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I'm a single 33 years old mother of 2. For the past 15-19 years I've had a very deep and serious crush on a male singer (his name & age is being withheld). I truly like him so much (NOT) because of his celebrity status because that don't mean a dam thing to me nor his money, fame, glitz & glam. But I really desire to get to know him for WHO HE IS. No matter who I'm with in my life or whenever I move on in life this (singer) ALWAYS appear in my heart & in mind and I just cannot let him go. My family, friends etc think I'm 'crazy' but my support system regarding him is MASSIVE!!! People are very supportive and encourages me. :) I am in contact with his family, entourage, band and even songwriters.

But the TWIST is that his blood COUSIN wants to be with me!!! The cousin and I talk everyday by phone. From the moment that the cousin & I started talking we hit it off INSTANTLY!!! There's no nervousness or anything between us. We have a connection that I've never had with a man before. The cousin has told me A LOT about their family, about the singer, etc. everything. Which is good. The cousin is 30 years old. I am starting to develop feelings for the cousin but it's not as intense as it is for the singer. I don't know what to do. Honestly, deep in my heart I WANT THE SINGER. The cousin said that if the singer & I were in a relationship that he'd back off which I appreciate. I don't want to hurt either of them by being with the other. I don't want to use one to get to the other either. The cousin invited me to his city and wants us to go out for lunch or dinner. My fear is that if I get with the cousin I'd ruin my chances with my life long crush. If I get with the singer I'd feel like I hurt the cousin. I feel like I need to at least tell the singer how I feel about him (which I'm trying to do). I feel that it would be unfair to the singer if I just jump in a relationship with his cousin knowing that he was the original one who has my heart. The cousin & I have talked about marriage (not intentionally) and he was like he'd invite my crush (his cousin) to our wedding but that would really hurt me because it's like how can you marry this man (the cousin) knowing that you'd still have feelings for the singer?? I have analyzed both situations and there is a lot for me to think about. I also thought about how 'difficult' it would be for me if I WAS in a real relationship with the cousin and how hard it would be for me to be around the singer at their family gatherings. I thought about maybe 'pretending' to be in a relationship with the cousin that I could use that advantage to get to the singer to tell him what's on my heart but I don't want to do that. According to the singer's ACTUAL sister she told me that her brother (the singer) DOES KNOW ABOUT ME/ HAS HEARD ABOUT ME. I don't know who told him what but it's definitely a great thing :) but I just need to do a little more work. I also don't want the cousin sitting out 'just waiting' to be with me while I'm doing all that I can to see what the singer may say. My mother & nephew & friend told me not to go forth with the cousin. These men have a very, very good woman who wants to make one of them the happiest man in the world. Yes, I've met the singer before at one of his concerts where we exchanged a hug/ kiss. :) I NEED ADVICE PLEASE! Thanks in advance.

I'm a single 33 years old mother of 2. For the past 15-19 years I've had a very deep and serious crush on a male singer (his name & age is being withheld). I truly like him so much (NOT) because of his celebrity status because that don't mean a dam thing to me nor his money, fame, glitz & glam. But I really desire to get to know him for WHO HE IS. No matter who I'm with in my life or whenever I move on in life this (singer) ALWAYS appear in my heart & in mind and I just cannot let him go. My family, friends etc think I'm 'crazy' but my support system regarding him is MASSIVE!!! People are very supportive and encourages me. :) I am in contact with his family, entourage, band and even songwriters.

But the TWIST is that his blood COUSIN wants to be with me!!! The cousin and I talk everyday by phone. From the moment that the cousin & I started talking we hit it off INSTANTLY!!! There's no nervousness or anything between us. We have a connection that I've never had with a man before. The cousin has told me A LOT about their family, about the singer, etc. everything. Which is good. The cousin is 30 years old. I am starting to develop feelings for the cousin but it's not as intense as it is for the singer. I don't know what to do. Honestly, deep in my heart I WANT THE SINGER. The cousin said that if the singer & I were in a relationship that he'd back off which I appreciate. I don't want to hurt either of them by being with the other. I don't want to use one to get to the other either. The cousin invited me to his city and wants us to go out for lunch or dinner. My fear is that if I get with the cousin I'd ruin my chances with my life long crush. If I get with the singer I'd feel like I hurt the cousin. I feel like I need to at least tell the singer how I feel about him (which I'm trying to do). I feel that it would be unfair to the singer if I just jump in a relationship with his cousin knowing that he was the original one who has my heart. The cousin & I have talked about marriage (not intentionally) and he was like he'd invite my crush (his cousin) to our wedding but that would really hurt me because it's like how can you marry this man (the cousin) knowing that you'd still have feelings for the singer?? I have analyzed both situations and there is a lot for me to think about. I also thought about how 'difficult' it would be for me if I WAS in a real relationship with the cousin and how hard it would be for me to be around the singer at their family gatherings. I thought about maybe 'pretending' to be in a relationship with the cousin that I could use that advantage to get to the singer to tell him what's on my heart but I don't want to do that. According to the singer's ACTUAL sister she told me that her brother (the singer) DOES KNOW ABOUT ME/ HAS HEARD ABOUT ME. I don't know who told him what but it's definitely a great thing :) but I just need to do a little more work. I also don't want the cousin sitting out 'just waiting' to be with me while I'm doing all that I can to see what the singer may say. My mother & nephew & friend told me not to go forth with the cousin. These men have a very, very good woman who wants to make one of them the happiest man in the world. Yes, I've met the singer before at one of his concerts where we exchanged a hug/ kiss. :) I NEED ADVICE PLEASE! Thanks in advance.

