MirandaAllison77

I ll start by saying I m a 21 year old female who s usually very shy/reserved but in recent months have been coming into my own and being more confident. I was in a local Starbucks today and noticed a very cute barista working the register who took care of me. There was flirty banter, I hung out in the shop and left after finishing my drink, but in a bout of confidence went back into the shop after, purchased a water from the same girl, and slipped her a note telling her I thought she was extremely beautiful and left my number. First time EVER doing so.

Come later in the evening(9pmish), I get a text from her stating who it is, and thanking me for the note.

My question is: now what? I ve never done this before, and now I m nervous to text her back. What do I say at this point? Obviously she knows I m interested, but was she just being polite in texting me or do you think she s interested to?

Dating isn t my forte and I m kinda lost. Help.

I met a girl on Tinder back in the beginning of a year and we talked quite a bit/met up once before she had to go out of state to continue with her schooling. I was really interested in her, and got the vibe that she felt the same way. Long story short she ended up breaking contact because she was going to stay up north and didn't want to be in a long distance relationship long-term(which I get).

When we were still early into talking, she mentioned having a Tumblr, but we never delved too much into the subject of them. Now, I like to know the kind of person I'm talking to, especially if I find myself romantically interested in them as I did with her. What started off as me trying to find her Facebook account, I ended up coming across her Tumblr and have been secretly checking in on her even after she broke contact. Not obsessively, just to see how shes doing and get a feel for the things she's interested in. I've been doing this for a couple months now.

Recently I sent her a really genuine and sweet message on anonymous, just to hopefully make her happy that day and know that someone cares about her well-being. She replied and said it was incredibly sweet and all that, but also mentioned for whoever had written it to come off anon.

I want to admit to her that it was me who sent the message and explain how I came about finding her Tumblr, and try to pick up where we left off essentially, because I really did like this girl. How would you feel if someone admitted that to you?

Started talking to this girl on Tinder and started texting with her the other night. We were talking today and the conversation kind of trailed off, so we stopped, and just now she texted me out of the blue with "You re a babe." I kind of have no idea how to respond to that? Help?

Should say that we re both girls, shes 18, I m 20.

I'm a 20 year old girl + I began talking to a girl from Tinder a couple of weeks ago and within a couple days of talking we decided to meet up in person. We got to meet up once for ice cream and it was very nice, she was great and we both said we had a great time. The day or so after that she had to fly back to another state where she goes to school, and we mutually decided that we d love to keep chatting and hopefully meet up again next time shes home on break.

Since meeting up we ve texted almost every day. I really like her as a person and think I may be beginning to develop feelings for her. She s voiced that she likes me as well.

My thing is the texting, while great, seems to be getting stale and I would love to further our contact and maybe start video chatting or talking on the phone every once in a while but I m horridly unsure of how to voice this to her and am terrified she wont feel the same way and will reject the idea.

How could one bring this up and offer the idea in a subtle way?

I did have one idea, but am unsure how it would play out. When we started talking, before we met in person, she wanted to add me on Snapchat because she "likes to validate that people are who they say they are before I meet them" and then threw in "This is my subtle way of also trying to say Id like to meet you at some point (;" So I was thinking I could bring up something to do with talking to her and say that its my subtle way of wanting to talk to her on the phone. Good or bad?

I started talking to a girl on Tinder a couple days ago and we met up for the first time last night and hung out for a couple hours. Had what I thought was a nice time, and she texted me when she got home and we both said we had a good time.

I would like to talk to her again today but I texted her first yesterday morning and don't want to seem clingy or overbearing by texting her first 2 days in a row, especially because I was the one who asked for her number. It's now 1pm and I'm basically just looking for conformation that not texting her is the right choice. I feel like I've shown her that I'm interested(she was SUPER late meeting up last night but I stuck around and waited rather than calling the meet up off) and now I want to wait and see if she's still interested as well, which is my point in waiting for her to text first.

Good or bad decision? Should I just text her or wait and see if she texts first?

I got approved for my first car loan through my Credit Union today for $8,000 and have begun my car search(first car, woohoo!). I planned on trying to get approved for $10,000 but my mother was with me and convinced me that I could surely find what I want for 8.

Well... Now upon looking(and looking and looking....) I'm finding that the car I want is more in the $10-12,000 range.

Can I go back to my bank and ask them to approve me for more(I would like at least $10,000 like I originally wanted), or is that not allowed?

