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We are going to a haunted house on friday, great! And finally after a while of being with him, he is allowing me to come over to his house.. which, I am very excited. Now before, for instance, he is off fridays and Saturdays and we would never do anything together. Now, I sat him down when he got off work he works 3rd shift, he came over last week and I was like, I am starting to feel like you have a double secret life etc etc...and he explained to me no, I love you and we are together. So I asked him, than why can't I come over, especially on your days off. I am not wanting to spend every waking our with you, though would be nice but it isn't realistic but I am asking you to spend 1 of yojr days off with me. So he said, we will go to the haunted house on Friday and come to his house afterwards.

So the test would be, if he has another excuse to why we aren't hanging out, should I just end it? I love this guy very much. He makes me feel special, we text all day even when he is at work. We laugh like we are best friends....so what to do..

Ok ladies need advice! Lmao. Ok have not slept with this man yet and have been seeing him for about 3 months now. Haven't had sex in 2 years! Anywho, the night before he told me "because you have me" thought that was sweet. So yesterday went to his house and was lying in his bed, so I asked him what do you mean by I have you? He said, we are dating exclusively? ! Wtf does that mean, lol I do not know the "new terms" plus, he has a collection of sea glass and he said 2 of his past gfs tried to take it, so that means you can not have it either! Is he saying I am his girlfriend? Plus, he surprised me with a drive to navy pier and we ate at Harry Caray's, was nice! He may have spent some money but this woman still isn't giving it up YET :) thanks for the advice.

A friend of mine, said he is trying to help this mexican restaurant get their LLC; he also said that they own other businesses as well. Why would they hire someone without any experience to do this and isn't cheaper to obtain an LLC through your state website? Shouldn't they just use their lawyer too?

I am currently on FMLA because I had my daughter on May 4th anyhow, i found out from the person that now has my job at the place I have worked at for almost 3 years; she now has my job? By the way, I know FMLA states that I am suppose to be given my job back when I come back to work. The position I had there, was the last postion in that area; so nothing else available. So does that mean I was fired or is she trying to get me to quit? I am really good at my job but yes, I had to call off the last month of my pregnancy due to pregnancy issues; had an excuse plus, my FMLA started May 1st. So any advice.. would be appreciated.

I live in Indiana and over the past month the maintenance man has been in my apartment; without letting me know. He even left his wedge tool on my bed yesterday. Yes took a picture of it. Than today, I look in the mailbox, I have to pay apartment 19.00 for yes the refridgerator handle that came off over of the weekend and I left it on the counter; to eventually get to myself, since it's an easy fix. So, they are saying I have to pay for the handle bracket of 19.00, than they even went into my fridge and took out a perfectly good white bar on the inside of the refrigerator door (where you keep mayo, ketchup etc..) and replaced it with a silver one that they had to force to fit inside the fridge. So now I am getting pissed off; because they are leaving clues of actually coming into my house without my knowledge or notice to let me know. And now, I am wondering about my safety, because one of the maintenance guys moved 3 apartments down from me. I would like to be home for any repairs or walk throughs that they may have. Being that it is my apartment and I don't trust ANYONE! Plus, like I said before he left his wedge tool on my bed; what the heck was he in my room for??? Today, was about to call the police department and find out the laws of this.

OK trying to lose weight look better etc.. anyhow I walked 1.5 miles in 24 would have been less had my kids not been there riding bikes :) so is this a good time?

Well my boyfriend, I guess ex boyfriend now of today. We were happily in love for the past 6 months now. I met his mother on Saturday and she met the kids and we were lovey dovey until today. I was suppose to be moving in with him in June after the kids were done with school; so this would have put us at almost 9 months together. We spoke of marriage, he spoke of it more than I did. Stupidly, I put my notice in with my job ending June 8th (so hopefully, I can get it back.) Well, he called me this morning, and I said I am breaking up with you; you scared me and seemed like you rather wear dresses and you don't want to get your hands dirty etc etc....; I went to his mom's business she makes natural fertilizer and I literally put my hands in worm poop just to fill the texture of it. I even picked up an earthworm. Now he is messaging me, telling me that he probably jumped the gun and didn't expect me to react to the break up like that. (I reacted in away most people do when they are heart broken and hurt.) He told me it was a good thing, that I reacted that way. I told him; don't you know by now how I feel about you? He had said yes, and that he misses me. I told him why test me or us or this relationship; because, you said, you knew how I felt. I really thought we would go the distance for another. I thought he loved me. I mean dam* he is 41 and acting like a child and it does piss me off. I don't know what to do; because, I love this man very much. He told me he understands and that he will get back to me; when he gets off of work. so I have to wait 2 more hours to talk with him. So what would you do in this situation?