I'm a 32 yr old single mother of 2 & the man in question is (now) my daughter's father (age 41).

In spring 2008 we met online, had our first meet & date a month later. He lives out of town, is an 'entertainer', travels a lot and is extremely popular around the world. He'd travel hundred of miles from home to my city to hang out with his guy but would come to my place. Upon every visit he ALWAYS stay the night with me and would surprise me with arrival texts like "I'm up here", "I'm on the way..", "I'm at ?? house, come get me", etc. Happily in shock I'd have to do a speedy home touch up & get fixed up. Lol (His friend & my sis were in a relationship too; so this involves the 4 of us) but they all played along. I was told that he really like me and same here.

I've always happily wondered WHY WOULD A MAN CHOOSE TO COME SO MANY HUNDRED MILES JUST TO BE WITH ME? WHY DO HE ALWAYS SPEND THE NIGHT WITH ME (when he could have chosen to be with someone else)?? This was on going for bout a year so during his overnight stay I began noticing new things with him: he'd pull me closer to him for us to cuddle, we NEVER used or tried to use protection (only the first night), during every sexual moment he NEVER used the withdrawal method and he became more talkative (shared his 'personal' information bout his kids/ family etc). We talked about having a threesome together, he was like "go find her and I'll be back." I haven't found 'her' yet. He's the only person that I've ever told my fantasy it's a first for us. I did have ne sexual encounter with a woman but after seeing & being with him he made my sexual desire stronger so I wanted to make him apart of it.

A year later in 2009 I became pregnant with our daughter (age 15 months), she's a spit image of him. My pregnancy caused some tension between us whereas he's not talking to me. :( But that's another story. I cry a lot for him bc my daughter needs her daddy more than anything. He's my sweetheart, the love of my life; someone that I care for/ miss so much. It's harder now because we're apart and it's killing me. Since the night of conception I refrained from sex for 2 full years (but that was just broken bout 3 wks ago w/ me & someone else) :(. I wish I'd of waited for her dad. Q: DO YOU THINK HE WILL EVER BE BACK (for her) & TALK AGAIN TO ME AGAIN?? Thanks

I'm a 32 yr old single mother of 2. My daughter's father is 41 (our daughter is 15 months).

I admit that when I first notified my daughter's dad of my pregnancy he said "we'll talk." But after my decision to 'keep it', he became upset in which I can understand bc I deeply feel that I did not give him a chance as the father to be involved (his input, advice etc.) after he made the suggestion (which I feel was the right thing to do). He's upset still and will not talk to me (at all), he ignore, block, ditch/ dodges me. Here it is I would curse him out/ snap never realizing that I NEVER GAVE HIM A CHANCE!! I'm so hurt. My heart is very, very heavy. No matter how disrespectful I've gotten/ been he has never disrespected me. I did write him an apology letter about not hearing him out and that I was wrong etc. I told him that it's my fault I don't hold anything against him for what he has not done thus for her although I would like for him to. I went thru pregnancy/ delivery without him. His first visit to see her 6 days after her birth he still wouldn't talk to me though he asked a few questions regarding her (we barely said anything to each other during his few hour stay). I couldn't hold back the tears. It's been so hard for me as me, my 2 kids & oldest nephew were in a car accident whereas I sustained severe injuries on my entire left side (head, neck/ whiplash, collar, back, side, arm numbness/ pinched nerve in hip which effects my walking).

I cannot properly care for her, lifting/ carrying her is hard on my injuries as this accident has really affected my life. I told her dad about it and the difficulties of trying to care for her.

I've contacted him at least 30x (Myspace, Face Book, texts) alone. I feel that yes I've become way too naggish/ bothersome with the constant contacting and the disrespectful behavior in which is what's causing him to run away. I feel that bc of my deep care about him I don't know how to leave him alone (give him space/ time) etc. I admit, I HAVE A PROBLEM, I don't know how. It's not being done purposely as my fear is them not being in each others lives. I want to stop but I don't know how. This is really destroying me bc we're both hurting. The baby even knows when I'm crying, she'll wipe my eyes & hug me. She's so smart, I ask her "where's daddy?" She smiles and she can point him out of a photo line up (him pictured in a group with others), this hurts. I messed up so bad/ so much. I really wish we could talk bc there's a lot for us to talk about. What should I do?? Thanks.

