Husband picked up by police for being drunk....how to deal with him now?
I got a phone call last night from the police who said they had my husband. Aparently he was drunk and passed out in front of an apartment building. Some residents there called the police. Luckily for him (or perhaps not) the country we live in takes a fairly lenient view of these things, and apart from calling me to take him home, nothing will happen to him.
The fact that he is employed in a white collar job seems to mean that his behaviour can be excused.
I got dressed and got my 3 year old daughter out of bed took a taxi to where the police were waiting. My husband was passed out on the pavement in front of the building. I talked and yelled at him trying to wake him up......when the policemen pulled him to his feet he could walk and we got him into the taxi and home.
there are so any things that are wrong with this.
I have known that he had a drinking problem for a long time...but the culture we live in (his culture) has a business culture that is very tied to a drinking-to-foster-ties culture. Heavy after works drinks are common and publice drunkeness tolerated in a way I couldn`t imagine in my home country. I also have been known to drink too much particularly in my younger single days.
BUT this was so wrong for my daughter. She wasn`t distressed as she is not old enough to know that picking up your drunk father from the street is not a normal or healthy thing to do.
He is over 40 now and has a beautiful child. He has to stop this kind of behaviour.
I don`t know how I am feeling now. The anger is not so white hot....I just know that this is so wrong.
I don`t know how to talk to him or how to deal with this. Any body with any ideas as to where I go from here?
there are so any things that are wrong with this.
I have known that he had a drinking problem for a long time...but the culture we live in (his culture) has a business culture that is very tied to a drinking-to-foster-ties culture. Heavy after works drinks are common and publice drunkeness tolerated in a way I couldn`t imagine in my home country. I also have been known to drink too much particularly in my younger single days.
BUT this was so wrong for my daughter. She wasn`t distressed as she is not old enough to know that picking up your drunk father from the street is not a normal or healthy thing to do.
He is over 40 now and has a beautiful child. He has to stop this kind of behaviour.
I don`t know how I am feeling now. The anger is not so white hot....I just know that this is so wrong.
I don`t know how to talk to him or how to deal with this. Any body with any ideas as to where I go from here?
wow...great answers so quickly...thanks!
well luckily for HIM they are lenient....but I also think it would have been better if they took him to jail.
This is Japan though, and the police were obviously waiting for the family member to take the mess away.
Yes, he gets drunk fairly regularly, although hhe has always found his way home (eventually) before now.