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I am doing a homework assignment, yes, but you're not helping me "cheat" by answering this question. The paper was supposed to be completely based off of my own opinions as well as interview questions that I passed out to 4 parents that I know. Unfortunately, I realized when I was reading my responses that I didn't ask very good questions because no one really answered them the way that I was hoping to and my paper is due by midnight (US eastern time). Anyhow, so I'm posing this question to try to get a few more insights on the topic. If you could use a specific example of a child under 1 year old (the whole paper is based on babies who can't talk yet) showing what you believe to moral or immoral behavior to back up your opinion of whether they are or not, that would be awesome.

Honest opinions, no judgement please. So, my husband and I recently had another baby. We only live in a two bedroom place. Our son is 6 and our daughter just turned 1. My husband makes the great income where it's too much to qualify for any assistance, but not quite enough to pay for all the wonderful things people need when you have kids... like a 3 bedroom apartment. I'm a full time student right now so I can't work until I graduate (our schedules are already opposite of each other so we don't have to pay for daycare). I only have two years left, so... My question is: Can my kids share a room until I graduate? She's in our room right now and I don't want to switch her until next tax season when we can get big girl furniture for her, but I definitely want my room back! So that will make her (almost) 2 and him 7 and then the following year, obviously 3 and 8. I wouldn't even question it if they were both boys, obviously. But 3 and 8 is still pretty young, right? IDK.. obviously I'm unsure, so I need some thoughts?

My husband and I have a pretty great marriage. We have been together for eight years and have two kids together. (Ages 6 and 1) But the more time we spend together, the harder I find it to try to sleep with him. He snores SOO loud and I am such a light sleeper. Since baby #2, it's gotten to the point where he is in the habit of sleeping on the couch, and I feel terrible. Your sex life and personal life is already sacrificed with kids as it is, but to expect him to sleep in another room makes me feel like a bad person. On the other hand, I really am a LIGHT sleeper. I literally wake up to the birds outside the window in the breaking of the morning. Most nights, I honestly feel like if there's the slightest thought of a noise, I would wake up to it.. or not sleep bc of it.. no joke. To be honest, I get more sleep when he's not in the room, but I feel so wrong saying that. I LOVE cuddling and spending time with him in bed when it doesn't come down to the actual sleep I need. However, I need to go to class from 9 to 3 and get my normal daily deeds done, plus homework. I feel like the more stress in our life divides us, the more closeness could prevent the fights, but at the same time, I can't ever not get any sleep. I don't know what the right answer is!?! My friends can't believe we don't share a room but, seriously, I don't sleep! IDK what to do!?!!?!

I seriously take the cake when it comes to the waterworks and I absolutely can't help it. It makes no sense and it's honestly starting to get in the way of everyday life. I rarely cried even when I was sad before I had kids. Sometimes I cry appropriately at like things that are sad or sentimental, but most the time I just cry for no freeking reason. I can't even talk about crying without crying. If I'm alone in a car I start crying. If I don't get enough sleep I cry in the shower. My crying truly has no real connections to what I'm actually feeling. It just comes and I can't stop it. I know this may seem like a silly problem but it's seriously embarrassing and I've had enough but I really don't know how to get it under control. Or why I am this way??! I'm going to be graduating with a degree in social work soon and I'm scared I wont be able to work one day in the field without loosing my composure. I really don't think this will go over well in a new career. Anyway... if anyone has ANY idea of maybe why or what I could do or if they're just kind of the same way, that would really make me feel better!

So my best friend is having her wedding shower in two weeks. I have no idea what to get her. She's been living with her soon-to-be hubby to be for 7 years. They make like 90,000.00 together, and it's just the two of them. She's a shopaholic. So, I'm serious when I say she has everything! I was trying to think of something simple and sentimental, but I'm coming up blank. I kind of already told her I would go to the shower but I wasn't going to buy her anything. I figured she'd understand because my husband and I are living on less than half what she is and we have two kids, not to mention I'm the maid of honor, so in the last 6 months I've already spent over 200$ on my dress, shoes and wedding crafts we've done together and I still have to plan and pay for a bachelorette party. Anyway, that's not important really. The point is, she didn't seem to happy when I told her up front I wasn't going to get her anything so I was hoping someone could help me out with ideas that are cheap but special.

So, I started on cereal when she was four months old because she was so hungry all the time. My doctor told me to start her on veggies by 5 months for the same reason. She's 7 months now and my friend was surprised by how much food she's eating. I really didn't think much of it before she said something so I just thought I'd ask. My baby gets a 4oz bottle in the morning, her mush (is what I call it: I mix 2oz of milk with a 4oz jar of fruit and then mix in cereal until it's thick) around noon and again around 5 (using veggies this time) and then a bottle before bed, and she usually wakes up about 2am for a bottle, too. She's perfectly healthy weight-wise -right in the 50 percentile range- so I'm not too worried about her being overweight or anything. No one in my family really has weight issues. I'm seeing my doctor next week and I'll ask him, as well. I was just curious as to what other mommy's think and are feeding their kids around the same age?

