Lindsey

Okay, this might sound stupid but I'm completely serious here. I'm a writer, and I'm currently writing a scene where a guy masturbates, but the problem is I'm not a guy! I was hoping I could get some info like how it feels, technique, what to do, what not to do, etc. Any info is greatly appreciated, please be detailed and describe as much as possible! Thanks!

Ok there's really no category for this, but I'm putting it in parenting in the hopes of getting a good perspective because there's no way I can ask my own parents. I'm a 20 year old college student still living at home, and my sister is 13. The other day, she found a couple of my special "toys" in my room- completely my fault for forgetting to lock the damn drawer- she asked me what they were and said that she was really confused. (she's had a fairly sheltered upbringing and she knows about sex, but not much that goes beyond the basics) I was able to get away with telling her I had one item for my biology class and the other was a neck massager- I just froze up, I had no clue how to handle the situation! We're actually pretty open with each other and she's more comfortable coming to me with this kind of "girl" stuff than she is going to our parents.

But now I'm afraid that she's going to realize what the toys really are and she'll start using them secretly, which of course, is gross and unsanitary. I do have an extra vibrator that I haven't used, and I'm wondering whether I should tell her the truth and give it to her before she starts experimenting with mine. I feel like 13 is maybe still too young for something like that, but I know that even in just a 7- year age gap, the world is a much different place from when I was 13. Kids are becoming more sexually aware at younger ages all the time, so what's the harm in encouraging her to explore her body? It's natural and maybe it will keep her away from boys for awhile longer.

It's not something I'm going to discuss with my mother, because she doesn't know about my toys (although I know she has them too, and is not opposed to them) and that would be an incredibly awkward conversation, anyway. If my sister were 15 or 16, I wouldn't even blink, I'd probably just give her the vibrator, but I'm concerned that 13 is still too young for something like that. What should I do? I'd appreciated any advice or input on this! Thank you!

Hi everyone. I was fired from my job 2 days ago, and now after the initial shock has worn off a bit, I'm looking for some perspective on this. To give a little background info, I was working at Kohl's from May 2012 through November 2012- about 6 months. I was fired after I rang up a costumer (the order came up to about $120) and she gave me two $100 bills, so I gave her about $80 back in change. This happened around noon on a Saturday, I was the only cashier available, and the line of costumers was huge. I was trying to move through the line quickly, and as a result, I did not check to see if the two $100 bills were counterfeit. It turns out they were.

The next time I went into work, I was called into the manager's office where I was met by the head of loss prevention and 3 other supervisors at my store. They informed me that I accepted counterfeit money, and they could prove it because the cash drawer had been emptied before I began ringing at that register, and they were the only two $100 bills in the register that day. Plus, they had a "very nice video" confirming that I seemed "very friendly" with this particular costumer, and that indicated to them that I knew her and was in on the scheme. I tried to tell them that I didn't know her, but it didn't matter to them. They told me that I violated company policy, and in their eyes, I was just as guilty as the person who counterfeited the money, and that I was therefore immediately terminated.

This is the first time an issue had come up with my work performance, and I'm shocked that I was fired on this first offense. I've been a loyal employee during my time at Kohl's, pushing their charge card to every costumer (because all management cares about is how many credit applications you get each day) and sacrificing family events to go to work. I feel completely blind sighted by this, because even though I know a made a mistake that cost a multi-million dollar company $280, I can't believe it had such drastic consequences.

So all I'm wondering is if anyone has had an experience like this before? Is this even legal? I'm not looking for a lawsuit or anything over a minimum wage cashier job, but shouldn't I have gotten a verbal warning first? It was an honest mistake, and now I'm left without a job right before Christmas. I'd like to hear some thoughts on this or if anyone has had a similar experience. I know this is long- thanks for reading.