Destiny E

Also my husband is verbally abusive. I am five months pregnant, and I am scared. I need to have someplace to go, I know. But it seems like no one believes that this is happening, or just encourages me to do something different, like this is my fault.

I am a Christian and divorce is looked down upon, but I also realize that anyone, especially a mate, who doesn't respect and love the other person, is sinning. And this makes God angry.

What should I do? I feel like I need to take care of myself and my baby, but I also don't want to be the "scarlett letter" and be called a bad Christian. I know this will spread all over town and church like wildfire. Any advice?

My husband and I applied for MaineCare a few months ago and got denied because he made too much money. Now the lady told us that being pregnant does change things. I was just wondering if my husband still makes too much money. He works 40 hours at 14.75 an hour, to be close.

Anyway, if you could help me that would be great! We don't want to waste an afternoon sitting for two hours just to be told we don't qualify again.

Here is a little backround. I was placed in foster care when I was two years old and was adopted when I was four years old. Ever since I could remember I had this small teddy bear. My adoptive parents said I always had it. So I have always thought it was from my birth mother. That teddy bear named "Teddy" has always been a comfort and still is, even at 25 years old.

I want children everywhere, but especially foster children and adopted children, to have a teddy bear. Being seperated from a parent is extremely hard and emotional even years later. My idea was to give these children, all of them, a teddy bear.

What do you think? Does it sound like a good idea?

There is no one to talk to about this, only you. I really need something today to pull me through. I am in an unstable marriage. It is falling apart before my eyes. I have done everything I know how, even am willing to go to counseling. I can't change my husband. He doesn't want to. I feel undervalues, unheard, and like nobody in this marriage and in my life. I just need a friend. Someone to care about me again. I want a hug. I just don't know, except that God cares.

For example: He came home last night and I was cooking a quick meal before we had to leave. He got upset that it was quick and proceeded to tell me I was lazy. Now he won't speak to me, only to tell me that he will not forget this and he will use it against me.

He always seems to want things his way and I have to cater to his every need. He calls me names, follows me everywhere, or asks where I am going, goes to counseling but acts all supernice. There are other things. All the while he puts me down by telling me that I should just forget about my adoption, former abusive relationship and anxiety/depression behind me. He is not here for me, I want him to try to understand but he only wants it done his way. Should I wait to see if he changes, or leave now?

So anyway, I felt pressured into it, the course, but I also wanted to take the class but not fully. So I am in the class now for the third week and have driven an hour. I already had an anxiety attack during that hour with the instructor. I want to not take the class now because I feel that I am not ready to drive and I don't want to have anything happen. I take meds, but have not taken it in a week because I couldn't afford over $300 a month for it and I am going to call my nuerologist tomorrow to see if I can go on another one. Hopefully its less money. I want to get help for the anxiety once again and be really evaluated by doctors who can help me. My question is, do you think that I am making the right decision about this and do you think that I am a failure for not following through my class?

I am scared. I get tense when he comes home from work and I don't want to be intimate with him anymore. Whenever I voice my opinion or say something I feel, he gets all upset and flies off the wall. He says it starts fights. That I am messed up and I have issues. That I am always upset and crying. He also doesn't want to hardly ever visit family mine or his because he says gas is too expensive.

He was married before and the girl's mother said to me that he was abusive toward her daughter. But my husband denies it. Saying that the girl has problems as does the family. He thinks that people talk behind his back and he doesn't like that but it is only giving their opinion. I want to leave but I don't know if anyone will believe me because my husband is nice in public but not behind closed doors.

I just feel like he trapped me with marriage and now if I leave him I will be hated by everyone because I broke a promise.

This has been happening for at least a year. I go to sleep and I wake up out of a normal dream like I can't breath. My head feels weird and I now I feel tingly in my left side and see red dots when this happens. I have talked to a doctor, he says I might have to do a sleep test.

I do have epilepsy, but it is usually because of the sunlight. Only once it was because of dehydration. I have only had three. The only thing maybe is epilepsy, or stress? I had a church breakup that was very stressful and am still not over it about the time this started and just got married three months ago. Please help me!

The only thing is that there are warning signs everwhere about these people, especially the ex mil. She is nice one minute then mad the next. My husband wants to just get the rest of his stuff out( he has some tools in their garage, he is getting them asap!) and just move on. But this family just can't move on past theor daughter's divorce from him. They want to "get to know me" while telling my husband that this marriage will be failed just like the last one. What do I do? I am scared they want to break us up. Did I mention this family lives right down the road?