My son is 5 and my daughter is 5 months old. He is really an active and great big brother, but lately, I'm starting to get the tattle tale thing. I understand there's a pretty big age difference between them and he just wants to play with her, but sometimes I don't know how to react. He plays a little rough, but most of the time, she loves it. But, like I said, lately I'm getting the "MOM she..." She's just starting to get her coordination where she is using her hands/body. So, she will like pull his hair or scratch him or something and, obviously, she doesn't know what she's doing, but does he? Like, today, she pulled his hair hard and really hurt him, so he bent her fingers back and made her cry. Obviously, I got really mad at him and told him he couldn't respond like that cause she's just a baby, but he said he thought she was doing it on purpose to be mean. I guess, I'm wondering if it's logical for him to feel this way, or was he just trying to get out of trouble? He's never really been around babies, and I certainly don't want to discourage him from playing with his little sister. At first I thought, "well it's obvious she doesn't know what she's doing so that was super mean of my son." But then I thought, "well he has no experience with kids this young so can he really comprehend that she doesn't have the motor control/though process that he does?" Again, I don't want to be yelling at him every time he does something to her because he may not get it, and I want them to be close regardless of the big age difference, so what is the appropriate response in that sort of situation? How much can a 5yr old really grasp about a babies capabilities?

My husband and I have recently been arguing about our sex life and I'm getting REALLY tired of it! I know he's doing it because his brain is like stuck in our no sex phase we just had recently. We just had our second baby and he didn't have sex with me for like the last 10 weeks of the pregnancy bc I was "too fat" and it was "awkward" and then following the pregnancy, I had an episiotomy which was really painful for me so we didn't have sex for like another 5 weeks, OK, I get it, that's a long time, but none of that stuff was really my fault. Since then, in the last couple months, our sex life has gotten back on track - I feel anyway. We have sex about 3 times a week on average and I think that's perfectly acceptable for a couple that's been married for 7 years and has two kids. But his brain is still stuck in the no sex phase, like I said, and he's going on about how we should start doing it everyday, sometimes twice a day.. blah blah. I'm sorry but that hasn't happened since the first yr we were together and life happens.. I just don't see that being a reasonable request. So, after that SUPER long description (sorry), I was just wondering: How often do you long term couples have sex in a week and how long have you been together? Am I being unreasonable saying two or three times a week should be plenty? By saying that I'm certainly not opposed to it happening more if circumstance allows.. but come on we have two kids and full time jobs.. Anyway.. thanks for any real answers/help with this cause I don't know how to have this conversation with my hubby again...

I want to take out a life insurance policy on my mother. I don't really know how to do it?.. She lives in a different state. She's 48 years old right now. She just bought a house a couple of years ago and in the same years managed to get high balance credit cards and maxed them all out. And, I just recently found out that she put everything in my name so I get when she dies. She still owes 70,000.00 dollars on this house and I don't want it. She lives in the middle of no where Virginia and I live in Wisconsin. I know 48 still seems young, but to be quite frank, she's a pretty bad alcoholic and I don't want to be strapped with all her debt when she passes. I know that sounds terrible but I don't know what else to do. So, I was thinking about taking out an affordable policy, if that's possible? I want to know what I would need from her, if anything, and if anyone knows what a policy might cost me? When you look online they ask you how long you want your policy to last, like 10,20 or 30 years. Does that mean if I take out a 20yr policy and she dies before then, I have to keep paying before I get a pay out? Or, if I take out a 10yr and she dies after, then I just wasted my money? I just don't understand how it works so if someone could explain it to me in lamens terms, that'd be great. Thanks!

