I need serious help...?

Ok, this is wat happened....Me and my friend ashley r really close and everything over txt....so wen we get face to face it isnt as easy to speak our minds but all of a sudden she stopped talking to me face to face all together cuz she said she was scared.....well thats hard to believe considering that i am the wimpiest 7th grader and she is the toughest 8th grader and yet somehow we have opposite insides....they should be switched....anyway she was scared and she got over that but she has ben acting weors ever since then and keep saying that i dont need her and things like thatbut i really do need her because she is by far the only person i can really trust with anything and i cant afford to lose her but i said something that i totally shouldnt have and now she is starting to question our friend ship.i said it because i was in a state of panic because my dad and soon to-be step-mom were fighting and then they will break up and i couldnt control myself or my emotions
dont b mean pleas

Anonymous2007-04-29T20:53:20Z

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just tell her exactly what you said that you need her. Tell her, "look I am going through a really hard time and you are the only person that I trust, I really can't stand the thought of losing our friendship. i need you. Please understand this, it isn't you it is just the situation that is going on." and see what she says. If she doens't respond, you don't need friends like that in your life anyway. I have a pretty good feeling she'll understand though.

SweetiePie262007-04-30T03:58:17Z

I think this question is better left to be answerd by a qualified school counselor or a minister. It sounds like you need more help than a friend can give. Also, it sounds like you are dealing with some really hard emotional stuff, so as hard as it is, don't ask people on the internet for advice. You need an adult who is capable of being a resource. Try a counselor or a minister. If you are embarrassed then leave the counselor @ school a note and explain that you "need to talk, but you don't want anyone to know and could the office fake a trip to the principle's office?" This works. I know, I have done this note thing. I am now in my 20s.

Awesome Bill2007-04-30T03:59:30Z

I only get mean to people who are mean.

First of all, take it easy. This isn't going to be solved in one day. The best thing you can do is try to get yourself to relax and examine the situation calmly.

What has been said, is already said. What can be said hasn't occurred yet. Now you can take care in what you say.

I would suggest that once you have calmed down, think of your own way to say that you were not ready to deal with what she was going through and that you regret saying it. Tell her (again, in your own words) that you would like to still be friends and will try to handle things better. You should try to arrange a time and place where you two can be undisturbed and free of distractions.

Once you have the sit-down with her, you have to resign yourself to the fact that her reaction is out of your control and be willing to accept how things turn out. Everything will be okay no matter what happens.

melissa_531052007-04-30T03:52:18Z

What did you say to her? That might help when trying to answer your question. Maybe because you've shared so much personal info thru texting, she doesn't know how to react in person. But it's really hard to answer without knowing what you said to her.

*~*Volleyball player*~*2007-04-30T03:53:30Z

I think that you should try talking to someone close to you.. maybe not her. It sounds like you are having a hard time right now.,... hang out with her one day and ask her what is going on..


good luck

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