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Im 20 and one of my wisdom teeth is coming in. It hurts really bad and is super swollen but I’m not sure if that’s just pain from eruption or if it’s infected. The pain started so suddenly and has been going on for about 3 days. Here’s the thing though... next week I’m going out of town on a family vacation for 2 weeks . Is it safe to wait until after the vacation to get them removed ? Or is this going to cause severe problems that could permanently damage me ? A lot of money has been spent on this vacation and it can’t be refunded because it involves tickets and reservations etc. I’ve been planning this for a year and I’d really hate to not be able to go. So is 3 weeks a safe amount of time to wait ?

My ex and I had generally a very great relationship, but he started hanging with the wrong crowd, stealing, drinking, (we're in college but still underage to drink) and hanging with people who did drugs and popped pills. He would always wanna bring his trashy friends around me , even to third wheel on dates. I decided I didn't wanna be with someone who did those things and I left him. He was devastated, and he swore he would change. It's been months and he really has changed. He quit drugs, quit hanging with bad people and he's getting his life together. He always tells & shows me how much he loves me and he really is so sweet. I know he truly loves me, but I just for some reason can't bring myself to get back with him. I've told him we need to just be friends and move on but he refuses to date other people and says he will wait for me forever until I change my mind. Then he acts romantic with me again, as if we're together, when we are not. Its like he puts us in a limbo between friends and lovers no matter how many times I've told him we should just be friends. Recently, I've started to see this other guy who I really like and is really sweet but I don't know what to do . I almost feel guilty because I know my ex has expectations for us even though I've said countless times we should move on. He and I are still good friends. I don't want to hurt him. I know he loves me more than anyone has ever loved me but we broke up for a reason and I feel like I need to move on.

So I m in a band. My band and I are all really close friends. We haven t been able to practice for a few weeks and me and one of the members, I ll call him Anthony, and I have been hanging out a lot. We were already really good friends but we started to become more...he and I have great chemistry, and we really really like each other. Everyone keeps telling us to just date already, and I know we are going to eventually, but here s the thing..our band is going to be really mad at us. Our drummer told me he s worried about me dating anyone in the band because he doesn t want to ruin the band and stuff, just, the whole band and I have had conversations about this and I feel like they d be really really mad..but I feel like life is too short to not be with the person you want. How do we bring this to our band without a fight being started?

I've been really good friends with this guy for over a year, lets call him Jay. He dated this girl for a long time, lets call her Kate. A few weeks ago, Kate messaged me on Instagram because I tagged her in something by mistake and we kinda laughed over it and she kept talking to me and I'm a person who's polite so I talked to her. She started talking to me more and more and she really is a nice girl so I don't want to just not talk to her..and she kinda opened up to me about some stuff she's been going through and I've helped her out a bit..a few days ago, Jay texted me and was like "why are you talking to Kate...?" And I explained that she's been talking to me and I don't want to be rude and he was like "yeah. Well. She ripped my heart out." And told me kind of their story and about how he still loves her but can't have her back. I've been torn..I haven't been answering her texts, I've been ignoring her and I hate doing that because..I guess I'm too nice :/ but I don't want to betray Jay...I don't know what to do. Also, I'm a girl...so it's not like he thinks I'm trying to get with her.

There's this guy I've had a long history with, and a week ago, he left me. He called me baggage and said he didn't want to be with me anymore. I've been crying for days..I can barely eat. I can barely get out of bed and I feel sick, not like I'm about to throw up or anything , just..sick. I can't explain it. I feel terrible and all I want to do is sleep..all of my friends are telling me to just suck it up and get over it but I loved him...I really did love him and now he's gone. Is this a normal thing to feel sick or should I like, see a doctor or something

My boyfriend and I are long distance because he's in the military. We liked each other for 2 years, but only started dating in January. We've been apart our whole relationship but he's planning to come see me in several months. Well, in the beginning things were perfect. He treated me like nobody else has ever treated me and he made me so happy. But for the past month, he's been acting different. Like I'm not even a priority to him anymore. He used to talk to me every chance he got but now he just ignores me all day and we have a tiny small talk conversation at night then he goes to bed. He no longer posts about me on social media, he no longer sends me sweet texts, none of that. And a few months ago he tried breaking up with me because he "doesn't want to burden me" . He broke all of his promises and he ended up not leaving , but now I just can't trust him. I feel like at any moment he could just walk out and I feel like if I left he wouldn't even be upset.. I know he's busy but he was in the beginning too and he still would drop everything for me in a flash if I needed someone. He would ignore other girls. He always put in effort but now it's all one sided almost. I've talked to him about it numerous times and he either gets defensive or he apologizes and says he'll make more time but no matter what, I still always have this feeling that things aren't right. I really love him...I don't know if I'll be able to handle seeing him with another girl.