I'm a 32 yr old single mother of 2. My daughter's father is 41 (our daughter is 15 months).

I admit that when I first notified my daughter's dad of my pregnancy he said "we'll talk." But after my decision to 'keep it', he became upset in which I can understand bc I deeply feel that I did not give him a chance as the father to be involved (his input, advice etc.) after he made the suggestion (which I feel was the right thing to do). He's upset still and will not talk to me (at all), he ignore, block, ditch/ dodges me. Here it is I would curse him out/ snap never realizing that I NEVER GAVE HIM A CHANCE!! I'm so hurt. My heart is very, very heavy. No matter how disrespectful I've gotten/ been he has never disrespected me. I did write him an apology letter about not hearing him out and that I was wrong etc. I told him that it's my fault I don't hold anything against him for what he has not done thus for her although I would like for him to. I went thru pregnancy/ delivery without him. His first visit to see her 6 days after her birth he still wouldn't talk to me though he asked a few questions regarding her (we barely said anything to each other during his few hour stay). I couldn't hold back the tears. It's been so hard for me as me, my 2 kids & oldest nephew were in a car accident whereas I sustained severe injuries on my entire left side (head, neck/ whiplash, collar, back, side, arm numbness/ pinched nerve in hip which effects my walking).

I cannot properly care for her, lifting/ carrying her is hard on my injuries as this accident has really affected my life. I told her dad about it and the difficulties of trying to care for her.

I've contacted him at least 30x (Myspace, Face Book, texts) alone. I feel that yes I've become way too naggish/ bothersome with the constant contacting and the disrespectful behavior in which is what's causing him to run away. I feel that bc of my deep care about him I don't know how to leave him alone (give him space/ time) etc. I admit, I HAVE A PROBLEM, I don't know how. It's not being done purposely as my fear is them not being in each others lives. I want to stop but I don't know how. This is really destroying me bc we're both hurting. The baby even knows when I'm crying, she'll wipe my eyes & hug me. She's so smart, I ask her "where's daddy?" She smiles and she can point him out of a photo line up (him pictured in a group with others), this hurts. I messed up so bad/ so much. I really wish we could talk bc there's a lot for us to talk about. What should I do?? Thanks.

I'm a single 32 yr old mother of 2; a 9 yr old boy & 1 yr old girl. I have a home desk top computer that I bought in spring 2008 basically for my business & personal use. I never thought my household would become victim on online sexual exposure 'so soon not that I want it to happen.'

I admit playing R&B Joe's music outrageously crazy during chores, cooking, just because etc. with & without my son being home. A few months ago I had a problem with one of my brothers who used my computer to watch porn when my son & I share our desk top. He said that it's for educational purposes and was on it for like 10 hours. I never knew about what he did until I went into my computer cookies folder either that same night or the next day to find something before stumbling upon 190 porn sites. I contacted him, he confessed to it and paid to get the viruses & sites removed with protection added. When found out about the porn it raised a huge red flag with fear that pop ups would appear before my son.

Just today 1/28/2011 I received a call from my son's day treatment program about his inappropriate behavior on a female peer that shares transportation with him from the day before. In a 2 hr conversation with him he confessed to how he had sexually caroused, rubbed, caressed, touched & had his hands in her pants. He kissed her on the lips couple times, hit her behind, kissed her butt while (on the van). YES THIS IS WHAT HE CONFESSED TO ME!! As 2 of 4 people on the van this is what was happening and the program told me that now he has to switch routes & to a daytime schedule again. In our conversation (because I feel that he needs a good whipping) don't you know that HE TOLD ALL??!!! I mean detailed EVERYTHING about what goes on in the bed with a male/ female, how he's been on Youtube watching sex videos when I leave out the room to take care of home, cook etc and upon my arrival he'll hurry to exit the video and act like he was 'really' playing kid games. He was talking as if it was two grown ups. I couldn't believe my ears. In pain internally my heart/ mind was in shock, numb, I was angry, you name it but I didn't let him see it!! He was very open and when asked what he saw in the videos (here's his exact words) "I see a man & lady in bed humping on each other, kissing, touching inappropriately in different places." I was literally floored!!!! He claims that its all because he wants a girlfriend bc of loneliness but he has me & his sister. As a mother/ parent I had to re-explain in child language what a girl/ boyfriend was (but not the way grown ups look at it). I explained that I have boy & girlfriends, you know, male/ females who are my friends but I don't go kissing on them. I just found all of this out today. I didn't know any of this.

