My husband likes to talk alot to this girl at work. He would come home and?
tell me all about it. She is a close friend of his familys his parents treat her like their own but he just started getting to know her when the restaurant opened up about 8 months ago (his family owns this restaurant so they all work together ..mom,dad, brother,uncle, aunt etc. and her) I've seen her a few times at his parents' house and at work. Sometimes I get jealous but he said she is like family. The other day he told me he had invited her along with some of his male cousins to our house for a get together. I was very upset he should have asked me first before inviting a female to our home eventhough I know who she is but I barely know her and she is not related to him. We had a fight I told him I understand you guys talk at work but why bring her to our house. He personally invited her it's not like he was talking to someone else about the party and she was there so he felt obligated. He invited her because he wanted her to come. Am I overreacting?
olelefthander2007-12-09T21:16:21Z
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It sounds like you're overreacting, unless there's something else you're not telling that makes you suspicious.
As long as he's honest about his motivations and what happens between them, you shouldn't be upset with him for having a female friend.
For some people it is easy to say, you are overreacting and there is nothing wrong with that. but i would get upset and really jealous too. the only thing is try to deal with that. He does tell you that he talks to her, and he invited her to YOUR house, not somewhere else. If you keep fighting with him about that he will keep doing it, but will stop telling you. so, act as it is not a big deal but be cautious
You're not overreacting you are being what is called PROACTIVE., something we people tend to do too little of. Your husband is going to wind up fking this girl as sure as you know it. He probably knows it too but he's playing the in denial game. It is not proper for this woman to be hanging around with a married man as much as she is. If your husband can'tunderstand this, you have some big problems on the horizon.
Let me give you another example... I am in the process of trying to get a good friend of minds over to my house as well during my lunch hour, she is also a very attractive woman and you better believe my intentions are not to compare cookbooks with her. I'm also smart enough not to tell my wife anything about any of this.
I can see where you might be a little insecure or suspicious. I would be uncomfortable with my man developing a relationship with a female coworker that I did not know. He should have gotten your apporoval before inviting her. My instincts tell me he has a little too much enthusiasm about their friendship and it has the potential to create some temptation down the road. We know how other women can get...and men too for that matter. Trust your instincts and do what you feel is best.
Yes, You overreact. Get the chance to know her and just be friends. See how is their relation, what they talk about, how they react around eachother. Then you can realize if there is "something" or not. You cannot acuse him of talking too much with this girl, unless you think there is something going on between them. My husband and I have friends, females and males, but we don't get jelous on any. They are just friends and we get all along with eachother.