Alexander

Been in a relationship just over a year. She gets drunk and then gets violent with me. The violence has progressed to occur in sobriety now. I had my head smashed against a wall the other day.

But I am the one who will carry her to her bed when she is intoxicated, I am the one who will wake her up with coffee and breakfast, I am the one who will help her out when her car is broken.

I asked for help with my car and she told me to eff myself. I stay with her because she has a kid and she would not be able to afford the rent and all (her) the bills if I left her.

I work in the same company as her. She makes fun of me in front of the people and ignores me whenever we go out. She wants me to move to another city to earn a bigger salary so that she can sit on her butt and do nothing, she said she would come down if she had a job securely there.

I know that I am going to be told that I am not a man, but I am emotionally involved with her. I don't think that I will be able to bear the guilt if I left her. I have ulterior residence in the event I ever left her, but it is not me that I am worried about, it is her. She will not be able to cope financially. There is a lot more that I have left out, but you can see in what direction it is going.

I honestly don't know what to do. I cannot afford to pay my own dues (such as my car breaking down), because my money goes to her.