As its just the three of us in the home, my son has only seen ONE man come into my home sharing my bed with me and that is my daughter's father. (Well before I became impregnated by him) but never the less, I never had him over when my son was awake, I'd always wait until his 8:00 bed time before he come by and by then he's already asleep. I keep my bedroom door shut at all times and teach my son to NEVER open a closed door, always knock first. Like one morning when my boo & I were sleep nude (as a light sleeper) I heard my son bout to open the door so I immediately covered him and yelled to my son "you better not open this door." I threw a robe on to see what he wanted. We've never displayed sexual behavior around him (it's always in the bedroom). And I'm the type of person whose private anyways, I hate & do not like ANYONE in the house with me & my bedroom partner anyways, it makes me nervous to where I can't fully indulge in my adult activities. With fear as much as we love to f**k doggystyle & have oral sex etc I worried that he'll walk in on us seeing my a** in the air and my mouth down south. Omg, that's why I try to empty my house. In the past when he'd come over I would get my sister who lives around the corner from me to keep him for the night. And if she can't I'd make sure he in bed sleep before the arrival.

Thank heaven for early school hours whereas boo can sleep in while I get my son out for school and that leaves us to be alone. I'm going to password my computer and buy a doorknob with a lock.

I don't know what to do. SHOULD HE BE ALLOWED ON THE COMPUTER AT ALL? I feel only when I'm present & if I'm not he'll have to wait in his room til I return. He did apologize but still... he knows what goes on. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP! >( Thanks.

I'm a single 32 yr old mother of 2; a 9 yr old boy & 1 yr old girl. I have a home desk top computer that I bought in spring 2008 basically for my business & personal use. I never thought my household would become victim on online sexual exposure 'so soon not that I want it to happen.'

I admit playing R&B Joe's music outrageously crazy during chores, cooking, just because etc. with & without my son being home. A few months ago I had a problem with one of my brothers who used my computer to watch porn when my son & I share our desk top. He said that it's for educational purposes and was on it for like 10 hours. I never knew about what he did until I went into my computer cookies folder either that same night or the next day to find something before stumbling upon 190 porn sites. I contacted him, he confessed to it and paid to get the viruses & sites removed with protection added. When found out about the porn it raised a huge red flag with fear that pop ups would appear before my son.

Just today 1/28/2011 I received a call from my son's day treatment program about his inappropriate behavior on a female peer that shares transportation with him from the day before. In a 2 hr conversation with him he confessed to how he had sexually caroused, rubbed, caressed, touched & had his hands in her pants. He kissed her on the lips couple times, hit her behind, kissed her butt while (on the van). YES THIS IS WHAT HE CONFESSED TO ME!! As 2 of 4 people on the van this is what was happening and the program told me that now he has to switch routes & to a daytime schedule again. In our conversation (because I feel that he needs a good whipping) don't you know that HE TOLD ALL??!!! I mean detailed EVERYTHING about what goes on in the bed with a male/ female, how he's been on Youtube watching sex videos when I leave out the room to take care of home, cook etc and upon my arrival he'll hurry to exit the video and act like he was 'really' playing kid games. He was talking as if it was two grown ups. I couldn't believe my ears. In pain internally my heart/ mind was in shock, numb, I was angry, you name it but I didn't let him see it!! He was very open and when asked what he saw in the videos (here's his exact words) "I see a man & lady in bed humping on each other, kissing, touching inappropriately in different places." I was literally floored!!!! He claims that its all because he wants a girlfriend bc of loneliness but he has me & his sister. As a mother/ parent I had to re-explain in child language what a girl/ boyfriend was (but not the way grown ups look at it). I explained that I have boy & girlfriends, you know, male/ females who are my friends but I don't go kissing on them. I just found all of this out today. I didn't know any of this.

As its just the three of us in the home, my son has only seen ONE man come into my home sharing my bed with me and that is my daughter's father. (Well before I became impregnated by him) but never the less, I never had him over when my son was awake, I'd always wait until his 8:00 bed time before he come by and by then he's already asleep. I keep my bedroom door shut at all times and teach my son to NEVER open a closed door, always knock first. Like one morning when my boo & I were sleep nude (as a light sleeper) I heard my son bout to open the door so I immediately covered him and yelled to my son "you better not open this door." I threw a robe on to see what he wanted. We've never displayed sexual behavior around him (it's always in the bedroom). And I'm the type of person whose private anyways, I hate & do not like ANYONE in the house with me & my bedroom partner anyways, it makes me nervous to where I can't fully indulge in my adult activities. With fear as much as we love to f**k doggystyle & have oral sex etc I worried that he'll walk in on us seeing my a** in the air and my mouth down south. Omg, that's why I try to empty my house. In the past when he'd come over I would get my sister who lives around the corner from me to keep him for the night. And if she can't I'd make sure he in bed sleep before the arrival.

Thank heaven for early school hours whereas boo can sleep in while I get my son out for school and that leaves us to be alone. I'm going to password my computer and buy a doorknob with a lock.

I don't know what to do. SHOULD HE BE ALLOWED ON THE COMPUTER AT ALL? I feel only when I'm present & if I'm not he'll have to wait in his room til I return. He did apologize but still... he knows what goes on. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP! >( Thanks.

