kitty

My dad and his brother are estranged.. im 23 and my dads brother has a daughter who is 16. When i was around 18 she left a voicemail at my home crying saying she really wants to meet and get to know me..despite our dads... my dad removed the voicemail and up until now I didn't know how to contact her.. looked her up on instagram and reached out to her. I explained that i never tried to ignore her just my dad made it so hard..

She texted me back saying shes in tears never thought she would ever speak to me,.that i wanted nothing to do with her... we chatted for a day or two which seemed pleasant but now the conversations are dead and i feel like there is not much spark left

What should i do. Please help shes my only cousin...all my family has passed.

My friend from 6th grade, 10yrs ago, is living a very self destructive life. She has no job, motivation, or passions. Her 40 yr bf who is really 15 trapped in a man's body, is always kicking her out of his dad's N breaking up with her. Having no where to stay I let her stay at my apt. When she is here she always just drinks beer all day. I work at home and I would wake up everyday to be asked Hey I'm going to the liquor store you need? Only for her to come back with a 12pk of beer and finishes by 12. she only asks if I want to put down money for beer once she's getting broke, but I always reply no I don't drink. Obv she is a drunk. Finally when she's out of beer and cigs she finds herself back to her 40yr old bf.

They just made up after a dozen times this has happened. I'm at the point where I'm losing complete respect for her as a human and if I should even associate myself with her. She's a trainwreck. It sucks bc I've known her for so long.

Am I wrong to not want welcome her to my home? I don't want to be an enabler. She needs her own wake-up call. Her witnessing my successful independent life doesn't even motivate her, do I need someone like this??