I really love my boyfriend. He's been vey sweet to me and treats me better than anyone ever has. He's loyal to me, he doesn't believe In cheating etc. well...his ex has been asking through a mutual friend about my boyfriend and asking about our relationship which has been making me really uncomfortable. This is the girl he was with for a year before me and they were sexually active so he told me he has a "connection" with her because he gave her his virginity. He says that he's over her and that he dislikes her because she cheated on him while he was in boot camp. So, naturally. I'd expect him to want nothing to do with her. Well now, I saw on Instagram that he's been liking her pictures of her... That seriously pissed me off, because I've told him I don't feel comfortable with him contacting her, especially since they were that intimate together...I've been thinking about this all day. Why would he be liking pictures of her if he wasn't still interested ? How do I talk to him about this?

So my ex tweeted me (we're still kind of friends) and my best friend saw it because I retweeted it and she went to me asking who he is, saying she thinks he's cute. I told her hes my ex , and that I dated him on and off for a year and that we were pretty serious. She didnt seem to care. So now, they're together, which, okay.. She can date who she wants. He's my ex, I don't want him back , I'm in a new , loving, serious relationship. But here's the thing. She's constantly messaging me about him, sending me screenshots of their cute conversations , telling me about how "perfect" he is , and I just don't like hearing it. This is my ex boyfriend, it kinda bothers me hearing about him all the time in this way and its awkward hearing about how "dreamy his eyes are" and how she "gets butterflies when she thinks about him" and how "he calls her baby" , having been there with him myself, it's just weird to me and it bothers me to hear it. Also, the fact that he cheated on me doesnt help. How do I tell her without hurting her feelings?

I've been best friends with this guy for 2 years. Well, I guess it's past tense now. I had been best friends with him. During those two years, my family basically took him in as their own. We gave him a place to stay for weeks on end, I helped him get through so much, I helped him stay away from alcohol and drugs and he used to feel so bad if he ever slipped up and did drugs or drank. Our whole friendship, I kind of felt like he didn't really give a crap about me, but I pushed the thought away because he was seriously basically my only friend for a long long time. Well he took me to homecoming as his date this year (he's gay by the way, so it's nothing romantic. He's seriously like my brother) and through the majority of the dance, he left me alone and went to dance with this other girl. I felt like sh*t the whole dance . Well back in October, I moved away and he said he would come visit me, but never did. In fact, he barely ever talked to me.

Well, a few months ago, he dropped me for good. He never ever gas to me, like ever. He ignores me when I try talking to him, so I just have stopped trying. And he's started hanging out with this group of girls who, from what I know from when we were still friends, they take him out and get him drunk / high all the time. Last time he ever called me, he was with them and was drunk as hell. And the worst part is, he calls them his family. I get so hurt every time I see his posts about them online.How do I get over this lost friendship

There's a guy who was a good friend of mine for a while, and we lost touch for a few months but he started talking to me again pretty recently. He brought up how my boyfriend is in the army so we talked about the military for a while, and then he told me that he's a sniper in the marines. I was really confused as to how the f that is even possible because he goes to school regularly and he's like 2 years younger than me (I'm 17) and I'm pretty sure you can't join the marines if you're under 17. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know. Anyway, I got kind of suspicious so I asked what he got on his ASVAB test and he didn't even know what that is. I asked him a few more questions and he doesn't know the answers to the simplest questions. It really irritates me when people do that, because my boyfriend and my best friend are in the military and my dad was too and they've been through some legit stuff, so when I see these people claiming to be in when they have no clue what they're talking about it bothers me.

So, my boyfriend had a word with him and my "friend" basically admitted he was lying and was like "I'm so sorry omg" but now he's posting pictures of marines where you can't see their faces and claiming its him -.- what do I do? Do I just let him continue lying or do I say something?

I'm a 17 year old female, and all day I have been so tired , as in I could seriously fall asleep at any moment. I also was feeling really nauseous earlier but I was in a car for 3 hours so I may have just been carsick. I also feel like I can't get a full breath of air. My mom wants to rush me to the hospital, but I don't think it's anything bad but now I'm starting to worry because she is so freaked out. What could this be? I was up until late last night but I still got enough sleep because I slept in today.

So, my boyfriend is in the army and he recently had to go to the hospital on base because of bad chest pain and dizziness. There, they diagnosed him with wolff white Parkinson's syndrome. Now, he doesn't know if he's going to be getting med boarded. The NCOs told him to prepare to be discharged and nothing else since. He was supposed to be getting sent overseas today actually, but they're keeping him on the base for god knows how long to run more heart tests. He has no idea what's going on and he's really worried about getting discharged, but is also worried about his health too, and so am I. Does anybody know if this is definitely going to get him discharged? What can we expect? Both of us really don't know what's going on.

My boyfriend has had problems with bad chest pains and bouts of dizziness his whole life, but last night it was especially bad so he went to the doctor on base, where they diagnosed him with Wolff White Parkinson s syndrome. He has no idea if he s getting medically discharged but all of his NCOs said it may happen. Also, he already has a really bad spine condition that almost got him med boarded. He s supposed to be getting sent overseas next week and he has no idea what s going on anymore. He s really really upset and I hate seeing him so upset, and I m also really worried about his health. Does anybody know the likeliness of him getting medically discharged for this?