I'm a 32 yr old single mom of 2 (boy/ girl). *To part of the story*

For a year of unprotected sex (2008-2009) with my daughter's dad age 40, I was blessed with my beautiful miracle girl (age 1) who's a spit image of her daddy, she's his 7th child. But he's still angry at me bc I didn't allow us to talk as he suggested when I first called him breaking our pregnancy news. During the call he was calm, nice about it but in shock so after informing that I'm keeping it he went M.I.A. As the biological father I admit being wrong & hate that I didn't allow his input in it. I feel that I should of at least heard him out (though I knew my decision). He felt that I didn't/ don't care about his feelings but I now understand his feelings and actions. It's tearing me up I feel like there's a hole in my heart, it hurt so f*cking bad and I do care so much about him, I can't stop crying. Surely time can't be rewind, she's already here & matters most. I really want a father/ daughter relationship.

Since the night of conception we've only seen each other 3x (@ 2 events & his 3-4 hr visit at my house to see her; Dec 2009). During the visit I tried initiating conversation but he 'just wasn't hearing it.' He was quiet the whole time except asking 2 questions bout her. Few weeks later he text asking bout her & would send her things but after I snapped there haven't been anything. Then he sent me a 2010 H. Mom's Day text. Our last face to face interaction was at a May 2010 event, he approached me with greetings, few kisses and conversation (he asked about her/ I also gave him a gift of her pics). Yes, I've been rude at the mouth with him & sent bad messages/ text bc of his non-participation but I feel so bad I really do. He's a very very sweet man in spite of what he's 'not' doing. Being my last intimate partner after 23 months apart I've been so heartbroken (only wanting him) til I try to keep a focused mind on my 2. On my way to get my neph to the Greyhound Station my children, myself & oldest nephew were in a car accident 3/2010 while stopped at a red light. The others were ok but I sustained severe injuries on my entire left side: head, neck, collar, arm, hand, hip & back. I have numbness from my shoulder to fingers & a pinched nerve in my hip that affects my walking distances. A man hit my car at 40+ mph on the rear left side. With daily excruciating pain & constantly bending to get her in/ out the center of the car, the heaviness of her in the car seat, going up/down stairs it's hard. I can't properly take care of her or can't hold, lift or stand with her in my arms a long time. But see, this is what I told him about in our May convo. I NEED HELP!! Thank heaven for my beautiful 9 yr old son who's a big helper. *Tears*

However, after repeated communication attempts for help with her thru texts, FB/ Myspace messages and even contacting his sister & his oldest daughter on Facebook, he has made excuses, ignored, rejected and blocked me. His sister (unresponsive/ blocked me) and his daughter (replied & respectfully spoke to him first bout the situation but then perhaps upon his request I was un-friend requested). He is stuck hard in his ways, he won't budge only when he wants. But I want him to understand why I kept her (if it's his reason). I'd already lost twins to abortion in 2003 from a previous controlling 6 yr relationship and wasn't going to ever let it happen again for no man. I miss my identical twins so much and didn't think I was conceivable again. Gratefully I was able to not only speak for her life but also conceive. But again, I understand why he's been acting this way. I've explained that I want to make it work and make things right for her sake. I don't know what to do. Should I just try to leave him alone to let time pass or maybe write a letter of permanent departure from his life for the next 17 yrs (erase his #, no online contacts, let him find us)?? What? PLEASE HELP without THE BULLSHYT!! Thanks. :(

I'm a 32 yr old single mom of 2 (boy/ girl). *To part of the story*

For a year of unprotected sex (2008-2009) with my daughter's dad age 40, I was blessed with my beautiful miracle girl (age 1) who's a spit image of her daddy, she's his 7th child. But he's still angry at me bc I didn't allow us to talk as he suggested when I first called him breaking our pregnancy news. During the call he was calm, nice about it but in shock so after informing that I'm keeping it he went M.I.A. As the biological father I admit being wrong & hate that I didn't allow his input in it. I feel that I should of at least heard him out (though I knew my decision). He felt that I didn't/ don't care about his feelings but I now understand his feelings and actions. It's tearing me up I feel like there's a hole in my heart, it hurt so f*cking bad and I do care so much about him, I can't stop crying. Surely time can't be rewind, she's already here & matters most. I really want a father/ daughter relationship.

Since the night of conception we've only seen each other 3x (@ 2 events & his 3-4 hr visit at my house to see her; Dec 2009). During the visit I tried initiating conversation but he 'just wasn't hearing it.' He was quiet the whole time except asking 2 questions bout her. Few weeks later he text asking bout her & would send her things but after I snapped there haven't been anything. Then he sent me a 2010 H. Mom's Day text. Our last face to face interaction was at a May 2010 event, he approached me with greetings, few kisses and conversation (he asked about her/ I also gave him a gift of her pics). Yes, I've been rude at the mouth with him & sent bad messages/ text bc of his non-participation but I feel so bad I really do. He's a very very sweet man in spite of what he's 'not' doing. Being my last intimate partner after 23 months apart I've been so heartbroken (only wanting him) til I try to keep a focused mind on my 2. On my way to get my neph to the Greyhound Station my children, myself & oldest nephew were in a car accident 3/2010 while stopped at a red light. The others were ok but I sustained severe injuries on my entire left side: head, neck, collar, arm, hand, hip & back. I have numbness from my shoulder to fingers & a pinched nerve in my hip that affects my walking distances. A man hit my car at 40+ mph on the rear left side. With daily excruciating pain & constantly bending to get her in/ out the center of the car, the heaviness of her in the car seat, going up/down stairs it's hard. I can't properly take care of her or can't hold, lift or stand with her in my arms a long time. But see, this is what I told him about in our May convo. I NEED HELP!! Thank heaven for my beautiful 9 yr old son who's a big helper. *Tears*

