Barney Stinson

My spouse and I were having a light hearted conversation the other day, when I asked the question "Do you think we're soulmates?"

The answer I received was "Yeah, probably".

Needless to say, I wasn't too thrilled with that response, so I'm curious as to what other people perceive that answer as being.

Full Disclosure : We have both been married before.

Men,

When you marry for the first time, you have invested all of your hopes and dreams into this one person. This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, have children and raise them with, travel the world with, and love forever.

You spend 20 years with this person doing those exact things. Then the relationship sours and your wife leaves you, takes your kids, all your money, and proceeds to make the rest of your life a living hell.

Then you meet a woman who loves you more than the sun, the moon, and life itself.

You love her as a dear friend, but not IN love with her, although you really like her and

enjoy her company.

You are lonely and need a companion. The second woman gets your humor and makes you laugh. The sex is out of this world, but it is only a physical release for you, no emotion involved.

Is it fair to marry the second woman knowing you will never love her as much as you loved the first?

My spouse works out of town.

The absences are from two weeks to 30 days at a time.

Then he is home for a day or two, and gone again for two more weeks.

Repeat.

Out of 142 days (so far) this year, I have seen him 20 days.

We have no kids at home, so I am alone.

We just moved to a new state 6 months ago, so I have not made any "good" friends yet.

I do have a job and have met a few nice people, but this is a small clique-ish town.

I am so lonely I could cry (and sometimes I do).

He knows exactly how I feel about him being gone so much.

In this economy jobs are very scarce, BUT he has not made an effort to find another one.

I'm not the cheating type of woman, but lately I have entertained the idea of going out for a drink just to chase away the blues.

He is a good man, but I am feeling incredibly neglected and unloved.

I have made extensive efforts to look for and send him job postings. He largely ignores them.

I don't know what to do. I have never felt so alone in my life.