Julie

We never have sex anymore. I do not feel special at all and whenever he wants to have sex, I don't. I cringe every time he tries. He says I am not engaging enough in the bedroom. He says I don't do physically interact enough, which is true. We were both virgins before we met, but I feel so inadequate when it comes to sex. He wants things that I can't give. I have TMJ so my jaw gets tired anytime I use my mouth and I have bad knees so I can't be on top very long. I am very uncomfortable with anal play, but he really wants to try it. He doesn't understand foreplay and if anything he does hurts, he gets angry.

His dad cheated on his mom because she wouldn't do certain things in the bedroom and I think my husband feels like it was justified. When he gets tired of me saying no, is he going to do the same thing?

Also, He has always had a problem with porn. I tried not to think about until one day a close friend said that if they were in my situation they would think every time my husband wanted to try something new in the bedroom is because he saw someone else do it somewhere else. Now I can't help but think of everything he has seen and how I am compared to them. Before we got married he acted like he understood women and how we worked so well, but the longer we are married the more he forgets how to even touch me right and the angrier he gets.

My whole family and all our friends thought marrying him was a mistake, now I wonder, were they right? Would I be better off alone?

I just want to feel special. Is that too hard to ask? It would be so much easier for him to say sweet things to me and get me in the mood than me try to conquer all of my thoughts and feelings every single time he wants to do it.