melimonella

my husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have 3 kids, I work full time and basically I do everything alone. I work, I cook, I clean, I pay the bills, I take care of the household etc. My mil lives upstairs and my fil passed away last year just before Covid started.

My mil has no friends, no hobbies, no pass-time activiites and basically complains to her son all day that she is alone. So I told her to come and help me with the kids.

Of course she always has an excuse. I don't know how to do this, I don't know how to pick up your son from school, I don't know how to do that....

My husband always tells me that "he feels sorry for his mom".

I honestly don't feel sorry for her, even though I sympathize for the fact that her husband passed away, but the fact that she doesn't want help really makes me helpless in this case.

What can I do? She is honestly interfering in my marriage because my husband is always worrying about her, but I don't see anyone worrying about me (nobody feels sorry for me)

Some suggestions?

Hi

I have been married for almost 12 years. I love my husband, we have 3 children, and I work full time.

The problem is that my husband always feels sorry for his mom (she is 70). I understand his sympathy for his mom up until a certain extent, but I also think that it is necessary to set boundaries.

We live in an apartment building and my mil lives upstairs. She is a pretty introverted person and spends the whole day alone. Unfortunately her husband passed away last year just before covid so it has been quite difficult, not being able to go anywhere freely. 

I have no problem with her coming over to stay with the kids for a bit (or vice versa), or if she wants to stay for lunch or dinner. She comes over every day and there have been times where I really don't want to see anyone but I just let her be.

What I do have a problem with though is that my husband constantly feels sorry for her.

My mil does nothing to make her life better. I've asked her to come and help me out with the kids, but she'll do so up to a certain extent (as in she won't go and pick them up from school)

I've asked her to come and help me make dinner, but she always has an excuse (at 7.30 my show starts)

I've asked her to come along with us to the park, but she doesn't want to "leave the house"

I understand that my husband feels sorry for his mom because she is all alone, and I have tried to confront him about it. All he answers me is "why don't you feel sorry for her too"

What can I do?

I live in Europe, but I am from North America. I am so happy to teach my son English (my mother tongue), but my husband is very close-minded about this. He says that he is afraid that our son (just turned 2) will not learn the language in the country we are living in, and that I am racist towards everyone here...this is not the problem. He will of course learn the language in this country, English will be more difficult and this is why I must teach him now that he is small. How can I get my husband to just shut up?

Hi there

I live in Europe and I am looking for some fun cartoons (like Tommy the Train) and upbeat songs for my 1 year old son.

Can anyone give me some suggestions?

my husband lost his job and has been unemployed for almost 2 years. He switches jobs frequently and keeps telling me that he doesn't know if "xyz" is the job for him. Now, he went back to school for 6 months and even did an internship, and still tells me he doesn't know what he wants to do.

This is getting crazy and our relationship is deteriorating by the minute. To me it seems like he's comfortablle where he is. Plus we have a kid.

How do I make him undersatnnd he has to do anything (even odd jobs)

Ever since our baby was born last year, my husband has been acting like such a poor sport. He contradicts me on EVERYTHING I say or do regarding the baby. Whether it's how I dress him, when I change his diaper, when I give him a bath, when I put him to bed.

The story is a very long one, my husband lost his job and I think his ego is hurt, I think he feels left out because I do everything, but why doesn't he just pitch in? I'm fed up honestly and I have considered divorce.

I live in Europe and I don't know much about counselling here.

Lately all I do is just talk back, he just bothers me so much I wish he would just shut up and stop contradicting me.

When I tell him to stop, he says that I am crazy and "hysterical".

Can anyone give me some good advice?

I have a 1 year old child, and in the summer time we usually go to my in-law's cottage in the mountains. I know they are dying for me to "leave him with them"...but I just don't feel ready yet. I still nurse my son, but even so, I think I would be ready when baby is around 3 or 4.

I have a friend who has already sent her 1 year old with her parents (she goes to the same place), but it's her parents and not her in-laws!!!!

I know people are going to compare me to her, and I dread that!

Plus, I am certain when we go there people are going to ask me "why don't you leave him with his grandparents"...also because I have decided to send baby to daycare during the day.

I like my in-laws very much I just don't agree with lots of things they do in terms of childcare (i.e. spoiling and hygene).

What should I answer when people start asking me these stupid questions? I mean it's none of their business but you know how people can be nosy!

