Angela

Recently discovered that my boyfriend of six months is married with four little girls, and from what I understand, a chronic cheater. Needless to say, I ended the relationship. However, I found out today that I'm pregnant. I'm wondering if I should tell him or not. Firstly, let me say the relationship is over. He showed me his true colors and I like myself too much to be with that type- of man. So, I'm not considering telling him as a way to get him back in life. The big question is, do I tell him about the pregnancy? I'm thinking I need to keep the ties with him severed, and move on with my life. Yes, I know the bit about him having the right to know about the baby cause he helped make it. However, what I'm also considering is that I don't need him for child support (make more money that him). I have good parents and many friends that are more than willing to pitch in if I need help tending to the child- so I don't need him for that. And most importantly, I don't want that kind of man helping raise my child. He's a chronic womanizer! That is a sure sign he has no respect for women, for how his behavior makes them feel. If I have a daughter, do I really want her to have a father that thinks so little of women? If I have a son, that child will learn to be a man from the example his father sets- which is a shitty one. Then there's also the part where if I tell him, he most likely wouldn't have anything to do with the child because he'd then have to tell his wife about the baby and the affair. I'm willing to bet that he'll never admit to his wife any part of it, as most cheaters don't. A part of me, the majority actually, says keep that man out my child's life. Then there's the part of me that wonders what I'll say when my child grows up and asks about their father, and wonders why he's never been around.

I just don't know what to do.