Okay Ladies. I am trying to make a desicion, and I would love some opinions from people. (My desicion will not be based on these opinions, dont worry) But I would LOVE the input.
I have 4 kids, a 10 year old, a 6 year old, and 4 year old twins. They are from a previous marriage. AWESOME kids.
I am married now to the love of my life, awesome guy, wonderful to the kids. He has none of his own. When we got together, he was fine just being Dad to mine.
As he has gotten older, he has begun wishing for one with me. Has never said he wants one of his own, he considers mine to be ours, but rather says he'd love to have a baby with me.
I am almost 30, He is 32. thought I was done with kids. We are financially stable, and I am healthy, as is he.
Am I too old? Too much on my plate? He is okay with whatever my answer may be, so baby or no?
2007-05-19T13:09:02Z
Yea, my two older kids are on the fense. My daughter thinks it would be great, my son thinks it would only be great if its a boy, LOL.
Lorelei2007-05-19T13:12:12Z
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I personally do not think you are too old, as I had my son at your age. However, you need to look at where you are in your life right now. You already have children, so you know exactly what changes will come into your life if you have another child. You need to sit down with your husband and talk through whether another baby is something you are willing to make life changes for. An example...If you work, would you need to leave (even if temporary)? What effect would a new child with a step-dad have on the other kids? (An area I know nothing about, but it seem like something you need to think about). If you talk and both feel good about the idea of having another child, then your decision is made.
You are not to old. I had my last child at 36. Like you I had 2 children from a previous marriage , ages 9 and 11. I then had two more with my current husband. If you can handel it I say go for it. But you do need to keep in mind that you will be going through menopause when you have teenagers and this can be a very trying time. You seem to have a wonderful husband and a stable life, so I feel you would do just fine. Good luck.
O.k. well, coming from a family of no siblings. I say if you think you can emotionally handle another one and you can financially handle another one and you have the space for another one, then I say go for it! I myself have 3, 2 boys and 1 girl. My first is very hard to handle and a lot of my time and energie goes to him so 3 is my max. But I love the idea of big families! So many playmates so many "boxing matches" :) Plus you have a house full of great helpers. And wouldn't it be the most wonderful gift to give to your new husband! And trust me, 30 is young these days. Most couples don't even start their families until they hit their 30's. Well, good luck with your decision, hope I could help some?
I can understand your desire to have a child with The Love of Your Life. I have 2 children from a previous marriage but am now engaged to my True Love and same as yours he is fine with being Dad to my two and considers them his children though he has said those same words to me as well.
If you are healthy and financial stable and he wants a child with you as much as you do with him then I say have one more. If you can handle the stress of another child then what is really holding you back? Being 30 years old is not the end of the world. My Love's mother was 45 when she had him.
Frankly, I'm insulted. :-) I had my first child at age 30. # 2 at age 33, # 3 at age 37, and adopted another at age 40. Thinking of adopting again. You're not too old, but if you're feeling uncomfortable about going thru the whole parenting a baby thing again, give yourself some time to consider it. You really don't want to resent your child.