How do i get over her or how do i get her?!?! i love her and i dont know what to do...?
i have this friend she was the light of my day. shes the only person in the world that i could not get bored with and i get bored very easily about girls.she was my best friend the only girl best friend i have ever had and shes the most simplest girl that i have ever met and i love her but a while back we lost communication and then i found out through my best friend she is getting married to some guy and i never had the chance of telling her i loved her and i regret it every single day of my life and i just cant get over her!! everyone that saw us together and saw the chemistry we had said that we were perfect for each other but the fear of rejection never allowed me to say what was on my mind and my heart!! and it sucks cause i can talk to anybody but her opinion mattered to me over any person so... i really am grinding to either get over her or get her to be with me but i really dont want to ruin her engagement or her love life...
just yrs!2006-06-01T22:55:42Z
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have a look at this....
i know its long but if u really luv her pls pls pls pls pls pls read it....
10 th Grade As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called 'best friend'. I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before. I handed them to her. She said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, So I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go home. She looked at me, said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek.. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year One fine day she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she said, "he's not gonna go" well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as 'best friends'. So we did. That night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as She smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. Then she said- "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine-but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said- 'you're my best friend, thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Marriage Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said 'you came !'. She said 'thanks' and kissed me on the cheek. I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Death Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my 'best friend'. At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: "I stare at him wishing he was mine; but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me ! .........'I wish I did too...' I thought to my self, and I cried..........
DONT CRY THN.....
HOPE THIS MGHT GIVE U SUM INSPIRATION TO SPEAK OUT YR FEELINGS
Wow it's too bad that you lost communication....but if you feel that strongly about her and if you know where she is...maybe you should call her up. Not as a means to purposely ruin her new relationship...but you never know...maybe she had feelings for you but if you never told her how you felt she kept her's hidden and then moved on... Find her, if now to tell her what you've been up to and that you really enjoyed being a part of her life and that you miss it....if she knows exactly how you feel that she can weight things out with how she feels. If she doesn't feel the same...and least you'll feel better that you told her and won't have to wonder "what if" anymore. Hopefully you can still be friends. But if she finds that their is a spark in her heart that's never gone out for you...then there you have it. You'll be her prince with the glass slipper!
If things don't work out that way........ keep yourself busy, pop on this site a lot. Work on your hobbies or look for new hobbies! You'll be surprised how busy they can keep you. I've got piles of things in my head and lists of things that I want to do. Sometimes I have to remember to STOP and take a deep breath. In and Out and know that everything will be O.K. in the long run.
You'll be fine! Have a nice weekend.... SmileyCat : )
She ain't married yet dude. Tell her what you think. Be prepared for the "I love you as a friend" speech. In that case, you get over her.
If you don't get that speech, win her over man.
by Graham Nash
I've watched you go through changes That no man should face alone Take to heel or tame the horse The choice is still your own but arm yourself against the pain A wounded bird can give And in the end remember It's with you you have to live And in the end remember It's with you you have to live Stand your ground I think you've got The guts it takes to win But you must learn to turn the keys Before she'll let you in And understand the problems of the girl you want so near or you'll wear the coat of questions `til the answer hat is here You'll wear the coat of questions `til the answer hat is here Serenade your angel with a love song from your eyes Grow a little taller even though your age defies Feel a little smaller And in stature you will rise A hobo or a poet must kill dragons for a bride; And humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride
If you love her, then you will be happy for her now that she's found someone she wants to spend the rest of her life with. So, it is not LOVE that makes you feel this way. You feel this way because you WANT her.
If you want her, then you'll have to make up your mind: If you want her, then you have no choice but to ruin her engagement and her current love life. How else could you get her otherwise?
On the other hand, if you don't want to ruin her engagement and love life, then forget about wanting her. Just love her and be happy that she's happy with her fiance.
Wow, thats quite the dilemma! if i were you, i would tell her how i felt. she doesnt have to act on it, but she may or she may not. it all depends on how you say it. you could come across as you have to be with me or i will die, or you could say that you have always loved her and you just wanted her to know? But, if she really loves the guy she is with, than she should stay with him. but who knows, maybe she loves you more than him, its hard to know for sure! i would mention it and see how it goes?? Good luck with whatever you decide!!!