Amanda

My ex is physco and it needs to stop. First he sent the police to my door ever night, then called children services about EVERYTHING, court and now the health department. This has been going on since November and I can't take it anymore!

We were just going to go to the court house but they limit the amount of people you can have there because the court room is so small. We just want our close family and friends there so maybe 10 people. Wedding date is set for February 15th so outside locations are out because its going to be cold. Any cheap but beautiful inside locations in Hamilton county Ohio?!

so ive been randomly throwing up for about the last 4 or 5 days. usually ill wake up from a dead sleep around 1 or 2 am and just throw up. my boyfriend has been joking with me that im knocked up and i just keep telling him theres no way. well after dinner and drinks with my family on thanksgiving, we head home and he keeps making jokes about how i should have drank cause of the baby in my belly. so my drunk smart *** goes into the bathroom, pulls out a pregnancy test that i had from when my sister thought she was pregnant a few months ago and i pee on it. i walk out into the living room and throw it at him and say heres your proof! he lays it on the coffee table and i glance down at it. i thought my eyes were just messin up cause i was drinking so i pick it up. theres a 2 lines! how is this possible??!! im due to start my period in 4 days so im not late yet. just a whole lot of throwing up.

alright, heres a little background first. we got married when we were 18, had 4 kids, all 2 years apart. stayed married for 8 years. he cheated, lied, beat the sh*t out of me and i kicked him out. weve been separated for 2 years and divorced for 1. we have joint custody of our 4 minor children ages 8,6,4 and 2 but i am the custodial parent meaning they live with me 95% of the time and go to him for visitation 2 times a week and every other weekend. since day one hes sent me nasty text messages sayin im a horrible mom and that hes taking the kids any chance he gets and wont help me out with anything they need ever. says the the 600 a month that i get for child support is enough to take care of them. i work full time as a pre-k teacher and live in the house that we bought together when we were married. he refused to sign his name off the loan when we split so he could get half of what i sell if for. i have to refinance it by august 2014 or sell. aside from the empty threats through text he stalks my house constantly and always knows where im at somehow. i cant ever send the kids to my moms to baby sat for a few hours on my days because it means i dont care about my kids in his eyes. after we split, he stayed with the girl that he was cheating with and they now live in his moms house and only pay for utilities because the house is currently in sheriff sale. so he wont have a place for the kids to go on his time here soon. it took me a while to finally start dating and when i finally met someone who i felt suitable to be around then kids, the 241kids calls started coming in. i was letting "random men" in my house around the kids and my house wasnt safe for the kids. the case got blown off and the case worker even told me i had a jealous ex husband. needless to say the guy got scared off and we broke up. here we are a year later and ive been dating this guy for about 9 months. him and i have been good friends since highschool and our kids are the same age. my ex also knows him from highschool too. he moved in in august and things have been better then they have been in the last 7 years in my life. until now.... my boyfriend has a rough past. he joined the military right after highschool, came home injured and has pretty bad ptsd. got mixed up in some pretty bad stuff... drugs and theft. ended up in prison for 14 months got out and has been clean and started a whole new life and i couldnt be more proud of him. my ex knows his past because he knows him. he didnt have any issues with us being together until he moved into "HIS HOUSE". ever since he moved in my ex has been making up all kinds of fun stuff thats total bs. saying hes drinking and driving with the kids in the car (untrue) and his most recent lie, that he beat me up after a night of drinking for his birthday. my ex stood in my living room threatening me that he was going to make him get out of HIS house no matter what it took. told me i could kick him out or he was going to take things into his own hands. needless to say i told him to f off and the next day i had 241kids and a cop pounding on my front door. they told me that i needed to kick him out of my house or i was losing my kids because they feel his "mentally unstable" and needs to be evaluated before he can be back around the kids. they wouldnt let me say a word about anything. just said they wanted to talk to the kids and then had me sign a paper and left. me and him can have contact with eachother but he cant have any contact with the kids and its killing him and my kids. my 4 year old is closer to him then she is her own dad. at first my boyfriend was so upset about the whole situation that he was saying he wasnt going to go to the counseling to satisfy my ex but after a few days of it sinking in, has agreed to go. my ex has taken things to an entirely new level and i dont know what to do because most the stuff he does i have to no way to prove hes making stuff up. any suggestions please!!! and please dont judge what my boyfriend did in his past. everyone makes mistakes and learns from them and hes changed.

Weve been friends for more then 9 years now. After I went through a rather rough divorce and my "solider" being by my side for support, we decided we wanted to be together only problem is hes based in Germany right now so its Facebook, Skype and phone calls. Weve been talking for about a month now and things have been fantastic. But this past weekend there was little communication due to training he was doing. We finally talked today but when we did I could tell something was wrong. It went from " I love you, I cant wait till I get home to see you" to " You deserve better then me. I deserve to be alone the rest of my life." I asked him why he was all the sudden pushing me away and he told me he didnt want me to have to deal with his PTSD. I told him I would love him no matter what and I was willing to work through it with him. That love means no matter what. He had no response but signed off. I feel so helpless and dont know what to do. This was totally out of the blue. All I can do is sit here and cry.