A group of friends and I play trivia every Monday. I usually text everyone and see if they're coming, so when I texted my one friend last night beforehand she said that she just got off work and was gonna run errands, that she wasn't coming. I took it as that the errands being the reason she wasn't coming(which was fine).

While on Facebook at trivia I saw that another one of her friends tagged her in a status regarding drinking and having fun, which clearly meant to me that she wasn't running errands so I was irritated.

I put a status on Facebook saying how much I hate people lying to me and today she messaged me asking if I was mad given that she had seen the status. At first I played it off like I didn't know what she was talking about, but felt she deserved honesty so I ended up telling her that yes I was aggravated at her and why, but made sure to tell her that I realized I had no right to get mad and she's not required to hang out with me and come to trivia.

She made it clear that she never said running errands was why she wasn't coming(which is true, I just took it that way) and that she doesn't like being called a liar when she's not.

I apologized to her but I know sorry doesn't fix everything. I'm just kind of worried that I may have ruined our friendship or at least put a dent in it.

I'm definitely backing off and wasn't planning on texting her for a few days. Is this a good idea? I don't want her to get mad at me anymore than she is.

Okay I'll start off by saying that I'm 20 years old and haven't kissed anyone since I was 15 and dating my ex. We broke up that year and dating/hooking up just isn't my forte so it's been a solid 5 years since I've kissed anyone. And back then I was too scared to make out, so that had never happened either.

Well a few weeks ago on a fun drunken night, a friend and I ended up making out at the bar we were at and then took things further at my place as she stayed the night. We've come to a "just friends" agreement since and all is 100% well between us.

Yesterday we went to an amusement park together and had a great time. We talked all day about a lot of stuff, but that night became the topic of conversation many times. On the way home we were talking and trying to piece together exactly what/when/how things happened(since we were both plastered lol) and she all of a sudden said to me "You're a good kisser". It caught me off guard BIG time and I know I turned 3 shades of red, chuckled and just said "Okay". I told her no ones ever told me that before and that I was wasted so I can't vouch for my skills or lack thereof. She laughed too and then we switched topics, but I can't help but feel like I didn't react appropriately? Idk what would have been the right way to react, and I guess that's what has me so paranoid.

Should I assume she was being genuine? Would she have said it if it weren't true?

We haven't kissed or anything since that night though I wouldn't be opposed.

I've been friends with a girl for a few months, we hooked up last week for the first time and have talked lots since then and both fully agreed to just be friends. Nothing's changed between us, everything is fine. We've hung out multiple times since and haven't had any awkward moments whatsoever.

We had an "honesty hour" the other night and she informed me that she felt something the night we hooked up(and always has) but that her feelings are all over the place and that she has someone else on her mind as well. I told her flat out that I'm happy to hear she likes me(I kind of like her as well), but that I refuse to be a second choice if anything were to happen between us.

Is this bad? Does she truly have feelings for me and am I "in the running" for real, or was this just to please me? She's the kind of person that is incredibly big on honesty and saying how you feel, so I don't think she was lying. She said she was telling me because she doesn't want to hurt me.

I like her as well but am perfectly fine with being friends with her right now, I enjoy spending time with her and cutting things off for any reason would be devastating. But I will admit that this is a little disheartening and I don't know how to feel about what she told me.

I have a relatively new friend that I began hanging out with in November. It started out tons of fun and we hung out a ton in the first month. December was still fun and we still hung out, but not as much. Now here we are and things kind of suck. She's always making plans, or going along with my plans, then backing out after saying "Yeah let's do it!". She's just done it again tonight and it's incredibly frustrating.

I will admit that we did hook up on a drunken blur of a night early this week, but we talked about that and mutually decided that everything was fine as is and we weren't gonna let it affect our friendship. Today was the first day I've hung out with her since and everything was perfectly fine, as it's always been. We hung out around 6 and made plans to go to the movies at 10 and now she's backed out. What do I do about this? I feel like it's too soon in our friendship to call her out on **** like this without seeming overbearing and pushing her away, but I'm not the kind of person to cancel plans once they're made and it frustrates the hell out of me.

I've known this girl through mutual people for a few years now. Around Thanksgiving she did a favor for me and we began talking and hanging out more after that. We hung out a few times, she helped me with a project once, we grabbed dinner, we've met up at the park with our dogs a few times(our dogs are huge for both of us), seen a movie, etc. All in about a month. I also take part in a weekly trivia tournament that she's tagged along to the past couple weeks, and sounds like she's going to become a regular at.

