relationship issues...?
can a man Learn how to take care of a woman's basic needs: food, water, shelter?
in the past 6 mo, i have had some very trying times w/ my bf. there have been some intense incidents where i've been scared and needed him to make me feel safe (i was scared a person who kept attending group functions in which he had spoken about being violent to women), and my bf got irritated cuz he thought we couldn't stop the guy from coming out.
i just needed him to say "ok, i'll try to watch out for you."
later on, i was at a camp for kids, helping out, and was extremely exhausted. he was also there, and when we were together i asked him to walk a bit slower because i was so exhausted. and he snapped at me saying he had to go eat cuz he was hungry.
all i needed was for him to say "come on, i'll walk with you. we should hurry so we can get there on time for dinner".
another time on a vacation w/ friends, we were all so physically exhausted and tired from lack of sleep. i said i was hungry, cold, and really tired from walking so much. he was too busy trying to sight see. finally i said i was hungry and he snapped again saying that there was no Time.
all i needed to hear was, "are u going to be ok? can u keep going, or we can get a snack somewhere"
he keeps telling me he wants to marry me and everytime i say we should break up, or take a break, he says no he doesn't want to, he loves me. but how can our thinking be SO different to the point that what i NEED is something he would never know to do?