i was whit a girl for 8 and a half years , she was my life and i did evrithing for her. My father died 2 weeks ago. I purces a plain tiket to se her in september , i supose to se her in december. Copule of weeks before my fathers funeral she totl me that she thinks we shoud end up our relationship. I was devastated and i still am .Finally she told me that she is in love whit somebody else that is better than me . I did evrithing for her and he was my fiance. What soutl i do know ?. I can make her suffer the same way i did . Should i revenge my self ? She was evrithing for me, I have no reason to live. In all this years i support her whit love , compasion and finanical. Now she is a doctor and i am still strugeling to becom somebody . Now she decided that she is to god for me. She was whit me just in tha good days. Now when i need tha most a person in my life she betrayd me. Al my dreams of a familli of life are gone. Should i pay her back ? What do i have to lose ?
2007-11-17T12:03:02Z
My father died of lung cancer . Was diasnosticated in june this year . I am a good man , and i did not diserve this .I belive that if someone is hurting me whyt no reason , wen i did only good to that person that i should have right to make that person fell tha same way, Even if i still love her , what is the good to hold my revenge when si did what si did. Maybe is better to hurt her so she can see what people deserve when are hurting others . i have some indecent pictures whit her , i am wondering if all of our firends will se her , how she will feel. i dont want to hurt her phisical , i just want her to know that i can be as bad as she was , that i did not deserve what she did to me. She was my life. And she distroied evrything for me .
I dont know how to spel because is not my native language.
triathalonkegguys2007-11-17T09:15:53Z
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Let it go Bro. Nothing wrong with being with one lady, but if she doen't want to be with you anymore, move on, live free and rock on. Enjoy being you for a while.... find that mojo again and you'lll meet someone even mor especial and that lady who burned ya wont seem so imprtant any more.
I can understand exactly how you feel but having been left beside my self already a couple of times i have learnt that make a revenge to the person and even trying to forget by dating others doesn't serve anything. I guess best thing is to tell you self you deserve better and that beeing with a person who doesn't love you whon't give you anything good anyway. I don't think you should be angry she left you when you lost your dad, she was honest to you while some pepole might have pretended stay together in this circumstances just by politness. Telling you the truth straight out as she did was good of her but if I would have been the girl I would still be by your side as a friend after all you've gone through. Hope you will feel better soon, remember only time can make it better and if you really love you'll never forget but life's goes on, some days are sad others are like a gift from heaven..and we have to force our self to live and hope for the good ones:)
What do you have to loose? Some more of your dignity and self respect. She is the one who has lost out, not you. She is a deceiver, a cheat, and a user, thank God you found out before you married her. It is hard now, but you will over come what you are feeling, the anger, resentment, and the feelings of abandonment. Give yourself time, I say one year. Do not call her, or plot for revenge, it will only make you look desperate, and frankly a little pathetic. You don't need any more shots to your self esteem. Just take it day by day and I guarantee that one day you will realize that you went one whole day without thinking about what she did to you. You will never forget the hurt but you can move past it. Don't use this as an excuse for not making something out of yourself, you can be whatever you set your mind to. Use this experience to motivate yourself to be a better man, then one day she will see what she left and it will be her with the regrets. Good luck.
Just let her go and don't worry about her. One reason for not getting involved in someone going to school to be either a doctor or a lawyer is that over 80% of the time the relationships fail. You will find someone who will be far better for you but in the meantime, take the time to get over the loss of your father. You can go to memory-of and establish a memorial for him there and that may help you get past this. I will give you a link for that. It is sad when one person outgrows another but I am sure she never realized that her life would change when she became a doctor since there is such a high divorce rate, as I mentioned, just just tell yourself she was not the right person for you and look for someone who is and you will be happier in the long run.
No you should let her go and the pain she has caused. Even though you think this will end the pain you are feeling, it will not. Try to forgive so you will be released from the feelings you are having about revenge. She will have to pay karma over what she has done to you. I do wish you the best, as your part in the relationship was pure while her's was not, so you have nothing to be ashamed of. You actually were to good for her. Be glad you found this out before marrying her. Getting even out of revenge will cause you shame. Sorry to hear about the passing of your father.