I don't know why my female friend won't give me a chance. This is what turn good guys bad. why is she so shallow?

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She said we have different values as far as kids because she doesnt want any and I do but i told her she might possibly change her mind in the future. sometimes when you meet an amazing person it makes you want to change your mind. she would make a great mother. we are all 33. She didn't give me a chance. we only went on one date and  she immediately said "I'm not feeling this. I know what kind of energy i'm attracted to and this isn't it. I don't want to drag it out. I'm not even going to waste your time. I know what i like." I was telling her i'm different from other guys and will treat her like a queen and she was like "you're not getting it. you don't realize how serious i am. i'm not about to be harassed into dating someone i don't want to. i hate being pressured. I'm saying this in the nicest possible way that i'm not into you but we can remain friends." and i was like " this is why good men want to turn bad. women only care about looks." pretty sure she was lying about being attracted to energy. pretty sure he wouldnt talk to me because i was short. She's a gorgeous woman very slender and has pretty eyes and long hair. I should have known she would be shallow and vapid

A · Answer

You are the one who just doesn’t get it. She isn’t attracted to you. She told you in the clearest way possible. You’re not her type. And the desire to have kids or not is something that needs to be considered. You cannot assume you can change her mind. She has made it very clear what she wants, and you seem to think you can change her. She doesn’t want a guy to try to change her, she wants a guy who wants her just the way she is. Most women care about a lot more than just looks. I have no idea what you look like and I can already tell you that there’s no way I’d be attracted to you.

Andrew Smith · Answer

She has done what every person SHOULD do.  a) she has been clear.  She tried a date.  It didn't work for her.  b) she doesn't want kids, you do.  There is a conflict and this is truly a deal breaker. You should not proceed with such a conflict.  So she is right and you are wrong.  OK?

Sophie · Answer

Dude.... I'm gonna tell it to you straight.

She told you clearly that she isn't interested. Which means...she's not interested. She's not going to change her mind, the more you harass her over it. Get over her, it's not gonna happen. Put yourself on bumble, list your interests, and go find a woman that has the same personality as you. Seems like you're only caring about her looks, as well, since you literally listed nothing about her, personality wise.

Hopeless · Answer

It's her preference. You have to respect that. It hurts but you can't always get what you want

Margie · Answer

You aren’t a good man. You are already awful. Listen to her words and have some basic respect for her. She doesn’t want to be with you. It doesn’t matter why. Maybe it is because you are short but more likely it’s because you are a misogynistic creep who thinks he is entitled to a woman’s attention for no reason. She doesn’t owe you a thing, not even an explanation. She has told you she doesn’t want to be with you and you are making up reasons but it doesn’t matter. You are already showing her that you would NOT treat her like a queen because you can’t even listen to her when she speaks. You assume she doesn’t know what she wants, that you do, and that you can give that to her. Please leave her alone. Please get psychological help because saying “this is what makes good guys want to go bad” is literally a threat.

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I don't know why my female friend won't give me a chance. This is what turn good guys bad. why is she so shallow?

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