Should I listen to my head, or my heart?

I recently met an amazing man. He is intelligent, funny, down to earth and good looking. He has a full time job, lives on his own, and is my age. The whole package. The problem? I am also recently out of a multiple year relationship.
I am torn on this subject, because I don't know if I am ready to jump into another relationship so soon. I am scared I could end up hurting him, and that is the last thing I want to do. However, I really, really do not want to lose this man to someone else.
He understands my delimna, and has told me he would be willing to wait. I know I cannot have my cake and eat it too. I wasn't even looking for someone when we met. It just happened. What should I do?? Help!

2006-04-04T13:57:56Z

Ok, let me rephrase the living on his own thing. He is almost 30, (as am I) has multiple degrees, and fully supports himself. Sorry if I made it sound like he and I were 18.

Anonymous2006-04-04T13:35:11Z

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I think its best to listen to your heart, You have a wonderful guy in your hands.Maybe its time to move on and accpet changes. Tell this guy that you are scared of being committed agian. Since he understands your dilemma Im sure he'll understand how you are feeling. It might be soon, but better now than never. He seems like a really nice guy, take a shot. You can to move on anyway and you now have an oppourtunity. Good luck!

moonbunny44752006-04-04T13:38:48Z

I could write a long reply but no matter what is written here, it all comes down to you. Are you comfortable enough to move on to that point? Your heart says not to lose him, and he says that he is not going anywhere. I would suggest to take things one step at a time then.

tr1ewq2006-04-04T13:54:02Z

he says he is willing to wait. then, take it slow. let him read this post, i'm sure he'll understand. being with honesty now and you'll start the relationship off on the right foot. Good luck.

margarita2006-04-04T13:39:15Z

Well you've been up front with him so that's a good thing! I say go for it but just watch the speed limit. Take things slow. Good luck!

Anonymous2006-04-04T13:35:28Z

Seems like a good guy if he's wiling to wait then you should also allow your self time to heal and it'll be worth it in the end

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