Lindsay E

Hi...my 21 yr old sister has a 20 month old daughter to a married man. He's flitted in and out of their lives the whole time and has never paid. He pushed her so far this weekend that she took an overdose after an arguement and got took to hospital. The father took his daughter assuring my sister he would bring her back the next day when she was better. Now he's still got her (since sat) and neither the police or social services can do anything about it as he's named on the birth certificate and well within his rights apparently....as my sister is within her rights to snatch her back on the street....the law is crazy! Anyway, he's refusing all phone calls and phones the police when we go to his home (where he has his wife other kids and "love child"....strange I know). He wouldn't meet my mum yesterday, to give her some familiar stuff from home....he'd had a "stressful" day apparently. We've to go to the solicitors tomorrow to get an emergency residence order but are worrying to death that we aren't going to get her back.

Although my sister is experiencing difficulties it is all down to this excuse of a man who's abused her and lied from day one from his age to being married. He wasn't there when she went thru an abortion last year or a miscarriage 3 months ago. Will the courts work in her favour? How long is this going to take. I'm going out of my mind and it's breaking my heart to see my sister like this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi...I'm usually ok at sorting out my own PC problems but have been trying to fix this issue for about 18 hrs now and have admit defeat!

I reinstalled Windows 7 yesterday and tried to access a website I need to log into for work through Internet Explorer 8, however I receive the following HTTP 500 error:

The website cannot display the page

Most likely causes:

The website is under maintenence

The website has a programming error

I know it isn't the website as I can access it through IE8 on another computer and even through firefox on the laptop receiving the error.

It's driving me insane as I like IE and don't particularly want to switch to another browser!

I have tried everything I can think of and have been googling all day! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

Hi...I'm usually ok at sorting out my own PC problems but have been trying to fix this issue for about 18 hrs now and have admit defeat!

I reinstalled Windows 7 yesterday and tried to access a website I need to log into for work through Internet Explorer 8, however I receive the following HTTP 500 error:

The website cannot display the page

Most likely causes:

The website is under maintenence

The website has a programming error

I know it isn't the website as I can access it through IE8 on another computer and even through firefox on the laptop receiving the error.

It's driving me insane as I like IE and don't particularly want to switch to another browser!

I have tried everything I can think of and have been googling all day! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

Since my son was born 17 months ago I was prescribed various anti depressants to treat post natal depression including fluoxetine, citalopram, escitalopram, sertraline, all with undesirable side effects or plain ineffective.

After going to A&E for a psychiactric assessment (following an incident involving myself and whatever medication I could find), I was prescribed Effexor 75 mg which within days was doubled, then weeks later I was on 225 mg (instead of addressing the ACTUAL issues!). Besides the physical side effects which weren't mega bothersome, this altered something in my brain and I went on all kinds of control seeking missions, developing eating disorders, drug addiction, manic phases and uncontrollable emotions to name a few. I became addicted to perfection (obviously not achievable in hindsight!) Basically, all of the symptoms of a bipolar type mental disorder were present, which I believe are down to this drug. In my crazy state I decided to abruptly stop and refuse any medication...I could deal with the physical withdrawal but ended up in a hypomanic state which needed to be assessed as an inpatient, I had to put on an act to get outta that place it was horrendous!!...3 months later I still take no antidepressants or have input from Psychi, just 80 mg of propranolol daily for panic and anxiety.

My moods are still horrendously up and down flipping between extreme hopelessness and extreme optimism (always with unobtainable goals)...I hate the hyper me more than depressed....lol...I never stop talking, feel the need to take on 100 tasks or more, I have done some very risky things also which are out of character...it's driving me mad!

I just wondered if these awful antidepressants can cause permanent problems....I feel far from normal even now!!

BTW...I'm only 23, just left my abusive partner with my baby and just trying to make sense of my life right now...

Since my son was born 17 months ago I was prescribed various anti depressants to treat post natal depression including fluoxetine, citalopram, escitalopram, sertraline, all with undesirable side effects or plain ineffective.

After going to A&E for a psychiactric assessment (following an incident involving myself and whatever medication I could find), I was prescribed Effexor 75 mg which within days was doubled, then weeks later I was on 225 mg (instead of addressing the ACTUAL issues!). Besides the physical side effects which weren't mega bothersome, this altered something in my brain and I went on all kinds of control seeking missions, developing eating disorders, drug addiction, manic phases and uncontrollable emotions to name a few. I became addicted to perfection (obviously not achievable in hindsight!) Basically, all of the symptoms of a bipolar type mental disorder were present, which I believe are down to this drug. In my crazy state I decided to abruptly stop and refuse any medication...I could deal with the physical withdrawal but ended up in a hypomanic state which needed to be assessed as an inpatient, I had to put on an act to get outta that place it was horrendous!!...3 months later I still take no antidepressants or have input from Psychi, just 80 mg of propranolol daily for panic and anxiety.