Well my boyfriend, I guess ex boyfriend now of today. We were happily in love for the past 6 months now. I met his mother on Saturday and she met the kids and we were lovey dovey until today. I was suppose to be moving in with him in June after the kids were done with school; so this would have put us at almost 9 months together. We spoke of marriage, he spoke of it more than I did. Stupidly, I put my notice in with my job ending June 8th (so hopefully, I can get it back.) Well, he called me this morning, and I said I am breaking up with you; you scared me and seemed like you rather wear dresses and you don't want to get your hands dirty etc etc....; I went to his mom's business she makes natural fertilizer and I literally put my hands in worm poop just to fill the texture of it. I even picked up an earthworm. Now he is messaging me, telling me that he probably jumped the gun and didn't expect me to react to the break up like that. (I reacted in away most people do when they are heart broken and hurt.) He told me it was a good thing, that I reacted that way. I told him; don't you know by now how I feel about you? He had said yes, and that he misses me. I told him why test me or us or this relationship; because, you said, you knew how I felt. I really thought we would go the distance for another. I thought he loved me. I mean dam* he is 41 and acting like a child and it does piss me off. I don't know what to do; because, I love this man very much. He told me he understands and that he will get back to me; when he gets off of work. so I have to wait 2 more hours to talk with him. So what would do in this situation?

I am very nice at work; I have my own classroom work with those that are disabled in a facility. Whenever, someone wants to use my smell goods "cleaning supplies." I let them use it; I try to be a team-player, if the other group leaders need pens or whatever or when I have extra "class stuff." I give it to them. I try to socialize with the girls but quite frankly, I know I am too old. I am 31 and they range from 22-27. So the age gap is pretty big. Plus, I am a mother of 2. Yes, I am quite but I do talk with these girls but sometimes I feel that I shouldn't associate with them at all; because, they do start drama and makes our department feel more like a high school environment than a work one. I am sometimes treated meanly but I just don't understand to why; when I have always been so nice to them. like I said, yes, I am 31 but I am just so confused at this point; because, as an adult you just don't treat people like that. I figure if someone is being nice and going out their way; shouldn't you do the same and appreciate the fact?

So my question is; my hands are all tied and I don't really know what to do anymore? Should I just go back to being more quiet/ignoring them and not helping them with anything? I go to school and plan to be there for another 2 years; so I feel if I am going to see these girls everyday than something needs to change.

So why are they like this and what should I do about it?

I am quite ashamed to even ask this; I am a 30 year old woman and should know this answer. But, I decided to wait to have sex with my current boyfriend after 7 months. I haven't even touched him. We have just kissed etc etc...; I held out because, I wanted to see if he was serious about us. So anyway, question is ODD question that is

I finally felt him down on his balls and I didn't feel any balls at all. Usually is sack is full etc, well he didn't even have any balls..... So, how is he able to have children, that he said that he wants one more? If he doesn't have any balls? I think this man, has lied to me. Well anyway, what do you think? lol i know this question is crazy but i am dead serious with it; so please answer.

I got out of an abusive relationship almost 3 years ago this june 8th. I was with the guy for almost 6 years. I endured abuse 90 percent of that time. Anyway, he kicked out my eldest son and his blood son and we had to go live in a woman's abusive shelter for 45 days, because we had no where else to go. So you can kind of picture what we went through. He was the dad of my eldest now (10) since he was 2 but now, he wants nothing to do with him. Even on the phone in February, he told me, Del is not my son, I don't give a f*** about him!!! So I hung up. He has even called his own son a bastard numerous of times.

He told me he wants to give up his parental rights etc...

1 month ago he told me that i need to find another parent for them, because, I was complaining how hard I had it and how easy he has it. I only will give him my house phone number because, i have changed my cell number numerous times; since I left.