However, after repeated communication attempts for help with her thru texts, FB/ Myspace messages and even contacting his sister & his oldest daughter on Facebook, he has made excuses, ignored, rejected and blocked me. His sister (unresponsive/ blocked me) and his daughter (replied & respectfully spoke to him first bout the situation but then perhaps upon his request I was un-friend requested). He is stuck hard in his ways, he won't budge only when he wants. But I want him to understand why I kept her (if it's his reason). I'd already lost twins to abortion in 2003 from a previous controlling 6 yr relationship and wasn't going to ever let it happen again for no man. I miss my identical twins so much and didn't think I was conceivable again. Gratefully I was able to not only speak for her life but also conceive. But again, I understand why he's been acting this way. I've explained that I want to make it work and make things right for her sake. I don't know what to do. Should I just try to leave him alone to let time pass or maybe write a letter of permanent departure from his life for the next 17 yrs (erase his #, no online contacts, let him find us)?? What? PLEASE HELP without THE BULLSHYT!! Thanks. :(

I'm a 32 yr old single mom of 2 (boy/ girl). *To part of the story*

For a year of unprotected sex (2008-2009) with my daughter's dad age 40, I was blessed with my beautiful miracle girl (age 1) who's a spit image of her daddy, she's his 7th child. But he's still angry at me bc I didn't allow us to talk as he suggested when I first called him breaking our pregnancy news. During the call he was calm, nice about it but in shock so after informing that I'm keeping it he went M.I.A. As the biological father I admit being wrong & hate that I didn't allow his input in it. I feel that I should of at least heard him out (though I knew my decision). He felt that I didn't/ don't care about his feelings but I now understand his feelings and actions. It's tearing me up I feel like there's a hole in my heart, it hurt so f*cking bad and I do care so much about him, I can't stop crying. Surely time can't be rewind, she's already here & matters most. I really want a father/ daughter relationship.

Since the night of conception we've only seen each other 3x (@ 2 events & his 3-4 hr visit at my house to see her; Dec 2009). During the visit I tried initiating conversation but he 'just wasn't hearing it.' He was quiet the whole time except asking 2 questions bout her. Few weeks later he text asking bout her & would send her things but after I snapped there haven't been anything. Then he sent me a 2010 H. Mom's Day text. Our last face to face interaction was at a May 2010 event, he approached me with greetings, few kisses and conversation (he asked about her/ I also gave him a gift of her pics). Yes, I've been rude at the mouth with him & sent bad messages/ text bc of his non-participation but I feel so bad I really do. He's a very very sweet man in spite of what he's 'not' doing. Being my last intimate partner after 23 months apart I've been so heartbroken (only wanting him) til I try to keep a focused mind on my 2. On my way to get my neph to the Greyhound Station my children, myself & oldest nephew were in a car accident 3/2010 while stopped at a red light. The others were ok but I sustained severe injuries on my entire left side: head, neck, collar, arm, hand, hip & back. I have numbness from my shoulder to fingers & a pinched nerve in my hip that affects my walking distances. A man hit my car at 40+ mph on the rear left side. With daily excruciating pain & constantly bending to get her in/ out the center of the car, the heaviness of her in the car seat, going up/down stairs it's hard. I can't properly take care of her or can't hold, lift or stand with her in my arms a long time. But see, this is what I told him about in our May convo. I NEED HELP!! Thank heaven for my beautiful 9 yr old son who's a big helper. *Tears*

However, after repeated communication attempts for help with her thru texts, FB/ Myspace messages and even contacting his sister & his oldest daughter on Facebook, he has made excuses, ignored, rejected and blocked me. His sister (unresponsive/ blocked me) and his daughter (replied & respectfully spoke to him first bout the situation but then perhaps upon his request I was un-friend requested). He is stuck hard in his ways, he won't budge only when he wants. But I want him to understand why I kept her (if it's his reason). I'd already lost twins to abortion in 2003 from a previous controlling 6 yr relationship and wasn't going to ever let it happen again for no man. I miss my identical twins so much and didn't think I was conceivable again. Gratefully I was able to not only speak for her life but also conceive. But again, I understand why he's been acting this way. I've explained that I want to make it work and make things right for her sake. I don't know what to do. Should I just try to leave him alone to let time pass or maybe write a letter of permanent departure from his life for the next 17 yrs (erase his #, no online contacts, let him find us)?? What? PLEASE HELP without THE BULLSHYT!! Thanks. :(

I'm 32 & (mother of 2). I have a crush on a guy from our old high school, actually he's crush #2 but I just found him on Facebook. We accepted each others friend request so I messaged him and told him that I had a crush on him. He was like, I liked you in school too but thought you would snap (on me). I replied, I wouldn't do that to my crush lol. Ok, so as I looked thru his photos I got turned on and made 'sexy' comments. He replied to the comments teasing and flirting, asking "What am I waiting for", etc, so I got really really turned on some more and left him a very SEXUAL & DIRTY message of what I want us to do together. Lol.

