Would you let your mother or sister around your child if they hate you?
My sister is a megabytch. She has always treated me like I was boring or unimportant. After 3 decades of it, I ended my relationship with her. My mom & I don't fight, unless I fight with my sister, then my mom bashes me. I found out my mom said some really really hurtful things about me to my relatives and friends, (says I have demons inside me, etc) and describes me as a monster my whole life.
I have a very beautiful daughter who I know my mom loves, but I can't get past the fact she has this distorted image of me (because I told her I was tired of 35+ years of my sister rolling her eyes when I talk).
Would you want your 1 yr old around someone who tells everybody lies about you? Even if she is your mom?
Susie Q2007-08-26T20:21:23Z
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Your problems with your sister should not be allowed to interfere with the relationship between your daughter and her grandmother.
One has nothing to do with the other.
DON'T ruin that special relationship a child can have with her grandmother because of an argument YOU have with her!
I know how you feel, I am in a similar situation with my in laws, they always want to see my daughter but have bad mouthed me for years and they say some really mean hurtful things about me and I am so mad that I feel if they hate me why should i let them see my daughter, what if they say things to her about me, etc etc so what I have decided to do is let them see her but just never leave her alone with them, I make sure I am always around while they visit with her, this way they get to see her, my husband is happy that his family knows his daughter and I am ok with it because I am right there watching everything that is going on and I know it still bothers them that they dont get to have her alone for alittle bit but that is kinda of my way of getting back at them without making it into a huge ordeal, so I would do the same thing. Although your mom is saying mean things she is still your mom and loves your daughter, so just take her to visit once and a while and never leave her alone always be there for the visit stay an hour or so and leave.
There is something very special about a loving Grandmother and every child deserves to have that joyful experience. You should have a little heart to heart talk with your Mother with absolutely no anger.It would really be best to clear the air of all the misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
No I would not. Eventually in time your mother will say bad things about you to your daughter. You need to keep your daughter away from negative and dsyfunctional people. You could never let your mom babysit because you could'nt be sure of what she might say to your child.
You need to make a life for yourself and your child that doesnt include your hateful family.
It depends...has your daughter heard her grandma talking bad about you in any way??? If grandma's talking about you in front of your daughter, visit with the two of them instead of letting your daughter go alone. Most children don't know how to defend their parents (though this is the natural urge), especially against another loved one.