My husband and I have been married almost 3 years and he is depressed/angry all the time.?

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We never have sex anymore. I do not feel special at all and whenever he wants to have sex, I don't. I cringe every time he tries. He says I am not engaging enough in the bedroom. He says I don't do physically interact enough, which is true. We were both virgins before we met, but I feel so inadequate when it comes to sex. He wants things that I can't give. I have TMJ so my jaw gets tired anytime I use my mouth and I have bad knees so I can't be on top very long. I am very uncomfortable with anal play, but he really wants to try it. He doesn't understand foreplay and if anything he does hurts, he gets angry.

His dad cheated on his mom because she wouldn't do certain things in the bedroom and I think my husband feels like it was justified. When he gets tired of me saying no, is he going to do the same thing? 
Also, He has always had a problem with porn. I tried not to think about until one day a close friend said that if they were in my situation they would think every time my husband wanted to try something new in the bedroom is because he saw someone else do it somewhere else. Now I can't help but think of everything he has seen and how I am compared to them. Before we got married he acted like he understood women and how we worked so well, but the longer we are married the more he forgets how to even touch me right and the angrier he gets.

My whole family and all our friends thought marrying him was a mistake, now I wonder, were they right? Would I be better off alone?

I just want to feel special. Is that too hard to ask? It would be so much easier for him to say sweet things to me and get me in the mood than me try to conquer all of my thoughts and feelings every single time he wants to do it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Since when is SEX everything in a marriage?  Your husband is being so inconsiderate, selfish, uncaring, how sad for you!  Why should you have to put up with this. He is only after what HE WANTS AND WANTS and not CARING a  bit about you...Don't let him do this to you. He will keep making you feel like NOTHING till it destroys you..

smyser · Answer

Sounds like your husband demands to take manipulate and inform his son to begin respecting you otherwise he'll be punished. You husband demands to step up with this. It might be a little bit special if this boy had no different mom to care for him however he has a truly mom. You have performed the excellent you'll be able to however it is time in your husband to have a speak along with his son and probably his ex and inform them each that you're to be revered. This is not quite the little one's fault. He is torn within the center among 2 households and the principles of habits are naturally inconsistent among the 2. He's most often burdened. Just attempt to get threw every day sooner or later ata time. Good good fortune.

waiting for baby · Answer

can you RUNNNNNNNNNNNNN OF SO RUNNNNNNNNNNN
the man is abusive and a very bad lover '
he like to watch Porn BUT he is not learning anything 
maybe you should buy him a book on how to satisfy a woman and tell him that the reason you don't like sex with him is because you never satisfy 
that should stop him from being so selfish 
It seems that we women always try to not hurt our man while they  care how they hurt 
for example he is blaming you for him being a bad lover, a jerk, and abuser 
but the truth is it is him who is a bad lover and he refuse to acknowledge that fact 
Ask him if his father has ever find what he was looking for and if he answer that he must because he is remarried with someone else; say are you sure maybe he after leaving your mom he discover that is was him all alone that was a bad lover 
that should leave him speechless and now you hand him the book and say start reading darling because you are a bad lover 
and you will not have a chance to leave me, I will be the one leaving if things can't change 
Girl  you ask if you will be better off alone, well you are alone

8 · Answer

Better off alone?  probably because it sounds like you are alone emotionally anyway.  It sounds like your husband is a thoughtless jerk.  Any man knows the sex is better for himself if the woman is ready, not only that, but if she isn't ready, that is about the same as rape imo.  Plus, a real man wants to GIVE pleasure as well as receive it.  To your husband, sex is simply sex, he doesn't comprehend the concept of making love. Sex for the sake of sex is great too, but there has to be mutual agreement and complete trust.  I sound like a broken record BUT- here goes- life is short, find someone that loves and respects you.

? · Answer

The #1 cause of divorce in America starts with porn and then leads to other people, he is watching porn stars preform for money, next time he ask for anal or something else you do not want to do, ask him what he is paying because he pays to watch it.

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My husband and I have been married almost 3 years and he is depressed/angry all the time.?

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