Yes he does pay child support, which is the only good thing about him. Since the kids and I haven't been living there, he hasn't given them any Christmas presents well I take that back, last christmas 2011 he did give them 20.00 each. But his son's bday was March 7th and last year, he asked me if he could borrow 328.00 and this year, he didn't show up to his bday party at chuckee cheeses.

So am I wrong for not really letting him see his son? He only calls when he wants something, he's bipolar, he comes to my mom's job; has even argued with her there. And I will not let him know my address anymore, because the last 2 places, I lived at he always came over acting crazy; last year at the new apartment, I told him the name of the complex and he looked for my jeep and knocked on the doors surrounding the jeep, til he found me.

My reasons are for not really letting him;

1. he is crazy

2. He wants my youngest to be raised by another man.

3. He doesn't care for his son's bday; he even bought some other woman's kids presents for theirs.

4. I don't trust him.

5. I sometimes get scared when I do see him but that has gotten better since, we have been kicked out 3 years ago.

6. Because, he is selfish and I know my kids deserve better. I know I sometimes feel selfish but I think that's guilt and I shouldn't feel guilty for being the best mom I can be by myself! I do it all school, work and homework the motherly thing etc..and he doesn't do crap for his. When I am done with school, I will let go of child support and he can sign his rights away; because, deep down I know he knows, they deserve better.

I know that this is long but please take the time out to read it, i really need to know from a man's point of view and a woman's if I am doing wrong or right.

And no, we have not been to court YET. Guess I am waiting for that day too!

I got out of an abusive relationship almost 3 years ago this june 8th. I was with the guy for almost 6 years. I endured abuse 90 percent of that time. Anyway, he kicked out my eldest son and his blood son and we had to go live in a woman's abusive shelter for 45 days, because we had no where else to go. So you can kind of picture what we went through. He was the dad of my eldest now (10) since he was 2 but now, he wants nothing to do with him. Even on the phone in February, he told me, Del is not my son, I don't give a f*** about him!!! So I hung up. He has even called his own son a bastard numerous of times.

He told me he wants to give up his parental rights etc...

1 month ago he told me that i need to find another parent for them, because, I was complaining how hard I had it and how easy he has it. I only will give him my house phone number because, i have changed my cell number numerous times; since I left.

Yes he does pay child support, which is the only good thing about him. Since the kids and I haven't been living there, he hasn't given them any Christmas presents well I take that back, last christmas 2011 he did give them 20.00 each. But his son's bday was March 7th and last year, he asked me if he could borrow 328.00 and this year, he didn't show up to his bday party at chuckee cheeses.

So am I wrong for not really letting him see his son? He only calls when he wants something, he's bipolar, he comes to my mom's job; has even argued with her there. And I will not let him know my address anymore, because the last 2 places, I lived at he always came over acting crazy; last year at the new apartment, I told him the name of the complex and he looked for my jeep and knocked on the doors surrounding the jeep, til he found me.

My reasons are for not really letting him;

1. he is crazy

2. He wants my youngest to be raised by another man.

3. He doesn't care for his son's bday; he even bought some other woman's kids presents for theirs.

4. I don't trust him.

5. I sometimes get scared when I do see him but that has gotten better since, we have been kicked out 3 years ago.

6. Because, he is selfish and I know my kids deserve better. I know I sometimes feel selfish but I think that's guilt and I shouldn't feel guilty for being the best mom I can be by myself! I do it all school, work and homework the motherly thing etc..and he doesn't do crap for his. When I am done with school, I will let go of child support and he can sign his rights away; because, deep down I know he knows, they deserve better.

I know that this is long but please take the time out to read it, i really need to know from a man's point of view and a woman's if I am doing wrong or right.

And no, we have not been to court YET. Guess I am waiting for that day too!

I know he was bad to me, abused me mentally and emotionally. I say this because, I keep blaming myself for the break up and how he treated me. I feel so guilty and it's like I want to apologize even though, I know I did no wrong.

I was always there for him but he wasn't there for me. He wasn't there when my son had surgery, when I was struggling so bad last year, needed help with rent and he never offered to help, "my situation is much better now."

I always loaned him money yes he would pay me back the following week. I recently, loaned him 200 to get his car fixed this was 3 weeks ago and he got upset with me started cussing me out but that was the last straw for me. Yes he paid me back but it's like I felt guilty for asking for my money back sooner. I know I feel no self-worth for myself and I am unhappy. But he has damaged me. I know I should see a counselor, because I am depressed.

