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Because they are no better than dogs in heat!
byrne4u2002
A whole multitude of reasons:
To make people feel wanted again, to put a spark back into their lives. Often, they happen when marriages become stale and the same thing, day in, day out, with less and less things to talk about, and the same routine sex.
When people have affairs, they get some new experiences they didnt have in the marriage. In terms of sex, it's a different person, with different techniques - not nessecerily better, but different.
In terms of emotion, someone else is showing you affection, that was lost in the marriage. There are more things to talk about with someone else. Conversations can be about them, not the daily drab humdrum of married life...bills. money. woes etc.
Those who want their marriages to work, must first understand why the affair took place, and work on changing the routine of marriage.
Live life one day at a time - don't let a marriage become static or stale.
Introduce new ideas into the bedroom. Be more spontanious. Get up and drive around. Find more things to talk about. Do more things together.
Do that, and you can have a affair free marriage!
Takeaguess
They have issues in their current relationship that they are not to addressing OR they are not able to acknowledge that there are some problems that need to be delt with.
They have self esteem issues and by having an affair, they might belive it will make them feel better about themselves.
I do not take an excuse as being "bored" as to having an affair. That in my opinion would fall into the catagory of having issues already in that relationship.
jackbauer
carelessness, selfishness and sex before marriage are some factors. Hard to forget some of that passionate sex with an 'ex' or a 'fling'.
Letting your d*ck do the thinking and not your brain. Men just find it so hard to let good, willing, free booty go past by. Do they think about the wife at home or the kids in school, Nah! or maybe after that!!
GrnApl
When couples are having alot of turmoil in their relationship it makes them vulnerable to anyone who comes along offering them a way to feel good about themselves. In an effort to feed that good feeling about themselves they pursue a course that will enable them to continue.
It's not an excuse but is the main reason it happens.