I've noticed, especially on many of the resolved questions, that at times the answers seem to be chosen only by what the person WANTS to hear, and not by the 'real truth' or the possible reality in each situation. Or they choose the fluffiest, kindest, and most optimistic answer, even if it's either fantasy, or hell even wrong. Why live in denial? Why not understand and know reality as to CHANGE it, rather than tolerate it? Not all are like this, but it seems all the answers are solely based on what they WANT and LIKE to hear rather than the blunt, impetuous truth. YOUR thoughts?
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People don't ask questions to be informed, they ask questions to be validated. It's human nature.
I fall in your description when i wait after teh 4 hours are up. I wonder if this system should change. I want the truth too. It'll hurt but it's so much better than to live in fantasy land. Maybe there should be a two point system where there is a judge panel where a jury, not other yahoo members, should judge the answer. IF they want to do it in the first place... :(
This is a good question. Good on you! well they have something that does what you say. If the person who chose the question does not choose a best answer, the community does it by voting for the best answer. It's still crude but effective. however, I want the truth as much as anyone else here. Some resolved questions are really biased and sometimes racist. THe immigraiton section... if there is a resolved question, you will find it that it's a racist view that is chosen. The person chose it so we have to respect their view no matter how conflicting it is.
There are also those who are swayed by a 'pretty' icon and a racy comment. One guy asked where he could get 'one of those things that stops the bleeding after you cut yourself shaving?' I told him it was called a styptic pencil and he can get it at any drug store or shaving section- there were others with similar answers- but the one he picked as best was some chick that said he could go over to her house and use hers! I'd be willing to put money on 1) that THAT never happened and 2) he used the valid info he was given regardless of cheating true answer givers out of ten points! I see exactly where you're coming from and you're right.... like a line in a Simon and Garfunkel song 'The Boxer' goes, "Still a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest." So, I guess it just boils down to what my dad always told me as a kid-- life isn't fair. Have a great day!!!
Well, if you ask a question you may think that you know the answer so if someone replies with what you're thinking, you'll tend to pick that answer. It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong because if it can give the asker a glimmer of hope, then it's worth it. I think that the majority of people choose the answers that are better than the rest but there will be some people who pick what they want to hear. It's their decision based on free will.
Thank you Dennis,,, but I suggest take a breath,,,no offense.
If you were to look into my answers you might find that some are irreverent, but for the most part valid.
Consider that this forum might be a place for SOME to seek and gain attention, not specifically to get valid info,,,
I often answer in decent detail and check after the fact, occasionally finding my answer denied for a one word answer, or something not strictly related to the Q,,,but in truth, this is a game area, a time killer, a place to visit, that's relatively safe, even for the very young who come here.
If content were more strictly monitored the SITE would certainly struggle to exist, and I'd find other ways of expending time.
TRUTH,,,BTW,,, is a personal thing. FACT might not always be what is offered here, and everyones TRUTH is different.