Lying and/or withholding information - how does one regain the trust that has been built over years and destroyed so quickly once the truth is free?
Mind you, it's not earthshattering, the truths, but it's the fact that it's been lied about or withheld that hurt the people I love.
That's just it - I didn't cheat on her, nothing like that happened. I could NEVER EVER cheat on her!
eileen
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Perhaps some understanding, people do make mistakes and sometimes they are just trying to shelter those that they love from what they've messed up on in the past. This comes from my heart. Just brief the person on how hurt you are and then if they really want your trust back then they'll likely be willing to listen to any suggestions to what would make you feel better.
lodeemae
its really hard to regain trust once its been broken.
whether its fooling around, or little white lies, in the back of your mind, you always wonder if its truth or fiction.
and the injured person will be suspicious for a very long time because of it.
and withholding is almost as bad as the bald faced lie. not only does it ruin trust, but you sit back and are suspicious about everything after that.
physandchemteach
It will take a lot of work to rebuild the trust. The person must dedicate him/herself to making sure the other partner is not disappointed by them again.
Honesty is a must. The person who lied must be very careful to tell all of the truth each time. No secrets allowed. They must be completely open and honest. It takes four times as much work to rebuild the trust as it did in the beginning.
Anonymous
Trust is like glass, once is brocken it can hardly be put back all the pieces that it becomes.
Sometimes withholding information is done for your own good, so it could be forgiven.
When trust i lost you should still give them another chance any way. And in this time see how they go about it. I bet if they care about you this time they will take care.
candy177
I just wanted to say that I love you and I'm committed to making things work. Even though I'm hurting, I think that we can me can move past this as long as we both commit to always being honest with each other and not withholding anything, no matter what the cost.
I love you. I couldn't imagine my life without you. I forgive you.