I just had a baby 8 days ago. I was fine until Friday night after my husband went back to work (3 days ago) and I had a weird like panic attack, I think. I didn't know what it was then and I called my husband and made him bring me to the ER. I was really scared. I felt like I was going to pass out or stop breathing and my heart felt like it was slowing down. They just said that I was dehydrated and sent me home. But I don't think it was that cause they put two IV fluids in me and I still didn't feel any better. Now, I'm starting to think it was an anxiety attack that kinda came out of no where because these emotional feelings haven't quit. I feel nervous all the time. I feel like I can't eat anything but I"m forcing myself to bc I'm breastfeeding, but it makes me feel nauseous. All I can think about is how scared I am to be home alone while worrying about having anxiety. I know that doesn't make sense or sounds stupid, but I can't stop. I worry whats gonna happen if I have another panic attack and I'm here alone with the kids. I feel like I can't make any decisions that will make me feel better. I should take a bath, but while I'm in there I can't relax and feel like I should be doing something else. I should make dinner but I can't think about food. I want the TV cause I can't stand the silence, but the noise irritates me too. I can't concentrate on my kids because I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm not depressed, even though I've spent the last two days crying. I don't feel detached or sad or anything. I already love my baby girl so much. I just feel anxious ALL THE TIME. I never experienced any sort of PPD or PPA with my first child and I can't find anything that says its normal to have an onset with a second, but not a first. I feel like I have no reason to feel this way bc baby girl is so good. She's such a happy baby already and sleeps a lot, even at night.I know this is affecting my son, too, bc he's 5 and he sees how upset I am. I know it's only been 8 days since having her, but I really don't think this is just normal baby blues. I guess I just want to know if anyone else has ever experienced this with a second or third child, but not a previous one? Should I wait the two weeks all the websites say that it's normal to be feeling these things, or should I make an appointment to see someone? I have no one here to help me. We just moved to a new state and I have no friends or family here. My husband is super supportive and helpful when he's here but he works 12 hour shifts and needs to sleep. I don't want to feel like this anymore and I don't know what to do.

I just had a baby 8 days ago. I was fine until Friday night after my husband went back to work (3 days ago) and I had a weird like panic attack, I think. I didn't know what it was then and I called my husband and made him bring me to the ER. I was really scared. I felt like I was going to pass out or stop breathing and my heart felt like it was slowing down. They just said that I was dehydrated and sent me home. But I don't think it was that cause they put two IV fluids in me and I still didn't feel any better. Now, I'm starting to think it was an anxiety attack that kinda came out of no where because these emotional feelings haven't quit. I feel nervous all the time. I feel like I can't eat anything but I"m forcing myself to bc I'm breastfeeding, but it makes me feel nauseous. All I can think about is how scared I am to be home alone while worrying about having anxiety. I know that doesn't make sense or sounds stupid, but I can't stop. I worry whats gonna happen if I have another panic attack and I'm here alone with the kids. I feel like I can't make any decisions that will make me feel better. I should take a bath, but while I'm in there I can't relax and feel like I should be doing something else. I should make dinner but I can't think about food. I want the TV cause I can't stand the silence, but the noise irritates me too. I can't concentrate on my kids because I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm not depressed, even though I've spent the last two days crying. I don't feel detached or sad or anything. I already love my baby girl so much. I just feel anxious ALL THE TIME. I never experienced any sort of PPD or PPA with my first child and I can't find anything that says its normal to have an onset with a second, but not a first. I feel like I have no reason to feel this way bc baby girl is so good. She's such a happy baby already and sleeps a lot, even at night.I know this is affecting my son, too, bc he's 5 and he sees how upset I am. I know it's only been 8 days since having her, but I really don't think this is just normal baby blues. I guess I just want to know if anyone else has ever experienced this with a second or third child, but not a previous one? Should I wait the two weeks all the websites say that it's normal to be feeling these things, or should I make an appointment to see someone? I have no one here to help me. We just moved to a new state and I have no friends or family here. My husband is super supportive and helpful when he's here but he works 12 hour shifts and needs to sleep. I don't want to feel like this anymore and I don't know what to do.

I'm just looking for some opinions because I think my husband and my best friend are sick to death of me talking about this. lol First off, backstory: I had an emergency C-section with my first child after inducing labor. The entire experience was pretty traumatic and definitely not something I would choose to do again. Now, I'm 40 weeks pregnant with my second child. I was determined to go completely natural with this one for three main reasons: 1. As stupid as it may sound, I feel like it's some sort of.. idk.. right of passage into motherhood that I have yet to experience. 2. I am legitimately concerned that having a C-sec will effect my ability to be able to breastfeed.. again. (I've done considerable research on this topic since I had trouble the first time and there is a link between C-sec and lack of breast milk production) and 3. I really do not want another scary birth experience. However, like I said, I'm 40 weeks now and the baby is showing NO signs of being ready to come out on it's own. I have to decide by Wed. whether or not I want to wait out two more weeks on the off chance I go into labor on my own, or just schedule a C-sec. I would just wait, obviously, but I have two problems with that: 1. My doctor said with previous C-sec patients, the size of the baby can play a role in whether or not I may have to have another surgery anyway. (My first baby was almost 9lbs and I am pretty certain this baby isn't going to be any smaller.) 2. I have a developed a medical condition where my stomach muscles are no longer stretching like they're are supposed to. Instead, they're tearing apart right down the center, which is pretty painful. It's not excruciating or anything, but it is constant, and I have to admit, I'm really tired of being in pain all the time. I can't be on my feet for more than 20 minutes at a time even. I feel like that's selfish, though. So, I really don't know what to do, and was just wondering what other people in my situation would do. Would you just wait it out since it's only another 2 weeks at most, even though there are factors at play that say my chances of ending up in another C-section are pretty good anyway, just on the off chance that you would get the opportunity to have natural birth? Or would just throw in the towel and schedule the C-section?