Now to remind you, I have NOT had sex in 22 months (also included) and I'm waiting on his reply to see where this will lead. However, me personally, I'm not sure if I'm 'ready' to have sex like that again with people (not saying) it's something wrong with him. But I still want my daughter's dad for one, (the last time baby dad & I were together was 22 months ago during the time of conception & he's 'upset' at me and won't talk to me, not even regarding our daughter). I kind of doubt that he'll give me more but little do he know it's gone be flaunted all up in his face when he do come see her!! Hell inspite of all that this is big daddy's P and I want to continue holding out for him although my crush is available & willing!!! I've never been the type to sleep around or be with multiple people at once. There's a giant gap between my baby's dad & I (sexually) and I have NOT been with anyone since then. I just want one night with the crush or don't want to get pregnant (we'll use protection). I'm a very patient woman though I can hold longer but I'm not sure what to do.

WHAT SHOULD I DO? **WARNING: DO NOT talk sh*t to me, respect me & the same to you**

I'M TORN BETWEEN MY BABY'S DAD & A CRUSH!!! (Help)?

I'm 32 & (mother of 2). I have a crush on a guy from our old high school, actually he's crush #2 but I just found him on Facebook. We accepted each others friend request so I messaged him and told him that I had a crush on him. He was like, I liked you in school too but thought you would snap (on me). I replied, I wouldn't do that to my crush lol. Ok, so as I looked thru his photos I got turned on and made 'sexy' comments. He replied to the comments teasing and flirting, asking "What am I waiting for", etc, so I got really really turned on some more and left him a very SEXUAL & DIRTY message of what I want us to do together. Lol.

Now to remind you, I have NOT had sex in 22 months (also included) and I'm waiting on his reply to see where this will lead. However, me personally, I'm not sure if I'm 'ready' to have sex like that again with people (not saying) it's something wrong with him. But I still want my daughter's dad for one, (the last time baby dad & I were together was 22 months ago during the time of conception & he's 'upset' at me and won't talk to me, not even regarding our daughter). I kind of doubt that he'll give me more but little do he know it's gone be flaunted all up in his face when he do come see her!! Hell inspite of all that this is big daddy's P and I want to continue holding out for him although my crush is available & willing!!! I've never been the type to sleep around or be with multiple people at once. There's a giant gap between my baby's dad & I (sexually) and I have NOT been with anyone since then. I just want one night with the crush or don't want to get pregnant (we'll use protection). I'm a very patient woman though I can hold longer but I'm not sure what to do.

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

QUESTION 1: If you have a major crush on someone and their friend highly knows it do you think that when he says "I'm trying to break the ice", that he's doing it for himself or your crush??

QUESTION 2: What if he asks you alot of random questions like he's really interested in you and tells you to send a pic of yourself to his phone or email but not his Face Book? Is the pic for him or your crush?

QUESTION 3: Do you think he'll reveal the truth to you and connect you and your crush (soon)?

*NOW to remind you, I'm in that situation right now and the friend and I talk everyday by phone but the conversations are never bout the crush. QUESTION 4: Do you think he's 'hooking' us up discreetly and don't want us to know it?? I asked the friend "Why are you asking me these questions?" And he said bc he wants to. Bc when he asks questions I don't know what's going on (lol) and I become upset bc I really really want my crush and not him. Should I continue to play along like I don't know what's going on although I THINK I do??? Thanks. I'm 32 years old. PLEASE ANSWER ALL QUESTIONS so I'll know what you all think.

QUESTION 1: If you have a major crush on someone and their friend highly knows it do you think that when he says "I'm trying to break the ice", that he's doing it for himself or your crush??

QUESTION 2: What if he asks you alot of random questions like he's really interested in you and tells you to send a pic of yourself to his phone or email but not his Face Book? Is the pic for him or your crush?

QUESTION 3: Do you think he'll reveal the truth to you and connect you and your crush (soon)?

*NOW to remind you, I'm in that situation right now and the friend and I talk everyday by phone but the conversations are never bout the crush. QUESTION 4: Do you think he's 'hooking' us up discreetly and don't want us to know it??

Bc when he asks questions I don't know what's going on (lol) and I become upset bc I really really want my crush and not him. Should I continue to play along like I don't know what's going on although I THINK I do??? Thanks. I'm 32 years old. PLEASE ANSWER ALL QUESTIONS so I'll know what you all think.