How can a man, say I love you than cuss you out 3 weeks later? I know it wasn't love on his part but I do know I loved him. Everyone asks me why do/did you love him? And I had no answer to it; so maybe it wasn't love but the fact, that I needed someone even if it meant being treated disrespectful, hateful and not special. Would have been a year march 1st.

So, how do i move on from this; i really need help with this; I am going down a downward spiral, going crazy literally. i have texted him 2 times since we broke up; well since he gave me my money back and stopped talking to me. I know he used me but I hate being a nice woman and caring. Because it gets you no where trust me.

I know he was bad to me, abused me mentally and emotionally. I say this because, I keep blaming myself for the break up and how he treated me. I feel so guilty and it's like I want to apologize even though, I know I did no wrong.

I was always there for him but he wasn't there for me. He wasn't there when my son had surgery, when I was struggling so bad last year, needed help with rent and he never offered to help, "my situation is much better now."

I always loaned him money yes he would pay me back the following week. I recently, loaned him 200 to get his car fixed this was 3 weeks ago and he got upset with me started cussing me out but that was the last straw for me. Yes he paid me back but it's like I felt guilty for asking for my money back sooner. I know I feel no self-worth for myself and I am unhappy. But he has damaged me. I know I should see a counselor, because I am depressed.

How can a man, say I love you than cuss you out 3 weeks later? I know it wasn't love on his part but I do know I loved him. Everyone asks me why do/did you love him? And I had no answer to it; so maybe it wasn't love but the fact, that I needed someone even if it meant being treated disrespectful, hateful and not special. Would have been a year march 1st.

So, how do i move on from this; i really need help with this; I am going down a downward spiral, going crazy literally. i have texted him 2 times since we broke up; well since he gave me my money back and stopped talking to me. I know he used me but I hate being a nice woman and caring. Because it gets you no where trust me.

I just finished finalizing a break up for almost a year of being with this guy. See I know he is no good but it's like after everything he did made me have low self esteem and I feel guilty and I just want him back. I do feel like I have gone crazy during this whole process. I know he isn't the best man or a man at all. But why after all this abuse to my mind and my soul am I still wanting someone who used me and never was really there for me? I just texted him around midnight and I know I should not of. He has cussed me out recently 2 weeks ago; when I loaned him 200.00 for his truck to get fix, yes he did pay me back but that was the last straw for me, because, I know I deserve better.

how do i move on from this and look at myself as a strong person, because right now I am damaged and depressed.

Daughter lives in texas, she puts single down, still married, they both live in indiana. She collects child support for herself, tanf, food stamps and low income housing, because she puts she is single, but married, gets all this assistance, collects child tax credit for taxes. I go over there all the time, and quite frankly tired of it; i have 2 children I raise, I work. She doesn't probably worked 7 months out of her 27 year of age and lives off the system and her husband doesn't live with her but they are still married but helps her comitt this fraud; to make sure his wife is still supported financially cuz he knows she will never try to get a job; would you report this.

plus daughter, lives in texas keep that in mind and lives with his wife's mother!

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The father is still paying child support because the wife he doesn't live with, can't do it on her own. So she uses that money; doesn't send it down south to texas where her daughter is but uses it for herself!

Daughter lives in texas, she puts single down, still married, they both live in indiana. She collects child support for herself, tanf, food stamps and low income housing, because she puts she is single, but married, gets all this assistance, collects child tax credit for taxes. I go over there all the time, and quite frankly tired of it; i have 2 children I raise, I work. She doesn't probably worked 7 months out of her 27 year of age and lives off the system and her husband doesn't live with her but they are still married but helps her comitt this fraud; to make sure his wife is still supported financially cuz he knows she will never try to get a job; would you report this.

plus daughter, lives in texas keep that in mind and lives with his wife's mother!

Thought if i changed title someone would answer; because I do need help!!!!

thanks for reading

I broke up with my ex in September. because have been feeling single, lonely etc..already felt like we broke up; so I decided to him a favor and just end it. So than all of a sudden my good friend from middle school/high school comes around. He needed somewhere to stay so i let him live with me. One thing led to another now; we are together.

Situation: I thought I had gotten to a place where I was okay to be without him.. I had the whole f him attitude.

