i have been with the same guy for 5 years... he has a problem with alcohol, however seemed to be doing okay... for the last 15 months, it has been bliss... however, i found out for the past week, he has been drinking again... of course, i never saw it coming. i am hurt, and he tells me he is sorry... he knows i will not deal with him at all while he drinks. he says today is the last day he will drink before starting over... tho i doubt it, and i do not want to be hurt again, my whole heart is messed up! i want to tell him to get out of my life, and yet even thinking about it hurts so much. PLEASE give me some GOOD advice, and tell me, if you were me, what would you do?? i need some good sound advice! please help! i have never asked anything before today...
Sam2006-08-13T18:54:13Z
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So how much is he drinking? You didn't convince me it was a problem ... only that you don't like him doing it. If it really is a problem get him into AA. Make it a prerequisite for staying together.
OK well its good that he stayed off it for 15 mos, but he fell off, i had a g/f that did the same, on and off for years....bottom line if you dont think he'll really stop, then find another. if you want to give him a chane you must tell him get pro. help and stay dry, or he out off your life..... i really dont know all the things that have happen in ur life so far, so thats the best i can tell you, if U want to talk just IM me, good luck, best wishes
up date..just read ur other question...look if youve stay away this long then you can go on, once you have mix feelings you will always wonder what he's doing, when he comes close to you , you will be snelling him, and looking into his eyes and so on, just move on.......
People dont change not even married, so if you cant handle this situacion , ´cause you dont not even me ... you should leave him, time is going to help heal you.. dont worry.. everything happend for a reason and sometimes we need to be with other persons when we finish to learn somethings from others... don be afraid, its going to be worst if you keep with that guy , and the most beautiful thing in the worl is to be with a person that can make us feel safe .. good uck
hi i'm a former drunk who has been sober 8 1/2 years and i will try to help . you must stop enabling him and let him know that he has a serious problem and he should seek counselling . i had many childhood issues to deal with before i realized that the one person who mattered was me . i drank from the age of 12 years old to age 33 and i had to be honest with myself before i could start my change of lifestyle . it sounds to me he is a binge drinker ., he will be ok for a while and then he drinks for days on end . the harsh reality is that it's not your problem ,it's his and he must hit rock bottom before he faces the cold hard truth ..... he is an alcoholic . so i hope you help yourself and let him go and don't blame yourself for his problem .
ok girl, it's like this. You sound as though you have the right idea and already know what you need to do. Give him the choice and stick to your guns. If he thinks he can stop and start anytime he wants and still have you back,...then he has you where he wants you. Dont let that happen, even if it hurts.