anna

Lately my husband has been going out every night to hang out with one of his friends. This has never bothered me before because it didn't use to be every single night. He went out with him on black Friday until 2:30am. Hes been staying over there until 930 to midnightish. That was fine, he takes me so work so he can have my car and hang out with him and thay doesn't bother me either. What did bother me is that tonight he asked if I cared if he went over there and I told him I'd like to have a night in with him to which he told me I am controlling and he hates me and wants a divorce. I just sat there staring at him in disbelief. He got really mad at me and left anyways. I don't understand this. We have a one year old whom I stay home every night to take care of and I just don't believe this is what marriage is supposed to be like.

My husband refuses to communicate with me. I have tried so many different approaches and nothing works. Anytime that the slightest disagreement comes up he will just up and leave and stay with his mom for a few days. This has been happening a lot recently over the past few months. We have the same 3 fights over and over and they won't get resolved because he refuses to talk or try to compromise about it. I feel like a part time wife at this point. It's so much more than that. It's frustrating to me that he goes to his mom's every time there is a disagreement and won't talk to me. He goes over there before and after work since she doesn't live to far from us but i just feel like I don't really have a husband. He has told me numerous times that he loves his family more than me and that I come second. We have a child together whom when he leaves I have to comfort and take care of and I just don't know what to do anymore. Our child is getting older and he is not going to understand why his dad comes and goes all the time. He doesn't help me around the house, he calls me a stupid b**** every argument. I don't even know why I'm still here honestly.