Nati

I dreamed i went out for dinner with my ex husband. We went to some yum cha place. He pissed me off because he parked in the disabled parking spot at the door. We went in, sat down and ordered but instead of having yum cha we got one little plate each. Once we'd eaten that, we got up to leave and were shown through the back door. There was a counter in a reception area but o one was there. I got out my purse to pay but he said not to worry about it so we went outside. The area wasn't where we'd parked the car and yet there was his car, his old car, but all down the drivers side had been smashed in. Normally he would have lost it but it was like he couldn't see it. So I told him "there's karma for ya" and that was it. And clues what it's all about

This is the 2nd time i have dreamed about hosting a childrens party at my mums house. This time the kids were teens and they had taken over the kitchen and they were loud and boisterous. I sat in the lounge in an arm chair in one corner of the room and in the other corner sat my ex husband. Where there is usually a couch there was nothing....last time it was the bath missing out of the bathroom? I was reading or working and not really engaged in the party or with my ex but he droned on and on (he is not a talker) chatting about his every day life and what he's been up to. I mostly ignored him but in the end I snapped and told him I couldn't care less why was he evn speaking with me and what was he even doing there at my mums. I reminded him we are getting divorced so that means I don't have to be interested in anything he says anymore...in reality i don't have anything to do with him.i am struck by the party situation and by it being at my mums....same thing twice?

I dreamed i was hosting a childrens birthday party at my mums place in her corridor. One of the kiddies was complaining about being sick and the more i tried to tell her about using the bathroom if she was going to hurl, the more agitated she got.so i rushed her to the bathroom. It was identical to my mums only the bath was missing. In its pace was a pile of rotting food stuff. I was appalled but shoved the little girl towards the toilet. When i turned back there was excrement piled on top of the food and there were 2 ginger looking cats sniffing looking like they were going to sit on top of it. My first reaction was that the excrement looked too big to be cat poo or even dog poo. My 2nd thought was that the cats were alike except one appeared well cared for and the other was quite dishevilled and then i thought "but mum only has 1 cat" when actually she has none. When I woke my heart was racing. Cats aren't good in dreams are they?

I keep having a recurring dream where I am punching my ex but it feels like I can't touch him, i know i am making contact but i am not achieving anything. Even i think its funny while i am swinging away at him. Last night though i gave him a really good walloping, the sound was great, there were red marks on him. It was very satisfying. Why has it been so hard in previous dreams and what was different last night? I think the other notable thing was that he actually seemed remorseful and sorry in last nights dream.... Any connection do you think?

My 49 year old husband left after 18 years of marriage to start a relationship with a 22 year old girl he has been in an online relationship with for 7 months. It's not a typical affair, he did not spend money or have credit cards to spend on her, he never worked late or spent time with her on weekends. I know he was on the computer every living minute but as an IT man I had no reason to think this was odd. I am having trouble seeing how he could have gotten to know her more intimately without these factors and have come to the conclusion that he must have been ditching work and probably screwing her in my home???? I don't know. Either way I am happy he is gone. It was like living with a zombie and I think the 22 year old is welcome to him. What I'm wondering is, do these kind of relationships last. Is she thinking he is a meal ticket, (she will be sadly mistakenI have seen to that, i put my kids first!) is he just in it for a good time? And will her now being pregnant make a difference? My friends all say it won't last but is she is happy ever after? Thanks

I dreamed I awok and my ex was standing in my bedroom in his dressing gown and pjs rifling through the drawers in my bedside table. I yelled at him and asked him ow the hell he'd gotten in my house. He laughed meanly at me, grabbed a pile of papers and came around to kss me good bye but I understood this to be a threatening action so pulled the overs over my head. He snathched the overs, laughed again and stormed off. Immediately I jumped outof bed and ran to follw him. He had completely pulled out the locks and door handle out pf the door but it had snibbed shut. I had to squeeze my finger into push the snib back and ran out the front to continue follwing him. He had already begun to back out of the drive. His back window was wide open and there was a white haired infant half hanging out the window. As ex reversed out onto the road the infant fell out of the window. I ran down and picked child up and ran back to the house locking te security grill so ex had noway back in then I woke up.....

