I hate my wife!?

she seems to have it good and she has no incentive to change. try explaining to her how you feel and ask for her help and input.when she criticizes your efforts, leave the task undone next time and see how she likes it. if she doesnt like the way you fold clothes, dont fold hers. if she doesnt like the way you pay bills, let her do it and if you have no cable next month, she'll be to blame.

she is only doing what you aloow her to do.

Unfortunately, this situation seems ideal for her, since you not only make the decisions, but then she can "hassle" you about the results, care-free. I would sit down and talk to her, citing some specific examples:

1) Mention that your job is rather demanding and you would really appreciate some teamwork

2) Itemize some payments that you would likeher to make or some household purchases/changes that she should take over

3) Are there kids? Try organizing their schedules and yours so that she can pick up more slack?

But the most important thing is to consistently mention that you guys are a TEAM and you need her help. I'm sorry to tell you this, but if you keep making all the decisions and handling all the details, then she will continue this. Good luck:-)

I have been married almost 34 years, and a marriage is 50/50. Yes, one partner may be better at handling some things, but the burdens don't fall upon only one set of shoulders..And if she isn't satisfied with the results, then next time DONT do the task..tell her you'd rather that she do it. Give her some of the responsibilities...you must have been doing this for awhile, because she sounds like she is comfortable...

My sister is exactly like that with her husband as well and anything he does is just not good enough I feel for the poor guy even thou I don't like him much. Here's what experience has tough me. My sister is a really nice person when she wants to be and wouldn't let anyone know her marriage is on the rocks. I also no she didn't have the easiest of childhoods things she need to get resolved because her poor husband is baring the brunt of her pent up hostility's. I'm not sure if your wife is in the same situation but talk to her tell her you really do love her but you can't deal with this anymore. If she doesn't do something about it you'll have to leave. She may do something but if she is a stubborn as my sister she won't and she'll lose out on a good guy.

I am a wife [hee hee]. That's just how women are. Expecting you to handle every detail of life means she wants you to be in control. NEVER satisfied? That's not really true is it? NEVER? Not even once? Anyway, that simply means she desire excellence from you. When she becomes dis-satisfied simply and kindly say "Baby, tell me what you would have prefered, so next time I wont make the same mistake." [REMEMBER say it kindly and gently] And always end with "I love and appreciate you" That gets us every time [hee hee].

If she isn't satisfied, tell her to do it herself. I handle almost everything in our family and a lot with the company my husband and I share so I understand how stressful that can be.

However, if my husband or children ever complain about the way I do something, I let them know that they can do it for themselves if they aren't satisfied. I am no ones slave.

I have a friend who has a wife like you described. Everyone wondered why he stuck it out so long. Everyone knew what a controlling manipulative woman he was married to. One day it just clicked that he should not be treated just like a possession....he wanted more. When it dawned on him that all he was to her was her possession, he got angry, he got real angry and the tables turned. It is not a healthy relationship because he is the one in control now and she is this little woman not game to say anything because she knows one more demand, one more criticism and he is out the door. He doesnt much like his wife either....he is there out of guilt and responsibility because she reckons she will kill herself if he leaves, but he is starting to hate her that much that even her threats wont be working for too much longer. He had enough and she knew he was serious. Maybe thats what needs to happen in your marriage. This man will eventually leave his wife because he has already felt what its like to have control over his life. He wont put up with her shite anymore. Take away her control.....get angry and make her realise you are much more than just a thing to criticise and to boss around. Maybe if she is shocked into realising that you have had enough, she may change her ways. If you hate her, then you have waited too long, so maybe its best you just cut the ties with her altogether and take control of your life. She has had the control for too long....now its time for you.

Good luck

Hi, well why don't you talk to her about how she's making you feel because she shouldn't be putting everything on your shoulders that's not right but if she knew how it was starting to make you feel, if she loves you she will try and work on herself. And tell her the truth don't beat around the bush, tell her your feeling like you kinda can't stand her, like you hate her and you don't want to feel this way. Because if you keep feeling like this and don't speak your mind things are just going to get worse.

So maybe give that a try and see what happens.

Chow.

Yea, I have this problem, but I'm a woman. I have to handle every detail in life too. Maybe we need to go out and find us a better partner huh? Life is too short for misery.

well i am in the same boat i am not a man but i am a wife i got a lot of thing to do to my husband think i can take care of everything while he works pays bills and all that. i have three kids what i do is usally take a warm bath drink hurbal tea or just go to the other room and scream or i just sit around think what do i do now how do i do it or get on the net and listen to loud music.

Since your wife is not satisfied with how you do things maybe she should start doing errands or whatever else she's making you do because all she is doing is making you do her favors all the time and she is being ungrateful. Don't let her keep doing this to you.