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It wasn't until I stated using YA! that I realised what a massive issue people have with porn and jealousy. I really don't understand it at all. WHY do so many people on here brand someone who uses porn occasionally an uncaring deviant who is unfit as a partner?

Why do you (if you do) class it as cheating? Like, really, this is a serious question. How is using visual, sexual stimulation anything akin to betraying your partner and cheating? I don't even see the similarity.

Yeah, a porn ADDICTION would be a different story - but so incredible rare, I highly doubt that anyone on here suffers such an affliction.

If you're vehemently anti porn, could you maybe say why? Is it based on personal experiences of a partner using it? Or is it down to the old fashioned taboo surrounding porn that you maybe grew up with? And if you ARE anti it, have you ever watched or read it? Did your feelings change one way or another?

Yes, I agree, as with most things, if using porn is actually diminishing the frequency, quality or fulfilment of a real life sex life, then yes, it is an issue. Just the same as anything that becomes an obsession and eats into 'real life' (gaming, drinking, drugs)....but casual use to pass the time? What harm can you really see in it?

This is a real question, I'm not saying anyone's WRONG to be so anti-porn, I just don't understand WHY, unless it's caused problems in their own lives at some point.

And so many people complain their partners are sneakily using it behind their backs. This highlights trust issues...how do you know? Because you snooped on their computer...why did you snoop? Because you don't trust them anyway...Why don't they discuss using porn with you...because you over react...which highlights a breakdown of communication. Trust and communication are the 'faulty' parts, not the actual use of porn, surely?

So many ultimatums seem to be issued. I'll only move in if you stop using porn...you have to stop once the baby's here....once we're married I don't want that filth in the house....

I dunno. Maybe I'm too blase, too liberal. Maybe I'm lucky that porn's never affected me in a negative way. But I'd REALLY like to try and understand WHY people react so badly to their partners using porn.....

I haven't eaten meat since I was 11 years old. For various reasons I'm contemplating introducing it back into my diet. I eat a fairly clean diet and am a fairly good cook who loves pottering in the kitchen - however, I'm not even sure where to begin with meat lol

Could you suggest a fail safe book or website that you'd direct, say, a student to? Or a bachelor? Something like that. The real basics of how to roast a chicken? Which cut for which cooking method? That kind of thing.

Thanks for your time.