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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 5 days ago

My boyfriend doesn’t want me visiting my family?

First I want to start off by saying I’m homesick and I miss my mom and siblings more than a lot. Right now I’m currently pregnant and my boyfriend keeps saying it’s not a good idea to visit my family. He keeps coming up with excuses saying my mom will stress me out which can affect our baby but I know my mom more than him. We both live together and his family is involved in our lives BUT every time I try to involve my mom or younger siblings he becomes upset as if I ruined the mood. My family lives in the next state which really isn’t far from me. I just don’t know what to do at this moment. I don’t want to upset him for visiting my family but I also I want to see them so bad. Advice please?

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  • Anonymous
    23 hours ago

    Being that he is this selfish about your family and doesn't want you associating with them then I am sure he is controlling in other ways as well and perhaps abusive? Only you know this for sure! Listen if he is trying to control your life and keep your family out of the picture than perhaps you shouldn't be with him?

  • 1 day ago

    He's a manipulator, trying to control you.  I would have a talk with him and tell him that not being able to see your own Mom, is causing stress and that if he really cares about the unborn baby, he'll sensibly drive you over to visit your own family, as many times as you need to, before the baby is born.  If he refuses, what sort of future Father will he make?

  • 2 days ago

    You should consider going to your family and living with them, and not visiting your controlling, psychologically manipulating abusive boyfriend. 

  • 2 days ago

    sounds like he is trying to control you. visit your family and dump him.

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  • ken
    Lv 4
    3 days ago

    girl fk your boyfriend, no offense, go see your family. if you miss them go see them. who is he to tell you you shouldn’t do something. he sounds controlling and you should break up with him if this continues

  • 3 days ago

    sounds like he is trying to control you tho he could just be worried about the pandmic and you and the baby safty 

    if he dosent want you to call or text or Skype them then you should leave him

  • garry
    Lv 6
    3 days ago

    you wouldnt have any sisters or a slim mom would you !!!

  • Anonymous
    3 days ago

    UNLESS your family is a dysfunctional clan of alcoholic reptiles that feeds on the corruption of their young or something

    it would appear that your BF is obviously a classic Narcissistic control freak with some serious underlying issues.

    When young women are pregnant there are few people they feel the need to be close to more than their Mom

    and your BF is a genuine A#shole for trying to say otherwise.

    Go home if &/or whenever thF#ck you feel like it.

    And if your psych'case BF has a problem with it

    then just tell him to eat sh#t & f#ck himself.... 

  • Jane
    Lv 7
    4 days ago

    Sometimes we have to 'upset' other people. If it upsets them when they don't respect my needs, if it upsets them when they make decisions about me without my agreement and I don't want to go along with it, if they try to keep me away from people who are important to me.

    No-one has the right to keep you from your family..

    If you can spend time together safely, then do it. If your bf tries to get in the way, he is being controlling and cold to your needs.

  • 5 days ago

    Oh Dear! If you allow him to control you now, how will things be when you are even more vulnerable before and after having a baby. This is very bad news, unfortunately; you are with someone you don't know as well as you thought you did, and I, for one, urge you to go and live with your parents in order to stay safe. Please go without telling him kin advance. 

    Good Luck!

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