Last night I dreamed my ex and I were waiting somewhere with our daughter who was an adult instead of the teen she is. I think we were at an airport but didn't recognise the place. I didn't want my ex to be there and was trying to ignore everything he was chatting about until he brought up the subject of our settlement. Without looking at him I told him to take it up with his solicitor. I have no recollection what his reply was but it set off alarm bells. I turned to look at him and he looked completely different. Gaunt, his eyes stand out the most, they were like cartoon eyes all googly and spinning and changing size and he was making popping and buzzing sounds with his mouth. I calmly asked him if he was using drugs (he is as straight laced a person I have ever met) to which he replied that he was and he kept saying the word "drugs" over and over with all manner of sound effects and his crazy eyes were really out of control. I waited for an opportunity and when he wasn't looking my daughter and I ran outside of this building and went looking for somewhere to hide. We found a spot surrounded by beautiful greenleafy trees. We were completely hidden from the world and we sort of camped out there with my parents and my other children. But I was constantly expecting him to find us. I don't think I was scared so much as disturbed. Is this some sort of sign do you think? What should I be looking for?

So the plot thickens. In around about way i discovered by myself that my 50 year old husband of 18 years has been having an online relationship with a 20 year old motivational speaker who makes dreams come true especially for teens. I'm sure my teens will be thrilled. I have a vision of her talking him into quitting his job to follow his dream and hence leaving my children being kicked out of their school.I can afford to take over the mortgage and want it transferred into my name but i understand that will mean giving him money. If i do that i can see her fulfilling her dream of travelling with my money ( and me losing all sense of my dreams) she has done this before with a 54 year old last year. What i was thinking was that i could pay him but legally have that money put in trust to cover my kids education costs. Has anyone heard of that situation happening? I have struggled for 18 years, fixing his messes. Just when i thought everything would be ok he has created a whole new kind of mess. I want to put my kds first....and i dont want some 20 year old girl to walk away with everything i have

What is wrong here? When i first met my husband he was really into cycling.....because his frend was. He changed jobs and was working in a winery.....so he became a wine connosseur. He changed jobs to work for a football nut and suddenly became interested in footy, then he met a crowd who were into woodwork, then it was guitars. His current crowd have all separated from their wives.....needless to say we are now going through sepration, him walking out on 3 children. We have had our ups and downs but pretty much from the beginning he has been emotionally unavailable, he has been secretive and dishonest. He cant give me a straight answer about anything, we just keep going round and round in circles. I dont really know why he has left. One of his reasons is that he is a loner, but mybe i was just one of his fads. Why do men like that marry? Why would a loner be trying to fit in so badly? What is really going on that I cant see?

I am driving very quickly because I am running late and I pull up right outside an old fashioned church, backed up within feet of the double doors. I race around to the boot and whilst changing my runners for some decent shoes I notice there is an old canvas directors style chair between my car and the church building. My first thought is "that is for the mother", but I am thinking my grandmother will be sitting there after. A woman comes and opens the doors behind me and peers inside, then turns and says "it's too full, we wont get in this side, we'll have to go around". I smile at her apologetically and explain that she shouldn't wait for me, it's my sister and I'm already late. She goes off and I enter the church. I don't think I even see the coffin but I instantly realise that it's my daughters funeral, that I am the mother and the canvas chair has been put there for me. I woke myself up by calling out "oh no" outloud. This dream has been haunting me for a week and I feel overcome by a sense of melancholy. What's it all about?

