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As a guy, I’m more relaxed. I enjoy a good conversation, but the second a person becomes offensive or unwilling be respectful, I shut them out. Some people won’t hear what you have to say, even when you present irrefutable proof. When I realize that this is the situation I'm in, I say **** it and stop trying. Why frustrate myself trying to teach logic to a wall when I know I’ll be happier if I let the other person have that last word, right? More than that, I hated the feeling I got from holding onto all that anger. After words, I’ll just exclude this person from all aspects of my life if it’s really so important. I used to fight and argue a lot but when I turned 16 I got tired of it and stopped giving a damn. Because of this, I’m told I’m flimsy and weak that, and I need to grow some balls and be a man. If I were attacked, I’d kick *** like I was saving the world, but otherwise I don’t give a ****.

Someone said I should go to boot camp so they make a real man out of me and teach me to stand up for myself. I used to think this was just about me, but I noticed that this is a common expectation of men. Phrases like “grow a spine” and “toughen up” are generally used for men like me and men that are timid. So much so that they become phrases like “grow a pair,” and “man up.” "t still bothers me that this is an expectation for one’s manhood rather than just a preferred characteristic.

Why do you think society has this view of men and what do you think about this?

I think my boyfriend is starting to hate me. He feels like sexual promiscuity is wrong. I feel like it should be fine because people shouldn't have to sexually cut themselves outside of relationships. If both of the people want it and they cover all the bases to ensure that there's no risk of std's and unplanned pregnancies. I even came up with a way that someone could be sure to avoid cereal killers. With those being taken out of the equasion, he started including irrelevant things like cheating and pedophelia. Those are wrong, but I never said anything about something like that. I don't mind that he feels that way but he hates that I feel like sex outside relationships is wrong.

Do you have any ideas on how I could fix this? If not do you have anyway I can better see things from his point of view?

Please don't troll or ridicule me for this question, I'm being completely serious.

In our society, rape is looked down on heavily. The consequences for such an act affect you for the rest of your life.

Common belief is that a woman literally cannot rape a man. It's said that if he has an erection he obviously wants it. But if a guy is crying and continuously asking a girl to stop even if he has an erection, with her having to tie him down, why is she able to see it has harmless fun? I know cases where a woman would penetrate her straight boyfriend with a strap on knowing he doesn't want it simply because it sounds fun to her and she's sure "he'll love it once he's tried it." Women who do this don't seem to realize what they've done till they see how their actions affected the guy later on.

Any ideas why?