was just stressed about exams and christmas? I really like her and I feel like I went too fast and scared her off, even though she seemed very into it all. I was surprised when she cancelled. What can I do?

I really like this girl, we had an instant connection and she's the first girl I've felt something for since my first girlfriend.

Just before exams we went on a date and it went better than I could have hoped. 1 hour turned into 6 and she didn't want to leave. We had amazing sex and she asked me to show off my cooking with a dinner the week after next to celebrate exams being over.

THEN the night before we're supposed to see each other, she texts me that it isn't going to work out. I didn't expect it at all. She had been initiating texts, being flirty, lots of compliments and winks.

She's in 1st year university and I'm in 3rd. She said she'd been thinking about the age difference and she was worried that she felt so immature and inexperienced. I assured her that didn't matter to me but she told me to call her after she'd grown up a bit.

I don't know if she was stressed about her final exam or if her friends had gotten the wrong idea and talked her out of it, but I really fell hard for her and I want to see if I can maybe turn this around, maybe in a month or so.

What do you think? I'm planning on texting her in a month, ask her out to a nice restaurant (she hates residence food). Any advice would be much appreciated <3

Seeing this girl for a few weeks now, just started having sex. Normally I have no problems having a great time, but lately I ve been having a hard time getting it up (pun intended). Worse, when I am turned on and hard, I finish pretty quick.

Idk if its performance anxiety or what but its really ruining my time (she oddly seems to be cool with it for the time being, but I imagine that will change).

Any ideas?

I met this amazing girl at work. She's intellectual, really cute, and we hit it off quite well. My coworkers have encouraged me to ask her out, think we'd make a good pair. I was going to ask her out today but before I could she mentioned to a coworker quote: "I have a dinner tonight with a guy I'm dating right now in [city an hour away]." I heard and immediately backed down and decided against asking. But the rest of the day made it seem like she's not into him.

Few things:

-She never mentioned him at all. She mentioned the dinner date they had planned that night but only ever talked about getting food bought for her, not the guy. Not even a pronoun. However could just be modesty/not wanting to bore us/brag etc.

-Made many attempts to talk to me

-She looked at my mouth and back to my eyes several times during our conversation which tends to be a sign she's interested (in my experience), plus constant eye contact and positive body language

-She never used the word boyfriend, or said his name, or said anything about him when he was brought up by others

-She looked away and seemed sad when I told everyone I was giving my notice (quitting) at this job.

-She doesn't have pictures of him on FB, and she is not listed as in a relationship

My thoughts are:

-its probably a new relationship, maybe one she's not really into

So what should I do if I want to give her a shot in the near future? Wait it out? Ask her out? Just become good friends so I can ask her when she's single again?

I can't get a girlfriend, I don't have a friend I can confide in anymore, I honestly can't think of anything that gives me joy anymore. That really frightens me. My family is split between cities 5 hours away, my Mom never has time anymore and my Dad never really cares enough to help. My brother is living a great life with a high paying job that he enjoys and requires few hours and he's going off to college shortly in a room 5x the size of the shoebox my parents stuffed me in in first year. My ex goes out of her way to rub her boyfriend in my face, my other ex was probably "the one" and I'll never be able to get back together with her. I don't know what to do. I'm uncomfortably numb right now. I've felt this way before but I always knew that there was going to be something better that would happen. As I reach the end of my university undergrad I realize I have wasted so much of my life. So many things I should have done to become a better person, and I'll never be able to fix any of it. Please someone, help. I don't even know what you can do but I'd love some advice. I just hate my life right now.

Really cute girl, we have great chemistry but she has a long distance boyfriend that she had in highschool. She's seemed to have grown apart from him while they've been away but they are still dating. (I had a similar relationship a year ago and we just stayed together because it was easier than breaking up, but we eventually broke it off). She has been showing a lot of interest in me and I don't know how to approach it and still do the right thing. Should I tell her that she has to be single before we go any further? Should I just back off entirely? I must admit, aside from the situation, she's kind of a fantastic girl for me, its just a shame (I think for both of us) that she's already dating someone.

This gorgeous girl is in my psych tutorial and I have made a fantastic impression. (Its one of the first classes in which I captivate everyone with my charisma alone which is kind of cool.) She seemed reserved at first, but over the course of the semester she has become very friendly. I got the courage to ask her for her number, got it, then looked her up on FB and found she has a boyfriend.

So I gave up, and stopped trying for the next two weeks.

Now she crashed my class and asked to walk and get to know each other on the way to tutorial. (I never told her what class I was in so she d probably have had to do some research to find mine) I wouldn t think much of it, but I had parked a ways away and told her that it would be quite the detour. Despite the inconvenience, she wanted to go anyway. She wore a very attractive outfit and was incredibly bubbly and more than friendly. She loved my car. We talked about school, our families, heritage, aspirations, etc. and again I surprised myself with how great an impression I made. Fluid conversations, great chemistry. I couldn t help but notice the faded hickey on her neck, which reminded me that she still has a long distance, highschool carryover boyfriend (who is significantly less attractive than her).

ANYWHO, we re supposed to study together soon for our psych exam. I really like her and I m not sure what to do. Any thoughts?

My brother and I have a phone plan with my Mom's apple ID. As a result, whenever any of us buys an app, we all get it on the phones. However I just recently found out that my photos also go directly to their phones, and I had a couple of hot (not nude) photos of my girlfriend on there. I deleted them before they found them BUT how do I stop this happening in the future?

P.S. Something that doesn't change billing address would be best. My parents are still paying for my phone bill (I'm in university) and funds are tight so I'd like to keep it that way.

I'm in a psych course right now and there's this really attractive girl in my weekly tutorials I'd love to get to know better. I think her name is Eden. We talk during the group activities and she laughs at all my jokes but we never really get to have any prolonged conversations, just small talk and doing class work in passing. How do I take the next step?

P.S. I've been looking for a girl for a little bit now and while I'm very outgoing in public (and pretty good looking, so I'm told) I haven't had many chances to meet new people. I don't get out very much, either due to being busy or just watching netflix etc. My last girlfriend was pretty much everything I wanted in a girl, but distance and related miscommunication meant it couldn't last. Since then I've been trying to get back on my feet, but despite being in 3rd year university, I've never asked a girl out. I've only ever been asked out. As such I've had bad luck in a setting where I don't see the same people frequently. Its gotten pretty lonely. While I'm not dying or desperate to date this girl, Eden, it would be great to know how to approach girls in a setting like this. I miss feeling the way I felt when I was in a relationship, and I do want to get back to that.

I'm a pretty attractive guy, I had girls asking me out in highschool and as a result never really had to ask out any myself. Unfortunately that's kind of biting me in the *** now. I've never been a very outgoing person, and girls are obviously rather intimidating. On top of this University doesn't have the same familiarity between people as highschool so instead of girls getting to know me I'm just a face in the crowd. I've only ever had one real girlfriend, and bunch of kind of haphazard relationships that never really went anywhere. I've been single for over a year now trying to find ways to meet girls and have a relationship happen organically like I'm used to. Anyone have any tips for meeting girls in University?

PS. One of the factors is likely my last girlfriend. She was pretty spectacular and had almost everything I wanted in a girl but I went off to school and distance eventually had us grow apart. Now most of the girls I meet at Uni don't really measure up; physically, emotionally, or otherwise. I'm sure I can find someone I can feel just as good with if not better, I just can't find anyone and its become quite depressing.