My husband likes to talk alot to this girl at work. He would come home and?

It sounds like you're overreacting, unless there's something else you're not telling that makes you suspicious.

As long as he's honest about his motivations and what happens between them, you shouldn't be upset with him for having a female friend.

Has he said he is attracted to her?

For some people it is easy to say, you are overreacting and there is nothing wrong with that. but i would get upset and really jealous too. the only thing is try to deal with that. He does tell you that he talks to her, and he invited her to YOUR house, not somewhere else. If you keep fighting with him about that he will keep doing it, but will stop telling you. so, act as it is not a big deal but be cautious

You're not overreacting you are being what is called PROACTIVE., something we people tend to do too little of.

Your husband is going to wind up fking this girl as sure as you know it. He probably knows it too but he's playing the in denial game.

It is not proper for this woman to be hanging around with a married man as much as she is. If your husband can'tunderstand this, you have some big problems on the horizon.

Let me give you another example... I am in the process of trying to get a good friend of minds over to my house as well during my lunch hour, she is also a very attractive woman and you better believe my intentions are not to compare cookbooks with her. I'm also smart enough not to tell my wife anything about any of this.

I can see where you might be a little insecure or suspicious. I would be uncomfortable with my man developing a relationship with a female coworker that I did not know. He should have gotten your apporoval before inviting her. My instincts tell me he has a little too much enthusiasm about their friendship and it has the potential to create some temptation down the road. We know how other women can get...and men too for that matter. Trust your instincts and do what you feel is best.

Yes, You overreact. Get the chance to know her and just be friends. See how is their relation, what they talk about, how they react around eachother. Then you can realize if there is "something" or not. You cannot acuse him of talking too much with this girl, unless you think there is something going on between them.

My husband and I have friends, females and males, but we don't get jelous on any. They are just friends and we get all along with eachother.

no u re not overreacting. if i were u i would tell him also that him talking about her is not pleasant for my ears and that i REALLY don't want her in my house so he should cancel invitation. if he says he can't do it cos of some "being polite " thing i would suggest he starts gathering his stuff and getting out of the house. u re his wife. u should be number 1 always

Yes, you are over-reacting. He invited a friend to the house.

Seriously, I think you'd have more concern if he DIDN'T invite her to your house. The fact that he's comfortable with you meeting her and getting to know her, is a pretty good sign in my book.

Give him a break and maybe you will make a new friend too.

Well, to put it shortly yes. He obviously has a blooming friendship with her that he is enjoying at the work, it should be a good thing that he wants to bring her home with you and telling you about it because he wants to be open and honest about his friendship with her so you don't get the wrong impression.

You should view this as an excellent opportunity to see the two of them together and how they interact with one another. Instead, you honestly did the worst possible thing you could do. You made a big issue out of it and gave her power in your relationship. Regardless of whether or not her or his intentions are benign (it sounds like his are from your description though), your reaction will only make things worse.

If she IS out to get him, then she now has a wedge to use against YOU in her conversations with him. If his intentions are less honorable then now he has a reason to be secretive about his interactions with her.

I understand your jealousy and how you feel, but you do have to trust your husband to do what you would expect him to do and it sounds like he has been REALLY open about his interactions with her which makes me pretty comfortable about his intentions.

Being married to you should not end his contact with the opposite sex, sure I get pangs of "what if" when I see my wife being friends with another man, but we are open with each other and I just ask for her to be more upfront about her interactions with other men than she would be with her girlfriends.

no your not over reacting, before i got married he wanted to invite his female friend i said no got slapped and a big fight. but we got marred and if you've read some of the things i have put on here you would know things haven't been going well at times. all they do is put a lot of insercurities in you and distrust

I would say your overreacting a little bit. Lets say that he didnt ask her to attend the function at the house, well if everyone at work is family then it would kind of be the same thing as talking to someone about the function with her standing right there. I would very much rather that its there infront of me than for them to go out after work or something with out me.

No. I would have reacted the same way if I were you.

Pardon me for being direct but your husband probably

1. Don't know how to behave properly as a husband, and what he should and should not do as a married man

2. There is something going on between him and this girl

3. He is bringing her home to test your reactions, and probably to pre-empt you of what is to come.

You should jolly well confront him now. He might or might not admit it, but at least put a big, red warning to him, that either he keeps his "girlfriend" or he keeps the marriage. This two cannot come hand in hand together.