Am I over reacting?

I love cats & dogs & i,ve been in the unfortunate position of having to lose both at different times.It,s certainly not easy!!!

I do think your hubby was being protective(albeit for the wrong/right reasons),,but,has he been in this position himself?In his mind he was trying to protect you & he doesn,t realise thats your decision,not his!

Look,say a prayer 4 Boomer wif your hubby,and certainly kik his ***(hubby"s),but pleaze,giv it a mnth or 2,could you get anuther kitty & call it "BOOMERANG".xxxx

I'm so sorry...Boomer lived a long life. Wow-17!! It sounds like he had a happy and long life, and was well cared for and loved. Think of it this way: he would be in a lot of pain if he was still here, and now he's in Kitty Heaven. Your husband probably didn't realize that he would upset you; he realized that the saying goodbye part would be really hard, and he wanted to lighten your load. Forgive him, and know that Boomer is happy and healthy now.

I think your husband was trying to spare you the job. Euthanizing a pet is the one, last, best thing you can do for a pet who has no hope of survival. I have a tendency to wait too long to make a decision as to putting a cat to sleep and my husband took one of our cats who was dying, to the vet while I was at work. To be honest, I had already said my good-byes and prayed every day the cat would die while I was at work. I felt sadness but also a huge sense of relief when I came home that day.

No you are not over reacting. You need to say good bye! That is really sad and I am very sorry for your loss. On the other hand maybe your husband had honest intentions by his actions. It probably really bothered him to see you so sad and hurting, or maybe thats how he felt he would best deal with this loss, so he just wanted to go ahead and get it over with so you (and him)wouldn't be so sad. He might not have done it to hurt you, but I do think you should have been able to say good bye.

I don't think you are overreacting how mean you had that cat for 17 years (i'm assuming) and you didn't even get to say goodbye i would be bawling my eyes out if i were you!! So go ahead and be upset I don't blame you!

I know you are probably pissed at your husband, but I think he was trying to help you. Just think of all the good times you had in his 17 years. If you had to do this yourself, it would be more traumatic for you. I know how hard it is, but your husband maybe around for 50 years (like mine has) and I have had (and lost) at lot of pets over that same time. Sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry about that. I had to put down my favorite cat this spring. He got so weak and thin my husband couldn't stand to watch him suffering. Finally I got the strength to do it, though I could have gone on a few days longer with this torture. It was so incredibly sad.

Probably your husband saw how you were suffering and couldn't stand it. He should have asked you. Maybe something really horrible happened and he is trying to spare you the details. I'm sorry.

Maybe your husband wanted to take the burden off you to make the decission but anyway, I would be very upset too. You missed out the chance to say goodbye and that's not fair.

No of course you aren't overreacting!!!!! If my bf did that I would really lay it into him (and thats putting it nicely)!!! I've had my cat jackie for all 18years of her life and I couldnt imagine not being able to say bye. But why would you juz give up on her because she is not eating? seems a little drastic. Did you try everything you could? what did the vet say?? My condolences though hun.

All my blessings to you in this hard time.

no your not your husband should let you say you goodbyes so their will closure, be mad for a few days, then try to get another cat or kitten, it will help with the pain, i know i have lost a lot pets. but getting a friend will help just keep the new one for you self for a while.