Every time that I've asked her to hang out lately though it's been "oh yeah, let's!" And then she doesn't get back to me and apologizes, or says she let me know and never does. We've both been working a ton and the park has been out of the question lately, but it seems like that's the only time I can get her to do something. I really wanna hang out with her more as I enjoy spending time with her, but I'm worried that I'm bugging her.

Should I stop trying to invite her out?

Or at least let her know that I hope her day is better?

I'll be up early (6am) tomorrow morning and want to send a friend something to hopefully start a new day off on the right foot after "an annoying day" today. What can I send her?

Everything I do and say, and every time I text or call or even talk to someone in person I'm always terrified that I'm really annoying them, and they spend the whole time wishing I would go away.

I know this isn't true, people invite me to do stuff often enough so obviously they like me to some extent. But I always fear they're doing it out of pity? Like I know people like me, it's just me inviting them out to do stuff that I have an issue with.

How can I get over this? I was a lot worse as a kid and now as a 20 year old barely do anything or talk to anyone because of this. I want to meet new people and make friends, and hang out with established friends more often, but my damn thoughts have me frozen with fear and prevent me from putting myself out there.

Help?

There's a girl in my college class who sits across the room from me, but with the way the class is set up we have direct visual contact with eachother.

I've never talked to her, but I find her rather beautiful and I've caught her looking at me on almost a daily basis(and vise versa, as I'll steal glances at her as well). One day she walked across the front of class to sign our attendance sheet and looked directly at me the whole time, smiling. I smiled back but that's about the extent of our contact with eachother.

Should I try to talk to her? This sounds kind of odd but I looked her up on Facebook and we have a couple mutual friends, but not enough for me to add her or anything.

I'm a rather shy individual when it comes to talking to people but I'm really trying to work on it. Should I just try to say hello one day or what? help :(

I just got my first tattoo yesterday of my first dogs paw print and a design. It's a beautiful tattoo and I love it. I still currently have the dog who's paw print is on me along with my other dog who means just as much to me as the one represented in the tattoo.

I'm planning to get a tattoo representing my other dog somehow, but his paw is quite a big bigger and I really don't want two different sized pawprints on me so I want to find a different way to represent him.

I thought about a small portrait of him done in a watercolor type tattoo, but I'm not sure yet.

Any ideas on how to represent my other dog without just doing his paw print(or name, I don't like that idea)?

I work for a successful dog grooming shop in Florida and have worked here for approx. 6 months. My duties include bathing the dogs for the groomers, brushing them out if needed, bathing/clipping nails/cleaning ears/brushing of dogs who come in just for a bath, cleaning the whole shop at the end of the day, checking dogs in/out, sometimes answering the phone, and coming in early in the morning/late at night to care for any dogs we have boarding at the shop which includes a whole other list of duties. I'm kind of my bosses right hand man and she has me "run things" when she isn't here. I often tell the groomers who gets what dogs and what to do in certain situations.

My pay has always been $5 per dog, and that's it. No hourly pay, no 50/50 for the strictly bath dogs, I get half of any nail clippings that I do(nail clippings are $7), and my boss will often pay me anywhere from $20-$50 extra at the end of the week for the stuff I do, but I'm still not making enough for what I need to cover.

I've been looking around and talking to people and most bathers I've noticed get paid hourly plus per dog in some cases.

I love my job and the people I work with/for, but everyone I know and love says I'm being taken advantage of and need to be payed more, especially in the trusted position I'm in.

Is this fair?

**Postin in the dog section in hopes of talking to other dog bathers who work at grooming shops**

Im pretty positive I'm crushing on my coworker hardcore. I think about her all the time, have dreams involving her(we kissed once in one dream, another time is was just random ****), I always find a way to bring her up in conversations and talk about how awesome she is, etc. She's been out of town the past two weeks and I've literally been counting down the days until she returns, I miss her being around so much.

It's not like this is a stalker-type thing, we text often and have hung out outside of work so I'm not just obsessing over her from afar, I just know that my crush would never turn into a relationship given our age/lifestyle differences(she's 10+ years older than me). I know she likes me, as she's told me(very seriously) if I were to quit our job that she would quit and that when she leaves she wants to take me with her, but I know she would never LIKE like me. She just likes me as a person and I'm cool with that, but god I can't get her out of my head.

I guess my question is, how can I get over this stupid crush? It's affecting potential relationships that I could have with other people because all I can think about is her and I compare whoever is interested in me to her, and they always lose.

How can I get her out of my head?