Thanks

my in-laws live a couple km away from our house, and they make me feel guilty if they don't see "their grandson" (my son) every day. How many times do you giuys out there visit and let them see the grandkids?isn't once or twice a week enoughza

i always have to pick up after my husband, he leaves stuff everywhere, empty water bottles, candy wrappers, socks, floss, kleenex...and when i ask him to clean up after himself he makes it loook liike i'm thee bad guy. Hejustifies himself too saying "i didn't leave the gas on or anything"...i am fed up i don't knoe what to do anymore. I am tired of being disrespected even in such small matters

Ever since our baby was born last summer, I can't stand hanging out with my in-laws anymore. I hate the way they talk to our baby, I hate when they come over, I hate going to their house...what is wrong with me? Plus, my husband always asks our son, "when are you going to see your grandparents" and it just bothers me.. cause he sees them 2 or 3 timnes a week I try to be nice but I just want to be left alone. Plus pretty soon our son is going to go to daycare and I don't want them to go and pick him up, I don't want them to become to possessive, as they already have

after our baby was born last summer, i can't stand my husband anymore.he gives me anxiety and I just get really frustrated around him. He is always worried that baby will get sick, tells me that i breastfeed too much, that i should give him a binky , that the roof of his mouth will get ruined cause he sucks his thumb. Then, if he needs a diaper change it's not like he goes and does the job, hw just tells me that the baby needs a change.....

I went to confession the other day and the priest said that the "evil" is against me

what does this mean? What do i do about my annoying husband?

I know it is a bit early to leave my 9 month old with my inlaws this summer...but I know they will ask and basically insist that I leave him with them at their cottage...in the future too and I know that my husband will want me to send him there too.

I have a good relationship with them, I think they are nice people and all, I just don't agree with their hygiene practices (letting dog pee on floor, hoarding issues etc) and neither the way they interact with my baby...although till now I have kept my mouth shut diplomatically and tried to not offend anyone.

With the hoarding, it is kind of hard to leave my baby at their house, he touches everything and puts everything in his mouth, can you imagine when he will start walking.

They have realy hoarding issues like clothes from the 60s, dust etc

Furthermore, whenever they are around baby, they over-stimulate him, bounce him up and down 50 000 times, and talk really loudly, and when they leave he starts shaking and yelling and crying and he wont sleep after that.

When I go back to work in a month, I am leaving him at a daycare. I think they might be offended that I don't leave him with them, but they can pick him up after...once in a while.

how do I go about addressing this issue with my in laws and my husband diplomatically?

Thanks for your help and listening

whenever my in laws come over, they over excite my 9 month old. They over stimulate him and talk kiudly and play peekaboo...but it's too much. After they leave he is wired and so hars to calm down. I've asked them many times to stop but they don't understand! What do i do? I don't want them to baby sit ever for my baby!

hi moms....my 9 month old b8y is breastfed and every time ì try to feed him solids he makes funny faces or looks grossed out o spits out the food...i have to go back to work in a month, i hope he will eat at daycare, i've tried everything, i tried putting sugar,, mixing veggies with fruit, he'll only drink milk...what do I do? Help!

my son is almost 9 months old and is still breastfed about 80% of the time, and his stools are extremely hard, I have to prop him up to help him poo, can anyone help me?

I have tried everything, suppositories, prune juice, mashed prunes, water, oil...

Why is he so constipated poor thing

Hi everyone

My son is 6 months old, and I exclusively breastfeed. Now at 6 months, I will be introducing solids.

He basically uses me as a "human pacifier", and only sleeps attatched to my breast. Is this ok? I mean I don't mind it, I love rocking and cudling and so on, but sometimes even at nap time he has to nurse. What will I do when I go back to work?

My husband and MIL insist that I use a pacifier, but I hate those stupid plastic things, and on top of that, my son doesn't like it (he always spits it out). That's why I've never really insisted that he take it.

My pediatrician said that breastfed babies usually dont like pacifiers.

Will baby be able to nap on his own when I go back to work?

I am getting anxiety attacks because of this :( OMG please help!!!

Ciao Mamme

Una parente di mio marito ci ha regalato una carrozzna Peg Perego Caravel di 20 anni fa....e sinceramente non sono convinta, pure se non è molto usata, ho paura che si rompe per strada, e poi sono una persona pratica, vado sempre in giro e ho bisogno di qualcosa che mi permette di vivere la mia vita tranquilla.

allora ho visto un'offerta su Privalia e mi sono comprata il Tres di Foppapedretti, che ne pensate? ho fatto bene? Il bimbo deve nascere a metà luglio, sarà un maschietto e non vedo l'ora di conoscerlo...chissà come sarà? vorrei portarlo al parco a giocare nel mio nuovo Tres!!!

BACI

MELI

I need help. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for just over 2 years now. In January 2009, we decided to get married, and set the date for July 2009. Now, I live far away from home, and my parents don't want me to get married here, but they want me to go back home and do everything.

So, I said, why don't I get married here, and then we'll come home and have a ceremony there too.

They said no to that too. The only solution here for them, is for me to get married at home.

How do I cope with them? This situation is becoming too much for me. It's my wedding, and I would like to get married here where I am living now.

Can any one please help?