DrammaQueen

My boyfriend and I just broke up over a week ago after we had a fight. I know he struggles with his emotions, but I can't help feeling like he doesn't love me. We've been best friends for over 8 months, then all of a sudden there's all these problems and he can't cope. He says he doesn't want to lose me, but in the next breath he says he isn't really "feeling it" and doesn't know if he "CAN feel it". One day he's talking about marriage and the next day he says this. I am so heart broken. We agreed to be friends, but this is tearing me apart. What should I do?

So my boyfriend and I were talking for about 7 months before we met in person. Then we dated for almost 2 months. He always made me laugh and kept my spirits up while my sister was going through cancer and after she died. When I moved to go to school, we met and I feel like we hit it off really well. I couldn't imagine anything better. Occasionally he would ask me if I found him attractive. I would always say yes, but he never believed me. other times he would suddenly worry about where things were going. He said he felt pressured to ask me to marry him. Knowing how long we had been officially dating it wasn't even on my mind, so I would ask him why he felt pressured, that I was fine the way things were because we were getting to know each other. That gave him some relief. Then he said his family was always asking about us and he just felt pressured from outside sources. I told him to stop worrying. When that episode was done, it was always something else. I pointed out the fact that he seemed unhappy and asked him if he needed some space-- like where we would date other people. He worried that we'd both get hurt if we did that. I assumed he was worried about my feelings so to relieve him of any pressure I told him that I would be just fine taking space for as long as he needed. He took offense to this and said "well that's comforting seeing as you are a major part of my happiness." I assured him that he was of mine too, but after that things only got worse. He said there were things about me that bothered him and he wondered if I could handle it. "Like what?" I asked. He said that I was "computer illiterate" and it really bugged him. So that night we broke up after a heated argument. He was insulting my intelligence based on that one fact. Then I basically told him to get some space. After that is when he said he thinks we need a break as well. I said ok we're done. After that we've still texted and seen each other twice, but much less frequently. It's been about a week. I' missing him like crazy, but based on things he said I don't think he cares for me. We agreed to be friends. That's why we still talk, but there is still tension there. What is going on? What do I take away from this?

I am planning to major in accounting and also work part time. I understand it will be a full work load and I may need to stretch out my time in school an extra year or so. I have been working as a stylist, so any and never been to college. Suggestions?

...and what are some sure signs a man is not? Thanks in advance.

I've been dating this guy long distance for 6 months. We met three different times on three different weekends, but we used to talk nearly every day. Then life happened. My sister became terminally ill. His niece too. I lost my job. He got sued. It became apparent that we needed to decide how much we really wanted things to work between us. Which I do and it seemed like he did too. I wrote him an e-mail explaining this and wanting to know what he wanted. It took several days but we did end up talking about it over the phone. He kept saying he didn't know, that he needed more time, to get to know me, and to think and and set a side some time together. He almost abruptly stopped making regular contact with me. I took this as a sign that he wasn't interested and so basically told him that via text. He seemed confused at first. Then I told him "figure it out." I of course said this because I was hurt he didn't seem to be making an effort to answer my question after a week. Nor did he even hint at a plan to meet again in the near future. I told him I am at a crossroads and need to know if he's committed. All he sent back was "ok". Is that it? Is that the end? After everything we've been through? It's almost been a week since that conversation via text. My heart is broken. Is he really through just like that? Can someone please explain this?