I hate my wife!?
My wife expects me to handle every detail in life. She doesn't want to trouble herself with anything. Yet she is NEVER satisfied with the results. Does anybody else have this problem? How do you deal with the stress?
My wife expects me to handle every detail in life. She doesn't want to trouble herself with anything. Yet she is NEVER satisfied with the results. Does anybody else have this problem? How do you deal with the stress?
suthrn_yanky
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she seems to have it good and she has no incentive to change. try explaining to her how you feel and ask for her help and input.when she criticizes your efforts, leave the task undone next time and see how she likes it. if she doesnt like the way you fold clothes, dont fold hers. if she doesnt like the way you pay bills, let her do it and if you have no cable next month, she'll be to blame.
she is only doing what you aloow her to do.
Silly me
Unfortunately, this situation seems ideal for her, since you not only make the decisions, but then she can "hassle" you about the results, care-free. I would sit down and talk to her, citing some specific examples:
1) Mention that your job is rather demanding and you would really appreciate some teamwork
2) Itemize some payments that you would likeher to make or some household purchases/changes that she should take over
3) Are there kids? Try organizing their schedules and yours so that she can pick up more slack?
But the most important thing is to consistently mention that you guys are a TEAM and you need her help. I'm sorry to tell you this, but if you keep making all the decisions and handling all the details, then she will continue this. Good luck:-)
angeleyes
I have been married almost 34 years, and a marriage is 50/50. Yes, one partner may be better at handling some things, but the burdens don't fall upon only one set of shoulders..And if she isn't satisfied with the results, then next time DONT do the task..tell her you'd rather that she do it. Give her some of the responsibilities...you must have been doing this for awhile, because she sounds like she is comfortable...
Kathleen
My sister is exactly like that with her husband as well and anything he does is just not good enough I feel for the poor guy even thou I don't like him much. Here's what experience has tough me. My sister is a really nice person when she wants to be and wouldn't let anyone know her marriage is on the rocks. I also no she didn't have the easiest of childhoods things she need to get resolved because her poor husband is baring the brunt of her pent up hostility's. I'm not sure if your wife is in the same situation but talk to her tell her you really do love her but you can't deal with this anymore. If she doesn't do something about it you'll have to leave. She may do something but if she is a stubborn as my sister she won't and she'll lose out on a good guy.
Chrissy
I am a wife [hee hee]. That's just how women are. Expecting you to handle every detail of life means she wants you to be in control. NEVER satisfied? That's not really true is it? NEVER? Not even once? Anyway, that simply means she desire excellence from you. When she becomes dis-satisfied simply and kindly say "Baby, tell me what you would have prefered, so next time I wont make the same mistake." [REMEMBER say it kindly and gently] And always end with "I love and appreciate you" That gets us every time [hee hee].