jenna

I met my boyfriend my Junior year of high school, and we've been dating a full year. I fell deeply in love with him, how caring and kind he is, and how he dotes on me and hugs me. The problem is, I'm noticing things now that I didn't notice as strongly as before.

I like holding hands, but my boyfriend is always ON me. Such as, he slumps over so he's shorter than me and lays his head on my shoulder. Whenever we're alone he'll ask to be the small spoon. Then he constantly pressures me to be more dominant in our sex life, even when I said I'm not really comfortable with it. I told him he doesn't necessarily need to be dominant for me, but he keeps bringing up how he's trying his best for me and I don't try hard enough. He calls me lazy during sex because I just "lay there". He assures me he isn't gay, but he uses his mother's bath products and bath bombs (which I guess there is nothing wrong with...), but he also taps my shoulder and says "hey look at this" and proceeds to kiss his male friends in front of me. This has happened around 6 (or so) times.People CONSTANTLY come up to my face and say they thought he was gay. I've gently sat down and asked him this, but every time I ask whether he's attracted to the opposite sex he gets offended and I feel suddenly guilty for judging his character like this.Am I wrong for not being attracted to him for these things? I don't think he can help it, it's just who he is. Why does it bother me so much? I don't know what to do anymore.