My cat was very ill. He was 17 years old. He quit eating a week ago. We decided to have him put down and I just found out my husband went ahead and did it this morning. I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye. I am so upset. His name was Boomer.
skoozme
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I love cats & dogs & i,ve been in the unfortunate position of having to lose both at different times.It,s certainly not easy!!!
I do think your hubby was being protective(albeit for the wrong/right reasons),,but,has he been in this position himself?In his mind he was trying to protect you & he doesn,t realise thats your decision,not his!
Look,say a prayer 4 Boomer wif your hubby,and certainly kik his ***(hubby"s),but pleaze,giv it a mnth or 2,could you get anuther kitty & call it "BOOMERANG".xxxx
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I'm so sorry...Boomer lived a long life. Wow-17!! It sounds like he had a happy and long life, and was well cared for and loved. Think of it this way: he would be in a lot of pain if he was still here, and now he's in Kitty Heaven. Your husband probably didn't realize that he would upset you; he realized that the saying goodbye part would be really hard, and he wanted to lighten your load. Forgive him, and know that Boomer is happy and healthy now.
rhymer
I think your husband was trying to spare you the job. Euthanizing a pet is the one, last, best thing you can do for a pet who has no hope of survival. I have a tendency to wait too long to make a decision as to putting a cat to sleep and my husband took one of our cats who was dying, to the vet while I was at work. To be honest, I had already said my good-byes and prayed every day the cat would die while I was at work. I felt sadness but also a huge sense of relief when I came home that day.
Krazee about my pets!
No you are not over reacting. You need to say good bye! That is really sad and I am very sorry for your loss. On the other hand maybe your husband had honest intentions by his actions. It probably really bothered him to see you so sad and hurting, or maybe thats how he felt he would best deal with this loss, so he just wanted to go ahead and get it over with so you (and him)wouldn't be so sad. He might not have done it to hurt you, but I do think you should have been able to say good bye.
catsrule300
I don't think you are overreacting how mean you had that cat for 17 years (i'm assuming) and you didn't even get to say goodbye i would be bawling my eyes out if i were you!! So go ahead and be upset I don't blame you!