BearPuncher

Ok, so I'm a college aged guy and I have some problems with relationships. Mostly that I have never really had one.

I know that the issue could probably be resolved pretty easily if I asked people out, but I always seem to lack the confidence. I really don't think i have too many reasons to not be confident, but my couple insecurities always seem to get in my way.

Whenever I meet a girl I like, I usually make one of these excuses not to ask her out.

1) I don't know her well enough

2) She probably already has a boyfriend

3) She probably doesn't like me enough to go out with me

4) If I get rejected, it will create an award situation

5) She is absolutely crazy (by absolutely crazy I mean stressed out)

I'm really confused because several girls have called me a "nice guy" but I never really know what that means these days. However, for the most part I really have no clue how most girls feel about me.

I would consider myself a fairly interesting person. I do boxing, soccer, play guitar, I'm applying to med school, and many people tell me I'm funny. Heck, most people who don't know me too well would probably think I'm a fairly confident person. Nevertheless, I never even mustered up the confidence to get a girl's phone number, much less ask one out.

I do have a couple of insecurities, which are I'm fairly short (5'6''), I fear I'm unattractive, and I am always afraid my friends do not like me.

Do I really have any reason not to be confident? Are my fears unwarranted? Is there any way to fix the mess of a person I have become?

Ok, so there is this girl who sits in front of me in one of my college classes that I recently realized I was attracted to. She seems like the nerdy/intelligent type who likes to have fun. I suppose her individual features wouldn't seem the most attractive to most people, but for some reason I am into her (probably because I perceive her as intelligent and I tend to be attracted to intelligent women).

Anyways, I have talked with her a little in class, but it was mostly superficial or we were having a discussion about something related to the class. I would like to get to know her better but I have no idea how to go about starting a good conversation with her. Much less determining if she is interested in me at all.

I tend to be a shy person at first, but I'm fairly outgoing once I open up a little. However, I have never had the guts to really ask a girl out, and I tend to avoid people when I realize I like them. When it comes to classroom situations I always fear that if I ask a girl out or show any type of interest she would end up avoiding me.

Ok, so I'm a college aged guy and I have some problems with relationships. Mostly that I have never really had one.

I know that the issue could probably be resolved pretty easily if I asked people out, but I always seem to lack the confidence. I really don't think i have too many reasons to not be confident, but my couple insecurities always seem to get in my way.

Whenever I meet a girl I like, I usually make one of these excuses not to ask her out.

1) I don't know her well enough

2) She probably already has a boyfriend

3) She probably doesn't like me enough to go out with me

4) If I get rejected, it will create an award situation

I'm really confused because several girls have called me a "nice guy" but I never really know what that means these days. However, for the most part I really have no clue how most girls feel about me.

I would consider myself a fairly interesting person. I do boxing, soccer, play guitar, I'm applying to med school, and many people tell me I'm funny. Heck, most people who don't know me too well would probably think I'm a fairly confident person. Nevertheless, I never even to muster up the confidence to get a girl's phone number, much less ask one out.

I do have a couple of insecurities, which are I'm fairly short (5'6''), I fear I'm unattractive, and I am always afraid my friends do not like me.

Do I really have any reason not to be confident? Are my fears unwarranted? Is there any way to fix the mess of a person I have become?