Is 23 too young to get  married?? ?

Age isn't the issue

Hi it is admirable that you are looking to be committed and honor your relationship with your girlfriend. In regards to your question, I don’t feel your age is the issue, but are you ready for the responsibility. If dating is like flying a kite, marriage is like piloting a plane. You’ll need considerably more skill and effort to deal with the turbulent challenges​—but you can succeed. I attached two articles that can help you to have a realistic view of marriage. They can help you to be more prepared for the unexpected challenges, all the best.

What can I expect from marriage Part 1

https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2012-09...

What can I expect from marriage Part 2

https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2012-10...

https://www.jw.org/finder?srcid=share&prefer=conte...

You may not be.  I married quite a bit younger than you.  We met and grew together as if we were a single person.  We became psychologically as close as the best identical twins.  And we have already had 50 wonderful years together.   It is noticeable that as the age of first marriage has increased over the years so has been the rate of divorce.  Coincidence?  PS I agree with TJ. Live together as husband and wife and build all those bonds BEFORE you even consider children.  They put a strain on any marriage and you want it to be strong first.

Statistics on marriages involving people under 25 are pretty grim. So you face about an 88% chance of divorcing. But maybe you'll enjoy a few years of wedded bliss before you realize you maybe should have lived more life before settling down. Or you'll be in the minority of couples who marry too young but are still able to keep it together. 

We fall madly in love, don’t we, thinking (feeling rather) that it will last forever and is enough for a serious relationship. However, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long. Eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course). If couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. If a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship will probably peter out eventually - or worse. Quite often we fall in love because we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us. Thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful. This is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sexually involved. Sex can be emotionally bonding, which is disastrous if the other things are not there: strong friendship, similar values and standards, common interests, etc.

At your age, I'd recommend a long engagement. Males in particular take some time to get to know their adult selves. You got together at around twenty, and your are probably both rather inexperienced. Still in college, perhaps. 

Good Luck!

Yes it is.. I got married (2nd marriage) at the age of 52.  1st marriage.. I personally was too young.  I was immature and really was not ready for the commitment.  But now.. I am.  But.. hey thats me.

If you're financially secure and confident you are able to provide and protect your future wife and children....then move forward, if not, you will quickly learn after the fact that you will need much more than love to survive a marriage.

There is no rush....if she's really the one. 

the right age to get married is when you meet and are committed to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.  My wife had just turned 19 and I was 20 when we married.  We are coming up on 48 years together and have never regret it for a second.  We have four children who married at 20, 24, and 28.  The last is 31 and still single with no plans to marry in the foreseeable future.  All three that are married have strong marriages.  

It is true that couple who marry later in life tend to stay together longer.  They are coming into the relationship more mature and usually better off financial (which does make a big difference.)  But the right time to marry is when you meet that person you know you want to spend the rest of your life with.

You two have been together for 3 years and it seems like you both have thought it through, and discussed it at length and that is more important then your age.  I was married to my wife and already had child number 1 at the same age but we had been together since we were 16 and knew we were ready (as possible).  Marriage isn't a requirement, and neither you nor her should be pressuring the other (if that's the case) so unless there are cultural or religious reasons why you couldn't just keep things as they are, it's something to consider.

Everyone is different. You're not too young. Just don't forget to always work on your relationship and not to take it for granted.