My husband left me Friday night and said he needed time to think about what he wants. We have 4 kids so he came over last night so we could talk about what we were going to do with them while we weren't living together. I love him and want him to come home but hes insisting that he doesn't want to. He said hes tired of fighting with me and wants to end things permanently now and that he doesn't know if he loves me anymore. When he was here last night he kept saying that we were only talking and nothing more. Well, I suggested that maybe we should try to have sex to see how he feels with hes intimate with me. After we were done, I asked how he felt and he told me that maybe we should just stay separated for a few weeks and see where it goes. Then before he left, he kissed me but still wouldn't say he loved me. What does this mean? If he changed his mind from I wanna end this for good to lets see how it goes, does that mean he felt something while we were having sex? I told him that I would let him think for a few days without bothering him. I'll be seeing him tonight when I drop the kids off to him. Should I try to see if he'll kiss me again? Thanks in advance. Im just so confused and want him back home.

my son is 4 weeks old and has BAD acid reflex. hes already on zantac but his doctor wants to put him on enfamil ar but hes already on similac and i wanted to keep him with the similac brand. are enfamil ar for spit and similac senstive rs for spit up the same thing? and will either of these cause him to have more gas bc hes already really gassy as it is.

so im 38 weeks 2 days with baby 4. this morning i got my membranes stripped (due to babys large size). i was 3 cm and 50%. ive never had this done before so i dont know what to expect. most people i have talked to said they went into labor within 24 hrs of having it done. so far its been an hour and im very crampy. is this normal? how long does it usually take if it works?

so ive been in and out of the hospital with preterm contractions since 30 weeks. im now 37 weeks 1 day and all weekend ive been have contractions on and off. yesterday i started to have really bad stomach cramps, like i had to go number 2. i ended up in the bathroom every 2 hours going number 2. woke up at 630 this morning having the same cramps and started going to the bathroom again. these bms are soft but not loose. about 730 i started having light contractions lasting about 45-60 secs and every 5-7 mins, they didnt hurt they were just there. now, they are still about 5 mins apart but starting to be more painful and im now having this horrible throbbing pain in my back. so bad i almost jumped off the couch the first time i felt it. also i can feel the contractions start in my tail bone. when i was at the doctor thursday they said i was 2cm and 50%. this is my fourth baby and ive never expirenced anything like this. i lost most of my mucus plug last week. im on bed rest due to high bp, tests came back that i dont have preeclempisa yet so im just suppose to take it easy so i havent been doing a whole lot of walking or sex. could this really finally be it?? im afraid to call the doctor in fear they tell me that its still false labor lol.

when i went in on thursday they told me i was 1 1/2 cm dilated and 50% effaced. ive been kinda crampy all weekend long and at about midnight last night i started noticing i was losing nickle to quarter size pieces of my plug everytime i go to to the bathroom. i dont know if i should call my doctor about this since i was already 50% a few days ago or if its nothing to worry about. this is my 4th pregnancy and with the last 3 i never lost my plug until after i was in the hospital already.

im now 31 wks 3 days with baby 4. i never had any pervious major problems with any of my other pregnancies besides having one at 36 wks, a subchronic hemotoma at 12 wks with one and a 10 lb baby. last monday, the 26th, i was admitted to the hospital with contractions 5 mins apart.i was given fluids through iv and the contractions settled down and i was released with he restriction of "light activity."

about 2 days later they came back but about 10 mins apart. not painful, just belly tighting and a few cramps/back ache every once in a while. i went back to the doctor yesterday and told them about the contractions so back on the monitior i went. after being on the monitior for about an hour they come in and say that im still having contractions every 6-10 mins but they are not changing my cervix YET so they just want to keep an eye on them for a few weeks and that they want me to make it to at least 36 wks again. BUT the baby isnt as active as they would like so they sent me over to us to have a biophysical profile done.first she checked the flid levels and all was well. then they explained to me that they were looking for 4 things, a full body movement, an arm movement, a leg movement and most importantly that the baby is practicing breathing. with in 1 min they saw all 4 so i was sent back to a chair then the nurse comes out and says the doctor wants to talk to me in his office. so i go back. he explains to me that he knows im not feeling the baby move as much bc i have an anterior placenta (in front) which is acting like a cushion for me which explains why i didnt push the button as much BUT the machine was still not picking up as many of the babys movements as they would like either so now i have to go in friday for another non stress test for 2 reasons: 1. check contractions again and 2. to check the babys movement. and i have to have another biophysical profile done. is this reason for concern because honestly, im scared that something could be wrong. my mom had a baby at 32 wks and he passed away from potters syndrom. what are possible reasons that a baby could not be as active as doctors would like?