New guy: is great; always there; we take care of one another...I have deep feelings for him love him a bit but not all the way yet.

Situation 2: my ex, starts coming back around trying to get me back, finally after almost a year telling me he loves me, always has and always will; that whole bit. So now, I have been going through these crying bits, because, I am lost and confused. I feel like there is no future with my ex; because he has been seperated from his ex for like 5 years, now so why not get divorced? So yes, my dumb *** fell inlove with someone who is married BUT they don't live together etc...I miss him, god I really do.

But I know I need to give the new guy a chance. My ex, wasn't hardly there being he was depressed etc..but I was always there for him no matter what. Because I was suppose to be. But than, I started to feel lonely and single and like I wasn't anyone's gf at all.

I hate the fact, that after being with someone he knows now he wants me and wants to be with me and misses the **** out of me; it kills me and pisses me off at the same time.

I feel stuck because, I know I need to give the new guy a chance...so what should I do. Because I am still in love with my ex?

Honest answers; with a lot of detail! Thank you soooo much; i am going crazy over here and i am trying to hide it from the new guy. When really my heart is aching. Not sure if I can give my ex another chance too scared to; because it may not work out and the new guy, talks to me about the future.

I broke up with my ex in September. because have been feeling single, lonely etc..already felt like we broke up; so I decided to him a favor and just end it. So than all of a sudden my good friend from middle school/high school comes around. He needed somewhere to stay so i let him live with me. One thing led to another now; we are together.

Situation: I thought I had gotten to a place where I was okay to be without him.. I had the whole f him attitude.

New guy: is great; always there; we take care of one another...I have deep feelings for him love him a bit but not all the way yet.

Situation 2: my ex, starts coming back around trying to get me back, finally after almost a year telling me he loves me, always has and always will; that whole bit. So now, I have been going through these crying bits, because, I am lost and confused. I feel like there is no future with my ex; because he has been seperated from his ex for like 5 years, now so why not get divorced? So yes, my dumb *** fell inlove with someone who is married BUT they don't live together etc...I miss him, god I really do.

But I know I need to give the new guy a chance. My ex, wasn't hardly there being he was depressed etc..but I was always there for him no matter what. Because I was suppose to be. But than, I started to feel lonely and single and like I wasn't anyone's gf at all.

I hate the fact, that after being with someone he knows now he wants me and wants to be with me and misses the **** out of me; it kills me and pisses me off at the same time.

I feel stuck because, I know I need to give the new guy a chance...so what should I do. Because I am still in love with my ex?

Honest answers; with a lot of detail! Thank you soooo much; i am going crazy over here and i am trying to hide it from the new guy. When really my heart is aching. Not sure if I can give my ex another chance too scared to; because it may not work out and the new guy, talks to me about the future

I broke up with my ex in September. because have been feeling single, lonely etc..already felt like we broke up; so I decided to him a favor and just end it. So than all of a sudden my good friend from middle school/high school comes around. He needed somewhere to stay so i let him live with me. One thing led to another now; we are together.

Situation: I thought I had gotten to a place where I was okay to be without him.. I had the whole f him attitude.

New guy: is great; always there; we take care of one another...I have deep feelings for him love him a bit but not all the way yet.

Situation 2: my ex, starts coming back around trying to get me back, finally after almost a year telling me he loves me, always has and always will; that whole bit. So now, I have been going through these crying bits, because, I am lost and confused. I feel like there is no future with my ex; because he has been seperated from his ex for like 5 years, now so why not get divorced? So yes, my dumb *** fell inlove with someone who is married BUT they don't live together etc...I miss him, god I really do.

But I know I need to give the new guy a chance. My ex, wasn't hardly there being he was depressed etc..but I was always there for him no matter what. Because I was suppose to be. But than, I started to feel lonely and single and like I wasn't anyone's gf at all.

I hate the fact, that after being with someone he knows now he wants me and wants to be with me and misses the **** out of me; it kills me and pisses me off at the same time.

I feel stuck because, I know I need to give the new guy a chance...so what should I do. Because I am still in love with my ex?

Honest answers; with a lot of detail! Thank you soooo much; i am going crazy over here and i am trying to hide it from the new guy. When really my heart is aching. Not sure if I can give my ex another chance too scared to; because it may not work out and the new guy, talks to me about the future.