I have a very very deep crush on a CELEBRITY but his friend is coming off showing me interest but I don't want to cross like that. Lol. The friend sent an inbox message to my Facebook an now we talk everyday by phone. The friend is very aware that I am deeply into the main guy but why would he try talking to me like that? Is he really trying to connect or disconnect the other guy/ I? He said that he's not doing this for the other guy so I guess he himself wants me. Deep in my heart I CANNOT give myself to the friend bc my heart is already deeply into the other one. I don't want to use the friend either.

The problem is that in our phone conversation a few minutes ago tonight I messed up by letting something slip out of my mouth and he got upset acting like he didn't want to talk anymore. How can I assure him that he can be comfortable with me & vs? I'd really like to pick up where we left off.

My QUES.: Should I call him back tomorrow or let him call me?? (I'm so afraid that I may have ruined my chances of being with either of them (as friend to one & lover to the other). WHAT SHOULD I DO? I DO NOT HAVE ANY ROOM RIGHT NOW FOR ERRORS in the newness of our 'friendship/ conversation'.

I didn't want to just come out directly asking for 'the hook ups' on the main target. However, I DO feel that the friend IS my ONLY connection link and he said to me tonight that he's trying to break the ice. I think I know what he mean by that but hope it's for the right reason. He is throwing out very good 'hint' tips but I'm somewhat confused about his real role. I want to continue to follow my heart. PLEASE HELP!! Thanks.

***PS, It would be very very very very hard for me to be romantically involved with the friend knowing that the main guy is ALWAYS around. I would have a major problem with that and wouldn't be able to focus on (the friend & I) bc I want the other guy!!**

I'm a 32 yr old single mother of 2 children. Both my son & daughter have different dads but neither of them has done ANYTHING for either of their children and neither was there during my entire pregnancy so I wanted to know SHOULD I SHARE OR GIVE ANY of our MILLIONS of dollars money to the fathers??? Do they deserve it??

My daughter is 10 months & her 40 yr old dad (a fathe of 7), I like him SO DAM much it's driving me crazy but he has really been (half mean/ half nice). He ditched, dodged, ignored, rejected, blocked me on FB, refused to talk to me etc. I try not to use my feelings as a way of 'escape' for him or 'be nice' to him but the overall thing is that we have a beautiful girl together. I even tried FB'ing his sister/ older dghter to let them know about the baby but he must've said something to them and they aren't my FB friends anymore. Since the beginning of my pregnancy he just vanished and I had to initiate the first online conversation btwn us even now. He WON'T reply, call, write, visit but when I send him message after message after message then he'll reply. When he saw me in person a few months ago at (his) event he came up to me giving me a hug, compliment & kiss. **I got butterflies just thinking bout it** :) But for real, I've litterally broke down so many times crying bc of how he's treated me. We were never in a relationship, it was sexual for close to a year. He's mad bc I didn't do what he wanted me to which was abort. He saw her only once.

My son is 8 yrs old & his 29 yr old father haven't done nothin for him either. He don't call, write, visit etc. He's got 6 kids total, my son's the oldest and all other 5 are in 3 different foster homes & he's married. He's not doing nothin with himself. He's mad bc I won't be with him! WHAT SHOULD I DO?? Thanks.

My 8 yr old son (3rd grade) needs help with this problem:

EXPLAIN HOW YOU KNOW THAT 6,775 IS THE CORRECT ANSWER TO THE CLUES BELOW

-My ones digit is 5.

-My thousands digit is one more than my ones digit.

-My hundreds digit is 7.

-My tens digit is the same as my hundreds digit.

WHAT NUMBER AM I? Thanks.

I am helping my 8 yr old son (3rd grade) to solve this problem:

EXPLAIN HOW THE DIGIT 7 CAN HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES (thank you)

I'm 31 & my daughter's dad is 40. The last time we had sex was the day of conception (March 2009) and it's now 17 months later. Our daughter is 8 months. It's been sexual only for bout a year until I got pregnant. It's been way too long and I'm craving the shitz out of him until I WILL PAY HIM FOR IT (although I know I don't have to) but I want it!! Why haven't he given it to me??... it's a long story.

I'm very upset bc I want it!! I DON'T or WILL NOT have sex with anyone else but him. It's either Big Daddy's or nothing at all. Real talk. I'll do the masturbation thing but only in front of him (which I've never done before, hmm good thought). Lol. So my question is: Even though he's refusing to talk to me at all regarding our baby or haven't done anything for her would I be wrong to tell him I'll pay him for it bc that's just how bad I want it??? I mean I went a year back in 2000 without sex so now this is my longest. And to be honest I don't know when or IF I'll ever get it again. I mean #1 we have so much to talk about (which is more important) but I'm hoping. I could've had some when he came over to see her a few days after her birth but my 8 yr old son was home with us damm!! I'm a very patient person and is tryin to wait longer. Should I pay him?? Thanks.