I'm just looking for some opinions because I think my husband and my best friend are sick to death of me talking about this. lol First off, backstory: I had an emergency C-section with my first child after inducing labor. The entire experience was pretty traumatic and definitely not something I would choose to do again. Now, I'm 40 weeks pregnant with my second child. I was determined to go completely natural with this one for three main reasons: 1. As stupid as it may sound, I feel like it's some sort of.. idk.. right of passage into motherhood that I have yet to experience. 2. I am legitimately concerned that having a C-sec will effect my ability to be able to breastfeed.. again. (I've done considerable research on this topic since I had trouble the first time and there is a link between C-sec and lack of breast milk production) and 3. I really do not want another scary birth experience. However, like I said, I'm 40 weeks now and the baby is showing NO signs of being ready to come out on it's own. I have to decide by Wed. whether or not I want to wait out two more weeks on the off chance I go into labor on my own, or just schedule a C-sec. I would just wait, obviously, but I have two problems with that: 1. My doctor said with previous C-sec patients, the size of the baby can play a role in whether or not I may have to have another surgery anyway. (My first baby was almost 9lbs and I am pretty certain this baby isn't going to be any smaller.) 2. I have a developed a medical condition where my stomach muscles are no longer stretching like they're are supposed to. Instead, they're tearing apart right down the center, which is pretty painful. It's not excruciating or anything, but it is constant, and I have to admit, I'm really tired of being in pain all the time. I can't be on my feet for more than 20 minutes at a time even. I feel like that's selfish, though. So, I really don't know what to do, and was just wondering what other people in my situation would do. Would you just wait it out since it's only another 2 weeks at most, even though there are factors at play that say my chances of ending up in another C-section are pretty good anyway, just on the off chance that you would get the opportunity to have natural birth? Or would just throw in the towel and schedule the C-section?

For the last few days now my laptop has been dying when super fast; like barely after an hour of not being plugged in. As soon as I do plug it in, it runs loud and gets SUPER hot almost immediately. It's only a year old. I do keep it plugged most of the time... I don't really know why, I just do. I'm wondering if my battery is already dying? Because I heard they cost like 200$ to replace and I really don't have that kind of money. However, I obviously don't want to fry my 800$ computer either.

So, I am 33 weeks pregnant and I get this awful pinching feeling on my bladder. I have been getting it for awhile now, but it's been getting progressively worse. It is awful. You know how it feels when someone takes the thin skin on your under arm and pinches it? Well that's is what it feels like the baby is doing to my bladder all the time. Now, I really don't think it's actually the baby because I doubt there's dexterity enough to actually pinch, but I really don't know what it could be? Or if it's normal?? I didn't feel anything like this with my first pregnancy. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else feels something similar or if I should bring this up with my doctor?

I have a little boy who just turned 5 and I'm about to have a new baby. I want him to be excited for the new baby, and so far he seems to be, but I have a feeling he's going to be REALLY jealous when the new baby actually arrives. He still gets jealous when his dad tried cuddling with me without him. I've been talking to him a lot about how the baby wont be able to walk or talk or feed itself and its going to need a lot of my attention. And I've been trying to do it in a way where he's excited to help me out and to be a good big brother hoping it'll help him feel important/needed and included. He seems to understand when we talk about it, but I don't think he really understands how much attention this baby is going to need. I really hope he just jumps into the big brother role, but I realize it's likely he's going to have a hard time adjusting since its just been him for so long. I was hoping someone out there has been through this and had a few helpful tips for me to prepare him for the new baby and to help with the adjustment after the new baby arrives.

This question is just out of pure curiosity because it's boggling my mind. I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and she told me that she gets back $3800 from federal just for child tax credit. Not the entire amount of her return, JUST for her ONE child. Now, I didn't say anything because I'm no accountant, but I was under the impression that everyone got the exact same amount of child tax credit which is $1000. That's all I get for my one child. I researched it a bit and I can't find anything that says anything other than what I thought (which is everyone gets the same amount), but I don't know why she would lie about it either?? The only difference between how we file is that I file married/joint returns and she files single/head of household. I don't know if that makes a difference, just wondering if there was anyone else out there with some insight on this cause like I said, it's boggling my mind. lol