My moods are still horrendously up and down flipping between extreme hopelessness and extreme optimism (always with unobtainable goals)...I hate the hyper me more than depressed....lol...I never stop talking, feel the need to take on 100 tasks or more, I have done some very risky things also which are out of character...it's driving me mad!

I just wondered if these awful antidepressants can cause permanent problems....I feel far from normal even now!!

BTW...I'm only 23, just left my abusive partner with my baby and just trying to make sense of my life right now...

Where do I start???

I'm currently studying for a nursing diploma with a year and a module left. I've never been a model student but I've always passed everything without much effort. Everything was OK, worked on placement until 38 weeks pregnant and had my baby boy 2 weeks later.

The plan was to get back in January this year but as I had quite severe post natal depression it was agreed that I should extend my leave until May this year.

The last year has been incredibly hard...with PND and health visitors and social workers sticking their beaks in dragging me through Child Protection Conferences, I have little confidence and self esteem.

Well I went back to uni as planned and started my surgical placement 3 weeks ago but I'm desperately unhappy. Although I love nursing and I do think I'm good at it I just don't think it's right for me anymore...I've changed.

My personal tutor at uni is awful and has no time for me and I feel very alone. My get up and go is non existant.

I'm scared as if don't pull my socks up soon I'll be kicked off the course anyway. I'm already behind and have already had time off placement. I feel like I'm a spare part anyway.

I just wondered if anybody has experience of this? Am I going to ruin my life by quitting? I love the idea of being a social worker, especially since my experience but will any university take me or will they think I'm a quitter??? I'm would be honest about my circumstances.

Sorry this is so long winded...I'm just so confused.

I don't know where to start...I'm a 22yr old first time mum. Since having my baby boy now 9 months old I've been treated for post natal depression. Nobody had a clue how severe it was until my partner walked in as I was about to take pills just after Xmas. I was an expert at putting on an act.

About a week later I came clean to the staff at the baby group who insisted I went to A&E in an ambulance where I had a psychiatric assessment.

Shortly after this my Health Visitor asked me to come to clinic for a chat where I was very emotional and when she asked if I would harm my son i said I didn't think so...In these states I haven't a clue what I'm saying...next thing I know I've got social services knocking my door down reducing me to a wreck with all sorts off accusations. My HV told them he was cause for concern for several reasons. My mental state, things I'd said when I was particularly emotional, and the fact that my son is overweight. He's 30lb and has gained lots of weight (even when I breastfed exclusively for 4 months) but his daddy is 6ft 4 so cameron aint gonna be tiny. He's heavy but also long.

Everyone is giving me a hard time and I feel like everything is my fault. I should never have trusted that *****, she's always had it in for me. My partner is supporting me the best that he can but doesn't understand completely.

Now social services say a child protection committee meeting is being arranged with lots of professionals there. I'm gutted. I'm not even supposed to have my son alone! They have pushed me to the edge with their criticism and accusations and I don't know how much more I can take. I feel so lonely and unable to trust anybody. I'm petrified they'll take my baby. I've never harmed him. Nor would I.

Everyone keeps telling me to pull myself together but I just can't.

Have they gone too far? I'm hypersensitive at the moment so surely they could have approached things differently? I understand the laws about child protection and I know these people are doing their jobs. I feel like I'm being punished for what happened to "baby p" and other tragic cases recently highlighted in the media.

I thought being honest was going to get me help and support/?

By the way...my son was seen by a paediatrician in november who wasn't concerned about his weight and we'd reassess when he was aout 2 but my HV has dragged it on and on.

I don't know where to start...I'm a 22yr old first time mum. Since having my baby boy now 9 months old I've been treated for post natal depression. Nobody had a clue how severe it was until my partner walked in as I was about to take pills just after Xmas. I was an expert at putting on an act.

About a week later I came clean to the staff at the baby group who insisted I went to A&E in an ambulance where I had a psychiatric assessment.

Shortly after this my Health Visitor asked me to come to clinic for a chat where I was very emotional and when she asked if I would harm my son i said I didn't think so...In these states I haven't a clue what I'm saying...next thing I know I've got social services knocking my door down reducing me to a wreck with all sorts off accusations. My HV told them he was cause for concern for several reasons. My mental state, things I'd said when I was particularly emotional, and the fact that my son is overweight. He's 30lb and has gained lots of weight (even when I breastfed exclusively for 4 months) but his daddy is 6ft 4 so cameron aint gonna be tiny. He's heavy but also long.

