To those of you who despise your partner using porn...?

To Moe and the other girls that gave great answers are spot on. I do everything for my man and I mean EVERYTHING, but he still watches porn? Its the lack of respect, lies, secrecy and so on. I could go on forever about this.

To people like you who feel porn is great, fantastic etc is great for you, GOOD FOR YOU. But when your other half feels down about it and asks you to stop but you don't? Shows how much they care about you doesn't it? If they done something you didn't like, and you asked them to stop because it was really hurting your feelings but they carry on, you would be hurt too wouldn't you? And the fact that they lie to you to hide it? People say they do that because they want to avoid arguments, then why watch it when you know it would anyway?

Its scientifically proven that porn is unhealthy in relationships and can cause harm. So when people like you challenge scientists, saying that porn is "normal and great" is really pathetic and laughable.

"This is a real question, I'm not saying anyone's WRONG to be so anti-porn, I just don't understand WHY, unless it's caused problems in their own lives at some point."- exactly, if both parties are okay with porn then that is fine, but when one is not then that WILL cause problems down the line.

I'm anti-porn because of my partner, he developed an addiction and fcked up fetishes because of it. I was pregnant, and he watched porn. I was in agony with contractions and he sat on the other couch watching his favorite porn star with our TWO year old child in the room. He even started to mail porn stars. I saw his comments on their videos, saying how "hot" and "beautiful" they're. He even said to a girl with massive breasts that her boyfriend is lucky to have her, later found out the "girl" was a tranny.

He would give compliments to girls like them, but when I'm carrying his child and feeling low he wouldn't even say a thing to me. When I dress up for the night, he wouldn't even say anything.

We're now going to therapy through his porn addiction.

Men also start to develop expectations of their women too.

It is very hurtful, and when you're in a relationship there should be no need to watch it. Especially when the man knows it hurts his girl, but watches it anyway willing to risk their relationship for some girls on the internet that don't give two sh!ts about him?

In my mind, you're cheating but not bodily, but you might as well. Having open relationships will soon be the "norm" I bet ya.

Why would couples watch two people fcking when they can have it themselves? Its like watching someone through a bedroom window. Creepy.

I could say a lot more but I just cant be bothered at the moment.

But I hope you get the general idea of what I'm trying to say

How I found out? My child went on his laptop to play jungle book and everything came up. Does it matter how you found it? What matters is that you were RIGHT that you cannot trust them.

"And so many people complain their partners are sneakily using it behind their backs. This highlights trust issues...how do you know? Because you snooped on their computer...why did you snoop? Because you don't trust them anyway...Why don't they discuss using porn with you...because you over react...which highlights a breakdown of communication. Trust and communication are the 'faulty' parts, not the actual use of porn, surely? "- Love how you think you know people and their personal lives.

P.s And what else hurts the most? Most the girls that my boyfriend watched were fully clothed. So he was ADMIRING them and two of the girls were saying "You want me to be yours, all yours." and there's this one that hurt the most when a girl said "Look at my perfection. Bet your wife doesn't look as good as me" And we all know what my partner was mentally replying.

Do you see how hurtful that is now??

Bc it takes a mature person.to watch it and understand not all women will do the things those women do ...when a guy starts watching porn without having sex ever or too often ,,when they do have sex that's wat they expect ..another thing is that a lot of women have an.issue bc there husbands or bfs r doing it byehind their back ....also u need to.be careful of watching porn when u have kids around ..these r the issues it causes ...and plus wat women likes to find out their husbands r watching that and jerking off to that when they could be trying to have actual sex with them...not all man r watching it bc there partners r not having sex with them...so that's another issue ..if u don't have an issue Good for u but not everyone relationships r the same and some may have already experienced xheating and etc

Why are some people against porn?

Are the men and women in porno REAL? Or are the things to be viewed and objectified?

Do they have REAL thoughts, real feelings and real emotions?

Or are they merely images on screen for people to view as sexual objects and j@(k or masturbate to?

Ever walk in on someone who was in the middle of getting themselves off to porn?

Ever?

The SHAME and embarrassment that instantly comes across their faces! If only there could be head shot picture of every person who has been walked in on in the middle of getting off to a MOVIE.

What's this about "trust issues"???

Lol, are you serious? Do you think you're making much sense here sweetie?

Looking on a laptop and coming across a history of PORN sites indicates trust issues?

Hiding it INDICATES SHAME issues my love.

Don't get it twisted.

The porn stars are REAL human beings. They have MOTHERS and FATHERS that care about them.

Do you EVEN want to HEAR about the problems that CHILDREN are having when it comes to the world of porn???

This generation is BREEDING child SEX OFFENDERS like nobody has EVER seen.

Don't even get me started.

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"Hiding it INDICATES SHAME issues my hate."

Are you serious?

Porn is an invasion into a relationship. If single people want to get off on watching this then why not. In a partnership it should not be necessary.

I am all the porn my husband wants, and more. There is nothing that is on screen that we do not do ourselves, I am probably in the minority here but porn is boring to me. Who in their right minds would want to watch other people getting slippery with each other when you could be doing it yourself.

Besides what my husband and I get up to with each other would not be allowed to be filmed.

Get some imagination of your own and enjoy your own woman, its rather pathetic to see a grown man drooling over two people having sex.

Get a life.

I think a lot of the negative reaction to porn from partners maybe comes from feelings of insecurity and feeling threatened and that they cant compete with the women involved in porn, bodily or without the inhibitions that other people have.

Of course, a lot also depends on their upbringing as well. Their parents may have been quite strict or reserved when it came to their bodies and sex.

I think there are a lot of factors.

I'm a guy and I'm ok with porn btw.

If u need porn, even occasionally, ur sick and not satisfied with ur partner. U r VICTIMIZING someone's daughter or son. U wouldn't like it if u had a daughter and she was a bimbo on someone's computer screen. Deny it all u want, but u know I'm right.

Show me a husband who has an "addiction" to porn, and I'll show you a wife with a personal massager in her nightstand next to a DVD copy of Magic Mike and a softback copy of "50 shades of grey".

You will never understand why those people are like that...just the same way they will never understand those of us who don't have an issue with porn. It's okay to now know everything.

To make a long story short...it's because they're bringing a third party into the relationship...someone I neither can nor should have to compete with.

actually I do not care if my man watches porn, infact I enjoy porn I like to reenact what we see sometimes and I see it as a learning experience because it teaches me what he likes. and I can master those skills for him. I don't know why women are jealous but I think its more we think our husband fantasizes about the girl he is watching, we feel that we can have sex all the time but instead he choses that, and it makes us feel that he thinks those women are way sexier and more interesting than we are. I don't care because I join in on the fun.

id like to add-- I love how some woman are soooo sure they have such amazing sex that it doesn't exist in porn lmao. honestly there isn't imagination anymore because its been done already. whatever amazing dirty and kinky sex you think you maybe having has already happened and already been filmed. trust me. ive watched almost every type of porn and have experimented every kinky and dirty positions. trust me, so don't be so cocky and think that you are queen of the bedroom hahaha