So me and my boyfriend have known each other for over a year, but have recently (by recently I mean several months) started dating. We really really care for each other, he is an amazing guy and he really means a lot to me. We've helped each other through some serious stuff in our lives. He and I have never had sex and we plan on waiting for that because I'm still technically underage and it would be illegal for us to have sex. Well, my older brother messages me saying that I need to stop posting about him on social media and keep our relationship a secret because he could get in trouble. I don't post anything sexual or anything that would even seem sexual about him on social media at all, and my boyfriend said that from what he's studied and read up on, our relationship shouldn't be a problem unless we have sex or say sexual things. My brother just found the law that says that and is now leaving the situation alone, but just to make sure. Does our relationship have to be a secret? According to the laws he looked up AND the laws in the state I live in, the only problem would be if we were to sleep together which we are not doing.

So my boyfriend is a really nice guy. He always wants to help people when they're in need. He even helps his exes, which I don't like, but I trust him and I don't want to be a crazy psycho girlfriend so I let him as long as all he's doing is messaging them back if they need advice on hard stuff in their lives. Well, there's his girl and her brother is in juvie so she keeps going to my boyfriend for help. I totally understand him helping her, but she has started spamming him and always wanting his attention and its making me really uncomfortable. One time while he was on Skype with me (he's in the army so these Skype dates are very important to us) he answered her when she called him and let me hang up on him so he could continue talking to her. He's getting annoyed with her, but still won't stop talking to her, and its just making me really uncomfortable, I've tried talking to him about it, but all he says is that he doesn't think she's into him (even though she obviously is) and that he's gonna talk to who he wants. I don't mean to sound like a psycho girlfriend, but this is seriously making me uncomfortable. What do I do?

So there is a situation. I am seriously in love with this guy and he loves me too. He is in the army and he's going on leave next week. We've been planning to see each other while he's on leave (we haven't seen each other in months) but, now I just learned that his mom might not let him come see me (he's still fairly young) because she doesnt approve of us and I am crushed because this is my last chance to see him before he leaves to go to freaking Korea. Anyway...I've been crying for like 4 hours and now my eyes are starting to hurt. They feel like they're about to pop out of their sockets and it's scaring me. What do I do? Is this normal?

So, my new house has very thin walls and you can hear basically everything that's going on in every room. It's really annoying. Well apparently I talk in my sleep. I've had friends tell me that I talk in my sleep but it never seemed like a problem, only a once in a while kind of thing. Well, my dad heard me talking about my ex in my sleep and also talking about this guy I really really like. It's so embarrassing, and I could've said some things that I could've gotten in a lot of trouble for, or things that are really personal. I'm worried I'm gonna say those things in my sleep and my parents will hear and it would be a really bad situation. And no, I'm not bad, I'm not doing drugs or sleeping around, it's nothing like that. Just, stuff I "think" about the guy I liked and my depression and anger at certain people and stuff about my ex. .-. Is there a way to stop?

So Ive only been in two serious relationships. Lets call the first guy Caleb and the other guy Jake. So Caleb and I broke up like 2 years ago, and it's been almost a year since me and jake broke up. Jake was my most serious relationship and he hurt me to the point where I didn't believe in love for the longest time. The pain still comes to me daily and I just don't understand why he hates me so much when I never did anything to him. Over the past month, I've had dreams about us making up, and sometimes getting back together. It's been bothering me, because I don't want him back, so I don't understand why I'm having these dreams almost every night. Well, last night I had a dream that me and Caleb got back together. I REALLY don't want him back. I literally do not care about him at all, so I don't understand . What does this mean!? Am I like, still in love with them??

I just woke up and if I move my head at all I get this really bad rush of dizziness and the room starts spinning. I can't walk, I can't do anything. I don't know what to do. I'm thinking it's because I barely ate yesterday but I tried eating a chicken sandwich and I couldn't finish it all. What do I do ?

I'm a 16 yr old girl. I've been friends with this guy for quite a while now. Let's call him Jake. So , me and jake used to be really close. We told each other everything and helped each other get through a lot. We also had basically the same music taste too, which was pretty cool. Our music meant a lot to us, because it's helped us get through some rough times. Well, this year he and I were fine . His music taste changed but it wasn't a big deal . We both knew I'd be moving before the end of the year and we were okay and everything. Well a few weeks ago, he completely changed. He started being really rude and dissing on my music taste saying I don't know what "real music" is and calling me a poser and stuff which is just dumb . I just like the music I like and I don't understand how that's being a poser xD anyway it's whatever. But he started ignoring me and treating me like I'm an idiot and rolling his eyes at everything I'd say. And we used to text all the time but now I'm lucky to get a response if I message him first. He always reads the text but never responds . And he stopped meeting where we used to hang out in the morning. He and the bass player from my band started becoming friends and now my bass player is doing the same thing. And now that I've moved, I can never see them and we never talk. They did come to say goodbye to me and hug me on the last day of school . But other than that, nothing. They seem pissed at me and I have no idea what I did. Can anyone help?