Becky

When my son was born, we were told that he had an undescended testicle. The doctor told us to watch out for it, and hopefully it would come down before he turned 1. It came down when he was around 9 months old. He's almost 6 now, and we noticed that his testicles looked slightly empty. We took him to the doctor, and she only felt one. This was the same testicle that was missing at birth, and then showed up. She is going to refer us to a urologist. But she had said it could be carcinogenic or it could have died. She thinks she felt it inside his groin area, but then it moved. Does anyone know what could be the problem? I looked it up online, and found that when a testicle disappears like that it could be due to the strong abdominal muscles the boy has. And then it resolves itself around puberty. But I could not find anything about a testicle easily moving around, or dying. I'm becoming impatient, even though we just found out today. I feel helpless that I can't get him to the specialist right now. I know it's too soon to get all worked up, but I keep hearing the doctor say "carcinogenic" and I have a panic attack. Has anyone heard of this? Thanks.

My 20 month old boy had regularly been taking a 2nd nap, and then one day he stopped. So, for 2 months now he has only been taking one nap, which ranges from 2 to 2 1/2 hours in the morning. If I'm feeling up to it, and he hasn't woken up too early, I can stretch out the time he's awake, and put him down for his nap after lunch. He'll eat lunch between 11 and 12. But, sometimes that doesn't work. So, my mom suggested I give him a morning nap, but cut it down to 1 hour. So, I did that. But, for 3 days now he will not take the 2nd nap. He has been surviving on 1 hour nap per day for 3 days now. What else can I do? I remember his older brother didn't do this until he was much older. I have cut down on t.v. noise, made my oldest son play quietly in his room, but nothing works. The fight usually begins around 1 pm, and I'll officially end it around 4 pm, because then it's too late. Please help!

My husband and I have been together 10 yrs, and married for 5 of those yrs. We have 2 children who are 5 and nearly 2 yrs old. Nearly a year ago my husband was contacted by the adoption agency that handled his adoption 30 yrs ago. They wanted to inform him that his biological mother was wanting to contact him. They asked if it would be ok to send him a letter she had written herself. He said ok, and he received the letter. Shortly after this he was laid off from his job, his car was stolen and burnt to a crisp. He became depressed, but due to the loss of his job, he was now able to spend more time with our 2 kids. Now a couple months shy of a year, he has a stable enough job, that he is starting to feel a little better about himself. But.. I'm wondering how he feels about his "mother" coming back into his life. I know the adoption agency contacted him about 6 months ago, but I don't know what it was about, and I know he hasn't sent a letter back to his "mother" through the agency. Do I have the "right" to ask him how he's feeling? I know he's always wanted answers, but he was never the kind to seek it out. He figured if she wanted to see him, she would do it first. And now she has. But, as a wife, his best friend, what am I allowed to ask? I don't want to open flood gates, and cause him to feel insecure again. He's always been reluctant to share things like this with me until much much later, or he assumes that I know. Do I ask him what's going on, or do I wait and let him tell me on his own?... which might never happen. I know it's his situation, but I am involved, being his wife and the mother of his children.

My parents are divorced, and have been for 12 yrs now. My dad is living with his girlfriend and her 3 daughters. The girlfriend is not much older than me. And I'm 28. So, my dad wants to bring his girlfriend and her kids to my son's birthday party. This will be the first time I meet her. I guess he thought that my son's birthday party would be a great way for all of us to meet each other. I'm not looking forward to the reaction of my mom, her sisters, and my dad's family when they meet this woman and see she is not much older than me. How do I deal with everybody gossiping, and possibly everyone being extremely uncomfortable? And I can not undo the invite, he's my dad, and we're in a good place in our relationship now. Please give me some advice as to what to do!