L dreamed I bought a holiday house really cheaply without ever having seen it and then stumbled across the address of the house so asked if I could see it even though we hadn't taken over occupancy yet. It was a magnificent tree house and the only thing that troubled me about it was that there was a spa bath and shower outside but not even a fence stopping the neighbours watching.

it was night. I was at my grand mothers. she asked me and my daughter to do something with her outside. She started splashing at a building which i thought was stupid my daughter, much younger in my dream, got splashed..I realised my grandmother had an oil can. She pushed us away and set alight the building. I feared for her and my daughter. Ran inside to call emergency. My dad and uncle were running around in the house as though stressed, the lights inside were strange. We couldn't find the phone. Eventually I rang the fire dept, and went outside, pulled my grandmother away, but by that stage the building was nothing but smoldering blackness on the ground. We hid behind a big bush which still exists in her backyard. When the fire guy arrived he basically did a standup comedy routine before leaving...end of dream.

I'd love some ideas to transform an old blue painted timber mirror frame,and give it a more chinese look. My daughter is wanting a room transformation and love anything asian, she has new bed clothes, lots of red and black. How can I transform the mirror to fit more into the new decor?

I have always liked the idea of having a baked ham at christmas and this year seeing as christmas dinner will be at my house, I'm going to give it a go. BUT what sort of ham do i use? I have bought a hickory smoked...the recipe i was going to use was Nigellas Ginger glazed ham. It has to be boiled in dry ginger ale and then glazed with ginger preserve/mustard. Do I really need to boil it? Can I just glaze it and bake? Is it ok it is smoked etc, can I still glaze it or is there no point?

Thanks and good wishes for the season to you all

I do the same job in 2 different places, one is fantastic, warm welcoming...the other is humiliating and negative. My horrible environment is making me sick, I feel like crying at the thought of going. I have been thinking about taking leave without pay from this place but still keeping the 2 days in my other workplace. Financially it will put a of pressure on us, but I have these visions of growing my own veg will cut grocery expenses...and maybe doing some casual work. Is this a realistic idea? Can the Good life happen in todays world? What can I do?

All the people at work are on FB and it seems to e a fantastic social hub, I have logged on and accepted friends but unless someone is commenting on my posts I can't see the point of it. I feel like I am waiting around for something to happen. What, if any, are the merits of being on FB? I'm thinking about just discontinuing.

I have been getting these amazing sharp stabbing pains in my eyes, almost like it's been pricked by a hair or something but it is never that. It is uually my left eye and my instant reaction is to rub it to get out what ever is causing the pain. I think, though I am not sure, it has mostly happened as I've moved my head suddenly. It has happened a few times this year but not with any remarkable frequency. Has anyone heard of this...know what it might be? Thank you

I had 2 dreams last night, both were on the scary side and I am wondering whether anyone might give me some insight. The first dream I was driving. It was night time, dark and it was a country road so no lights. As I was driving I seemed to be falling side ways or lying down or something, like I was falling asleep, but I kept driving and nothing happened it's just that I couldn't see over the dash board, so I'd right myself but even though I kept turning the lights on it was still too dark and I had to keep checking that my eyes were actually open, physically using my fingers to pry my eyelids apart????

Then I was at home (though not my home, it was like some display place, and I was a kid sitting at the table doing maths homework, and a woman came in and put a baby on a bench. Because the bench was quite narrow I thought that wasn't a very safe thing to do. The baby was very quiet, just lying there looking around. It stayed there for ages and I kept wondering when it was going to cry, thinking it would be hungry or need a nappy change. Eventually after what seemed to be hours we were going out, mother figure had already started making her way to door and other kids and I were rushing out the door, I looked accross and the baby was still exactly where it had been, completely forgotten, except that one leg on it's jump suit had been pushed up around the knee, I thought it had been forgotten so I went ot grab it and got the impression the babe was a sleep, but as I touched it's leg I realised it was probably dead, and on closer inspection it seemed smaller than it had originally been and may infact have been a doll but I was so shocked I woke up. What do you think?