The babysitters lied to me????

I put a camera in the family room to show my 9 year old that she is bossy to her friends...she didn't believe me! Well i left it on by accident and have my own version saturday night live =] I have footage of the two babysitters aged 15 and 17(not our regular nannies, but the girls that live next door.) I was watching out of curiosity and noticed that the sitters lied to me MANY times, they told me:
1. The baby fell out of her chair and got a bruise, but actually my son Noah pushed her off and Kylie (sitter) was watching the whole thing...and laughed!)
2. The kids ate the cookie dough while we gave baths, but the sitters actually ate it after my kids were asleep
3. We didn't make them go to bed until 11 like you said, but they actually made them sleep at 9:30 and when kids said no they threatened to tell me they were bad and that they better not tell me that the girls were mean
4. Hailey's(sitter) boyfriend dropped something off, but actually he stayed 40min.

What should i do

2007-10-17T14:17:45Z

FaZizzle you forgot to mention that the babysitter LAUGHED at my son pushing Kendall out of her chair....she could have gotten seriously hurt and she thought it was funny!

And you also left out that they threatened my kids...again not good!

And they ate the cookie dough i specifically told them not to eat, it was supposed to be for my husband for sweetest day.. i mean yah i can make more but still its just the point they disobeyed me and then lied about it!

2007-10-17T14:35:34Z

FaZizzle, yah i did forget to mention Kendall's age. She's 14 months old and was pushed out of her high chair, which i also forgot to mention that they failed to strap her in and left her in there without the tray in front. I understand that they aren't going to be exactly like me, but they still said that she fell out, which was a lie. And you're right they do just want to be friends, but if thats the case i don't think they are responsible enough to babysit...and a good friend wouldn't laugh at a helpless little girl who could have possibly broken an arm or leg...or gotten a concusion!

2007-10-17T15:54:17Z

FaZizzle: Listen--you didn't post this because you really wanted advice. You posted this because you wanted people to tell you what a terrible babysitter the teen was and how sorry they are they your kids had to go through that.

You are partially right, i wasn't really looking for advice... i already had my mind set on discussing this with their parents, but i wanted to see how many people told me to do that without me suggesting it to see if i was being rational or not! But i didn't do this as a pity story for my kids, i don't need strangers feeling bad...i feel bad for them and thats enough....i actually feel more ashamed of myself for leaving them with such irresponsible babysitters, but nice try there!

Melissa C2007-10-17T14:02:55Z

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You could tell their parents. Or you could bring both girls over and sit them down in front of the TV and turn it on, or tell them. They need to learn a lesson that they can not get away with lying and sometimes embarrassemtn is the best lesson.

FaZizzle2007-10-17T14:04:45Z

Look at what you just wrote--seriously look at it and decide how much this really bothers you.

They ate some cookie dough. They made the kids go to bed early. Your son pushed your youngest out of her chair.

For the cookies--get over it. It's not worth it.

Made the kids go to bed early--once again, not exactly a bad thing.

Your son pushed your youngest--TALK to your son. Sometimes it's hard for teens to take control of a situation and become a parent. You are hiring them to watch your children for a few hours, not be a mini-you.

For the boyfriend, I would talk to the sitter. Example that you DO have a camera set up in the house and did catch that her boyfriend stayed for 40 minutes. Explain that this is not allowed and if it happens again then you'll have to get a new sitter.

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I'm a mom too and when you bring teens in your house to be babysitters, you have to expect this sort of thing. You never mentioned how old the 'baby" is, so I have to guess that he's older than 6 months. Of course a teen laughed at that--the girl probably wants to be a friend, not a parent.

As for the threatening--you know what, they've never been parents. They aren't you. I know many parents who tell their kids to go to bed or they are bad.

You HAVE to understand that babysitters aren't trained to be exactly like you. They are trained to use common sense, but most are still going to be teens regardless of how much responsibility you give to them.

Listen--you didn't post this because you really wanted advice. You posted this because you wanted people to tell you what a terrible babysitter the teen was and how sorry they are they your kids had to go through that.

In the end, you have to understand that you're the parent and can decide what to do. If YOU think it's unacceptable, then don't hire them again. Talk to the girls and/or their parents.

Anonymous2017-01-04T00:54:46Z

i think of it rather is honest. If the babysitter felt uncomfortable adequate approximately one among those minor element as getting a cost ticket to lie, think of if something much greater extreme took place. What if she fed the little one something she dropped on the floor by twist of fate, then consistent with week later whilst the little one is ill and the mum has no concept why, the sitter is so embarrassed that she would not tell the mum or surgeon approximately it? i'm happy that your pal fired the girl. i does no longer choose a unethical guy or woman in value of something as expensive to me as my little ones.

Bethnee2007-10-17T14:13:14Z

I would definitely speak to their parents. It is unacceptable to lie to the parents of the children they were responsible of. Taking care of someone else's children is a very important job and they failed miserably. Especially laughing when a baby is hurt. What kind of people are these girls. I don't know them personally but I would definitely say they are irresponsible and too immature to be babysitting. Don't ever let them watch your children again!

clivencheese2007-10-18T20:59:43Z

Seriously. Never let this kids sit again for you. Don't provide references for them. And do tell their parents if they inquire why they won't be sitting for you.

And finally, ask your friends for good references and don't get involved in the stupid stuff. Like "proving" your sitters are wrong. Just go with your gut next time, you know you're right.

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