Everyone is giving me a hard time and I feel like everything is my fault. I should never have trusted that *****, she's always had it in for me. My partner is supporting me the best that he can but doesn't understand completely.

Now social services say a child protection committee meeting is being arranged with lots of professionals there. I'm gutted. I'm not even supposed to have my son alone! They have pushed me to the edge with their criticism and accusations and I don't know how much more I can take. I feel so lonely and unable to trust anybody. I'm petrified they'll take my baby. I've never harmed him. Nor would I.

Everyone keeps telling me to pull myself together but I just can't.

Have they gone too far? I'm hypersensitive at the moment so surely they could have approached things differently?

By the way...my son was seen by a paediatrician in november who wasn't concerned about his weight and we'd reassess when he was aout 2 but my HV has dragged it on and on.

My sister had a baby girl yesterday and will be moving back in with dad for a while. In the sitting room my sister will be using with baby, the African Gray parrot also lives (in a cage)...

...I just wondered if anybody knew if the baby will be OK if the parrot stays put???? Thanks

...childbirth (vaginal delivery) does something down below that makes sex feel so much better after having a baby? And orgasms far more intense?

I've looked around and can't find the answer and I'm really curious! Sorry if it's a bit daft! x

Hi, my 19 year old sister is here with me, 37 weeks pregnant, and is concerned about a pain she's had all night (kept her awake) behind her sternum, under right breast. She can feel it constantly but it's worse if she eats or drinks. It feels a bit like there' something stuck (although she knows there's not. We're not really worried but would like to knw what's causing it if anybody could shed any light! x

Hi, my 19 year old sister is here with me, 37 weeks pregnant, and is concerned about a pain she's had all night (kept her awake) behind her sternum, under right breast. She can feel it constantly but it's worse if she eats or drinks. It feels a bit like there' something stuck (although she knows there's not. We're not really worried but would like to knw what's causing it if anybody could shed any light! x

He's started to wake up and cry, which he's never done. He's taking 7-8oz formula usually every 4-5 hours but is now not satisfied as he screams the second his bottle is empty. It seems I just try everything with no result...then he snaps out of it then goes to sleep or is alert. Our clinic is already concerned about his weight gain (now 22lb 2oz) so feeding him more frequently worries me but I don't wanna starve him! My HV hasn't been much help, probably cuz I'm no longer breastfeeding. I'm feeling really low at the moment anyway and am feelin like I can't cope. He is still sleeping thru the night no problem about 9pm till 6/7am. Any ideas what it may be??? I'm quite sure he isn't teething.

My 14 week old baby boy weighed 7lb 15oz at birth, was exclusively breastfed for 5 weeks and breast/formula since. He has gained at least a pound a week at birth and now weighs 20lb 11oz. He has 4 6/7oz bottles a day and the rest breast. My HV is concerned as he's over average centiles and has scared me that something may be medically wrong. He's at docs on Tue but I'm terrified. He doesn't look obese, jus a big healthy lad. I was 17lb at his age (and looked much fatter and his dad is 6ft 4ins so surely this matters? I've never heard of a baby this big before though. Any advice would be great as I'm a first time 22 yr old mum x

I've asked this question before but now my health visitor has stuck beak in and it's got me worried. My son is 12 weeks old and weighs 19lb 3oz...his previous weekly weights were 18lb 8oz, 17lb 7oz, 16lb 6oz, 15lb 8oz....and has been like this since birth...he weighed 7lb 15oz born, was exclusively breastfed for 3 weeks and now combination fed with aptimal easy digest (previously used cow and gate comfort as heard it was higher in calories) and I breastfeed twice a day...he has 6-7oz every 3-5hrs. His dad is 6ft 4ins and I gained weight quickly as a baby. Does anybody know if this is normal???

BTW, my health visitor accused me of giving him food other than milk and putting rice/cereal in his bottle! I know this is dangerous, and why and I wouldn't do it to my baby! I feel like I can't do anything right!

Another mum mentioned yesterday that the cow and gate comfort milk I use is very high in calories and makes babies put on unnecessary weight very quickly.

My son is 11 weeks old and 18lb 8, he's put on at least a pound a week since birth. His dad's 6ft 4 so he probs gonna be a big lad anyway. I just wondered if anybody had found this with their children.

I breastfed exclusively for 3 weeks but have been less and less...I'm jus recovering from post natal depression and couldn't keep up with his demands, so to those wishing to preach about breastfeeding....don't bother! Happy mummy=happy baby!

He's not fat, just a big boy! He's off the scale on all the charts but the HV or doctor isn't worried. I can't help but worry anyway! Is this normal? He's fed breast and formula milk.