so at 16 weeks i had to have an unexpected ultrasound. i asked the tech if she would possibly be able to tell the babys gender and she said she would look and see. well after getting the baby to uncross its legs she goes "im pretty sure you got yourself a little boy in there but well confirm at 20 weeks." the way the baby was laying it was hard for me to tell.. the baby was upside down so we were getting a view from the bottom.. back of the thighs, butt and what i thought to be the little beans (there was a circle in between the legs). she wasnt able to get any pictures of it bc the baby moved to quick again. ok, this is my fourth baby, i have 3 little girls and i would love love love to have a little boy. in fact when she told me it was a boy i cried my eyes out for a half hour bc i was soooo happy. im a week away from having my 20 week ultrasound and im soooo scared they are going to tell me its a girl. everything inside me tells me its a boy, all my symptoms have been different then with any of my daughters and my belly is waaayyy different then it was with my girls. but still there is this little part of me that doesnt want to get my hopes up. is this normal?? by the way i explained the baby what does it sound like to you?

ive been looking for reviews on this car seat but havent had much luck finding anything.

heres a picture of the car seat im questioning:

http://s.sears.com/is/image/Sears/04914723000_2009...

im looking for a car seat thats black or mostly black, cheaper then $150, not wide, heavy and bulky works with shopping carts easily, and fits in booths at restarunts. i really dislike the "z" shaped handles on the evenflow car seats. i like the regular graco sungrides but cant find anything thats black or mostly black. i do not like the graco sungride 35s as they look to bulky and reviews say they are heavy and dont fit most places.

i saw the safety 1st car seats and i like the way they look but ive never bought one before. what are some other peoples thoughts about these car seats? this will be my 4th baby and it will be my first boy. all my girls weighed between 8 and 10 lbs so this baby will most likely be in that range as well.

thanks in advance.

has anyone ever been told this? im guessing by deep he meant carrying toward my back? my doctor told me he was having trouble hearing the babys heartbeat the other day bc im carrying the baby deep. he sent me for an ultra sound just to make sure the baby was ok and the baby was perfect. the ultra sound tech even told me the baby was a boy (im 17 weeks due july 4th). i have three girls and i was never told that with any of them. ive been having some back pain and im assuming its bc of this. does this mean that im probably going to have back labor as well?

ok so im 17 weeks but starting a few weeks ago my backs been hurting super bad. in the morning ill be fine but by the end of the day im in so much pain i cant move. i was in a car accident about a year and a half ago and had a whole lot of back problems for about 6 months after went to the chiropractor and then everything was ok. the pain im having now is in the same place as the pain after my accident. my obgyn said my baby is deep.. im guessing that means im carrying it in my back. could this be the reason my back is hurting? ive said something to my obgyn and family doctor and neither seem to be concerned but its just getting worse and im really starting to get worried.

ok so dh started that p90x program a few days ago and as i sit here and watch him it makes me want to do it to but i dont know if that program is exactly what im looking to do. im 14 weeks pregnant with baby #4 and ive been told that im only suppose to gain between 20-25 lbs. i usually gain a whole lot ( 50+) and i really dont want to do it this time around. so far im doing good with a weight gain of about 5 lbs. what kind of routines or programs do you do while pregnant? and any other advise you may have.

thanks!

im 11 weeks pregnant with my fourth baby due in july and my husband and i still havent told anyone were expecting. he keeps telling me he wants to wait so im waiting for him. well this morning i get on facebook and his cousin has an annoucment that shes expecting her 2nd in july. i get upset bc she posted it. heres the reason i am/was upset. for one, i REALLY want to tell people but cant bc my hubby wants to wait so it kills me to see her telling people. for two, shes last person anyone wants to be pregnant at the same time with. we were both pregnant at the same time when i was pregnant with my 3rd and it was her first. EVERYTHING was a competition with her. who gets to find out what the sex is. who has the better name picked out, who is going to go into labor first. it was aggravating. so, i know as soon as we tell everyone its going to be the same situation and i really dont want it to be so im not exactly "excited" for her bc of that reason. is it wrong of me? has anyone else felt this way before?

i had my wisdom teeth removed about 4 months ago and recently found out i was pregnant. where the tooth was removed over the last 4 days a lump has formed over it and it seems to be fluid filled but pain free unless i poke it. ive been taking amoxicillin for the last 48 hrs and it doesnt seem to be doing anything. ive also been cleaning my mouth out with warm salt water and peroxide as well.

i have little to no symptoms! i have occasional and i mean really occasional nasuea. sometimes a headache, increase sense of smell, constipation and gas. no sore breasts, no "normal" pregnancy symptoms. this is my fourth baby and its all so different. i havent had any cramps or spotting. is it possible to have something wrong without any signs of it? i go to the doctor next thursday.

have you told your families or are you still waiting and if so how much longer do you plan on waiting to tell?

im 9 weeks (edd 7-4-10) with baby #4 and the only people that know are my husband ( of course ) and my bestfriend and her signifacant other (which is the hubbys bestfriend). i am more then ready to tell people about this little one but my husband keeps putting it off. ive already gained about 5 lbs but nothing noticable. ive seen my doctor once at 5 weeks to confirm that i was pregnant and i go back on dec. 10th. i dont think were going to make it to christmas without my belly starting to grow but hubby wants to try to put it off til then. this is are first planned baby but no one in our families knew we were thinking about trying even so its going to be a big surprise!

congrats to everyone!