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I have been close friends with a girl for about 12 years. We used to go out lots and have fun but around 8 years ago she stopped wanting to go out anywhere and developed some mental health issues. She met a guy through work a year after her issues started. She was happy to meet up at my house for dinner so we just started catching up that way. I was just interested in being her friend

and while staying in all the time gets dull, I'd rather that than not see her or know how she was. I

moved to the other side of the world at one point but kept in touch with regular calls and emails.

When I got back she announced her engagement and she seemed happy. She said she was so

glad I was back as she wanted to get out more. We arranged to do some classes we'd been talking

about for ages and at the last minute she cancelled. She also kept texting to arrange to meet up

and would cancel an hour before we were due to meet. She was hard to get hold of and would

ignore a text message for weeks. I told her by email that I was annoyed at her behaviour and she

said she had just been stressed. She lives ten minutes away but I've not seen her in months and she only texts to ask me advice on bizarre things like skin cream and hair products. I was so angry

the last time she did this that I replied to her "how are you" by telling the truth and saying I felt a bit

down and at a loose end that weekend. I never ever moan to her but I wanted to see her reaction.

She ignored the text for a week then replied saying she is so busy and excited with her wedding. I ignored that as there was no answer really. This morning she text saying "since you are single do

you want a plus one for my wedding or not"? I just feel so angry that I don't know why I'm even

considering paying hundreds of pounds on a hotel in the middle of nowhere to be at the wedding

of someone who is not being a friend and hasn't been for ages. But she has no friends, doesn't have much going for her and I am also aware that it could be construed as me being bitter as I'm single

and annoyed that it is not me. Whilst I would like to meet someone decent, I have recently been to a

few of my friends' weddings and had an amazing time. I date, I have a fun life and I'm not stressed about that. I don't know what to do and any advice is appreciated.